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Coping with anger - May 10th 2018, 07:11 PM

So I've noticed for quite some time that I've turned into quite an angry little human. I cope generally well under stress and people at work say I seem to keep a smile on and keep going even when I'm piled under, so I tend not to express my anger other than to friends when I rant. But inside my head is another story. I get so wound up by everything - rude passengers on the commute to and from work...delays, even if it's a couple of minutes, people who haven't done anything wrong or may have inconvenienced me slightly get so on my nerves. And when I have a lot to do at work it puts me in such a bad mood. Even though I do keep my cool on the outside, inside I'm fuming and it's really exhausting.

Today I've noticed I have come closer to snapping at strangers on my way home from work. I have worked myself up and find it difficult to calm down. It's a snow ball effect in that when one thing annoys me, every other minor inconvenience makes me angrier and I'm having to stop myself snapping.

How can I control the anger better? Does anyone have any tips on how to calm myself down internally?
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Re: Coping with anger - May 10th 2018, 07:55 PM

Hello Hollie,

I am so sorry that you are having a hard time right now and I hope you will be okay soon. Hugs.

When you have a lot going on and it is upsetting you and you are not talking about this with other people it can start to get to you and make you upset and angry and I'm sorry that's happening to you right now. When something happens to you or makes you upset or angry, you can take a few deep breaths and look around you and pick out five to six things that you see and focus on them and think about the colors and what they look like. You can look at them until you are feeling a little bit better. You can look at flowers, cars, buildings, people or anything else that you see.
Or you can try calling a family member or a friend that you can talk with and letting them know that you are having a hard time right now. Or going for a walk and putting on music to help you. I hope you will be okay soon. Lots of Hugs.


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