Really?

[TigerTank77]

So I get on Facebook this morning, only to discover my showed up in my "People You May Know." Which means she unblocked me, and had to look at my account sometime recently to have showed up.

I saw a picture of her two months ago, and she looked... well, she was enormous. Looked like she added on like 40+ pounds since we broke up. And to be honest, I laughed. I laughed my ass off.

Now... it looks like she's lost all the weight. And she... she looks really good to be honest.

And I'm sitting here, heart in my throat, almost in fucking shock.

I feel like I have fucking PTSD. On the one hand I'm attracted to her, l on the other, every few seconds I get a twinge of anger and despair.

Happy birthday to me, I guess.

[Brandon]

I was going through a similar situation with an ex-girlfriend a year or two ago. When it comes to triggers, Facebook is the last thing you need to be on because one minute you'll be browsing pictures and the next, you'll get a little curious. Before you know it...you'll be looking at her pictures thinking about how things could've been if you stayed together. What did I do? Instead of trying to ignore her (which, as you understand, is impossible because your ex girlfriend's profile is bound to come up at some point during Facebook visits)...maybe you need to disable your Facebook? You don't need to spray the ant, you need to send the ant to kill the colony. When I did it, I felt like I was defeated by my ex-girlfriend, but not accessing Facebook for a while can make a pretty big difference if you want it to. Take time off from your online social life...instead, play some Skyrim, maybe play basketball with some friends (providing it isn't super cold), etc.

To me, it's either disable your Facebook (which is a reasonable approach), or try and talk to her again and see why she unblocked you. It seems like you want to talk to her, and if it's a vulnerability issue, you need to get over that. The thing about women is that they always win, but that doesn't mean you always have to lose. When my ex girlfriend was toying around with me, I essentially told her to either take me seriously or leave me the hell alone...well, I ended up having no woman in my life but at least I set my foot down. I lost and won at the same time.

If you're not willing to talk, then you need to find a way to prevent any triggers from happening: you do that by physically preventing her profile popping up on your Facebook, or you make the decision to move on and say "you know what...I've been wasting a year of my life hoping that something will happen between us when I could've spent a year doing something else." I understand how you feel, but you can't try to let something like this slide and pretend that she didn't unblock you or anything. You're gonna be thinking about it a lot...you can either let it control you, or you can do something about it.