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Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 24th 2009, 08:50 PM

I came across this article and thought it illustrates really well why you should be extremely careful about who you trust on the Internet.

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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 24th 2009, 09:37 PM

Hi Rob!!

I hope you're having a super fine day.

THIS is WHY our schools need to be far more open and honest about the realities of living in this world. We can't keep dancing around issues just because they may seem 'inappropriate' OR continue to use the excuse that 'IT' is something that should be 'taught at home'. The Internet is an easy place to have a secret life. And predators - like that 19 year old blackmailer/pedophile - take full advantage of that. I feel SO sorry for those boys who felt - obviously - that it was better to have sex with that guy than it was to have their naked photos spread throughout their school. All of this ties in with my "Are YOU - legally speaking - a 'child pornographer' message thread. The RISKS are REAL. It's easy to tell ourselves that WE would never allow ourselves to be blackmailed into have sex with someone. But I'm sure of the DOZEN or so boys who did have sex with that guy - most of them would have said the same thing - at one time. FEAR can make anyone of us do all sorts of things that we THINK we would never do. This is why it's always best to play it safe - especially when it comes to something like that Internet - a 'place' that we have no control over. The moment we put something ON the 'net - it's 'out there' forever.

I just hope and pray that those boys will be able to forgive themselves.

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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 25th 2009, 05:48 AM

Okay that's just wrong.Those poor boys.

I do agree with you Rob, though, amazingly. We do need to be careful who we trust online, and that's an excellent, if horrific, example.


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 25th 2009, 10:49 PM

I definatly agree, everyone should be more careful who there talking to on the internet.

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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 12:41 AM

Can't really trust people of the internet.


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 12:53 AM

First thought - "why would you send naked pictures to somebody on facebook?"

Second thought - god, that's awful. For the boys that were abused and the abuser - he must have some serious problems. I hope he gets help.
   
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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 01:08 AM

Unfortunately it seems like the only way we can truly see how dangerous the internet is is through these kind of events that have happened to others. I think this really is a good example and encouragement to remain safe online.

At the same time I also think that it's not only the predator who is to blame for these kind of incidents, but also the victim. You should never let anyone encourage you to send explicit photos of yourself, and if people weren't willing to do so then there wouldn't be so many incidents like these taking place. People need to be educated on these kinds of things, and told to use precaution on the internet. They should also be taught what to do if someone is to blackmail as was what happened with this story. Having technology like the internet is great, but it's important everyone is taught the correct and safe way to use it.





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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 12:46 PM

I don't really understand why they sent the pictures in the first place /: I still feel bad for the victims


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 01:13 PM

I feel bad for them, obviously, but it was partly the victims faults. They didn't need to send the pictures. Oh, and why did it mention that the guy had been taking medication for depression? I fail to see how that had any effect on what he did.


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 02:35 PM

^ I was thinking the same. Depression doesn't make what he done acceptable at all.


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 07:38 PM

I don't think the boy said he had been taking anti-depressants, but was replying to the judge's question. All circumstances have to be taken into consideration I suppose.
   
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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 26th 2009, 10:49 PM

One of my rules about the net to let fight this is one I have NEVER posted any pictures and two if I don't GIVE something I don't asks for it.
   
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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 27th 2009, 03:28 AM

Wow....that's just not right for somebody to do that.


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 29th 2009, 02:55 PM

That's just so terrible. I feel really bad for the victims. Exactly why you need to be etremely careful what you post online. It's sad that it takes stories like this to remind us though.


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Re: Teenage boy blackmails classmates into having sex - why you should be careful online. - December 30th 2009, 10:48 PM

That story made me so sick to my stomach! Some people make me so sick!



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