Looking approachable

[Unsure]

So I am trying to work on looking more approachable because I hardly ever meet people because I simply can't walk up to a stranger and talk to them, but if they start the conversation I am fine, still shy but I can talk. I have heard that not crossing your arms and smiling and making eye contact helps but what else? Also I don't really go to parties or anything so the only place I can really meet people is work (and that hasn't been promising) or out at stores, coffee shops etc. And I feel like I am unapproachable at coffee shops cuz I read (otherwise I get bored and leave).

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

I'm not an expert on this because I find it extremely hard to talk to strangers, but I'd guess a change in attitude would help. Like, say you normally go into a situation and stay near the edge waiting for someone to talk to, then just leap right in and say something to people.

They're strangers, so if you mess up you never have to see them again, and if you get talking, you may find something in common and become friends.

In coffee shops I'd say start chatting while you're queuing. Just mention something, even something boring like the weather if you really can't think of anything, and then see what they say back. Like I said, if you mess up it doesn't matter, plus most people won't think badly of you just for trying to talk to you.

Good luck.

[Ambiance]

I would agree. I actually have this problem myself :s I think that the only way to fix it is to actually be more social with the people you do know, and meet new people through them (I feel much less awkward when I meet someone through people we both know).

[chook14]

I find it much easier to talk to people when I know I'll be seeing them again, so it's worth trying to start a friendship. I'm not good at just talking to strangers I see in a coffee shop. Maybe try starting activities where you could meet people who you'll see regularly. You could join a gym or social sports group, a volunteer group, a book club, or something like that! It's always easier to make conversation in those circumstances because you can talk about the activity you're doing or club you're a part of and it's not awkward! if you have regular customers at work just say something friendly to them each time, like ask them about their day or something, and you might be able to build a friendship good luck!