Teenage Sex

[LostTeen011]

I just want to know from other teenagers' perspective their opposition on teens having sex. I, personally am not for teenagers having sex because as a teenager I do not believe you are emotionally or physically ready. And, sex for a teenager(esp. guys) is not often done for the same reasons older couples do it. Many girls get hurt terribly because they give up their V-card thinking a guy loves them, only to find out all he wanted was to get them into bed, or sex becomes a tool for the girl to manipulate the guy. That, aside from religious views, is why I don't agree with teen sex. Its too much too soon. Teenagers are not ready emotionally for that intimacy. We aren't completley matured, and we tend to be reckless and do stupid stuff. Wait to have sex until you can take care of a kid. Now in a Christian view, Sex was designed for marriage, and was not to be abused.

[Ceilidh]

I think sex is still considered too much of a taboo. We're animals, we're meant to have sex, it's normal. I DO think that you should be emotionally ready and responsible enough to use a damn condom/pill however.

[noise94]

I don't honestly care what other people do with their bodies. If two teenagers think they're ready to have sex, so be it. If it turns out to be a mistake, so what? People won't learn unless they make mistakes. I don't see a problem with it- not my business really.

[CrimsonTippedPetals]

Personally, EVERYONE matures at different rates, and emotionally/physically as well. We can't suddenly turn someones views on sex. And there are people out there that swear off sex after their first time till they believe they are ready again, till marriage or so on so forth.

And yes, Protection can be used safely if you are a teenager, and no one should bring up the excuse "Oh I forgot it, I can use the pull-out method".

Religiously, even people who are religious, they don't always follow the rules or set guidelines their church sets, or religion sets, or family sets.

We are humans, and we all have the choice to be making the decision.

Remember, this is ONLY an OPINION. xD Don't flame me please.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

I've moved this to Debates because I think it is better suited to this forum. And I'll post my opinion later, since I don't have time to do it right now.

[Acheron]

Admittedly I have a vested interest here (), but I think it's fine. No matter when people start having sex, they're going to make stupid mistakes. If you think that adults only ever have sex in mutually respectful and loving relationships, you're seriously naive. Sex is a prize and a weapon no matter your age. Older couples continue to force themselves to have sex even once the passion's gone out of the relationship, so they can maintain the pretence that they stay together out of love instead of out of comfort. Does that sound healthy to you?

In fact, a great thing about the age we live in is that the link between sex and child-rearing is a purely optional one. The availability of contraceptives and (whisper it) abortion means that there's no longer a pressing reason to wait for sex until you can take care of a kid. Combine that with increasing health (and therefore increasing hotness) and the ever-growing availability of pornography teaching people that their kinks are both fun and relatively normal, and teenage sex is looking like a better idea than it did at any point in human history. There's a far lower risk attached to early sex, and I suspect that the emotional risks are overblown by moralists such as yourself in order to scare people. Way to keep those unhealthy beliefs about sex going, guys.

Obviously people (and especially teens) should stay smart, use contraception, avoid sleeping with crazy people, and only fuck people they want to fuck when they want to fuck them (and only once they've hit sixteen or so, because before that they're all dumb as rocks). But assuming those guidelines are followed, go for it.

[Boobies]

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

And, sex for a teenager(esp. guys) is not often done for the same reasons older couples do it.

Wait, teenagers don't have sex for fun? O.o

Originally Posted by LostTeen

Many girls get hurt terribly because they give up their V-card thinking a guy loves them

These girls are stupid and need more self-control. They've only get themselves to blame for it.

Originally Posted by LostTeen

Teenagers are not ready emotionally for that intimacy.

Are we not? ALL animals are biologically programmed to start having sex as soon as their capable, generally your mentality follows the growing progress of your body. This would suggest that at least some are emotionally ready for this type in intimacy.

Originally Posted by LostTeen

Now in a Christian view, Sex was designed for marriage, and was not to be abused.

Sex predates Christianity by millions of years, I don't think they have the right to say what it is and isn't for. If this is what you want to believe then go ahead an believe it, but I don't think it's valid proof.

So, needless to say I don't really have a problem with teenage sex, it's going to happen, always will and always has. Teenagers used to get married at a young age and sex was part of that. It wasn't seen as wrong then either. It's only the past few hundred years that it's started to be frowned upon.
But seriously, as long as they're being safe they can knock themselves out having it for all I care, heck, even if they're passing on STD's I don't care, it's their fault. If they're stupid enough to have unprotected sex then it sucks to be them, this is of course assuming they've been properly educated.

[Pizza Slut]

Well most age of consent laws are 16/18 so even people who are above the age of consent are still teenagers...

Tbh, if two people (however old they are, within reason) feel they're ready to have sex and understand the concept and are both willing then I don't see a problem with it.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

That would be a yes. Sex in teenage relationships is normal and healthy and, in my view, an important learning process!

You're ignoring several categories of people. What about teenagers that are married and live with their husbands? Are they expected to not have sex until they turn 20 and suddenly mature overnight? And if not, what separates their relationship from any other teenage relationship other than a piece of paper?

My opinion is completely polar -- I don't think there is anything wrong with having sex for fun, as long as both parties know that this is just sex and nothing more. Not everyone can do that (myself included) but plenty of people enjoy it and are safe about it. You're only young once, why waste that?

[Soliloquy]

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

I just want to know from other teenagers' perspective their opposition on teens having sex. I, personally am not for teenagers having sex because as a teenager I do not believe you are emotionally or physically ready. And, sex for a teenager(esp. guys) is not often done for the same reasons older couples do it. Many girls get hurt terribly because they give up their V-card thinking a guy loves them, only to find out all he wanted was to get them into bed, or sex becomes a tool for the girl to manipulate the guy. That, aside from religious views, is why I don't agree with teen sex. Its too much too soon. Teenagers are not ready emotionally for that intimacy. We aren't completley matured, and we tend to be reckless and do stupid stuff. Wait to have sex until you can take care of a kid. Now in a Christian view, Sex was designed for marriage, and was not to be abused.

I agree with you completely. I don't believe teenagers are ready for sex because I think sex should be saved for committed, loving relationships. I personally am not sure teenagers are capable of feeling true, genuine love for another person romantically, as adolescence is a time to figure out who you are. How can you love a person in that way when do you not even know who you are or who you will turn out to be? How do you know if the person fits you if you don't know who she's fitting?

I see your body as a gift that is not meant to be thrown away blindly. Most people are not aware of the emotional responsibility that comes with sex and the feelings that it evokes.

Originally Posted by her_beautiful_mistake

You're ignoring several categories of people. What about teenagers that are married and live with their husbands? Are they expected to not have sex until they turn 20 and suddenly mature overnight? And if not, what separates their relationship from any other teenage relationship other than a piece of paper?

I personally don't believe that teenagers should be getting married in the first place. They are too young and not equipped to take on such a responsibility.

Originally Posted by her_beautiful_mistake

You're only young once, why waste that?

You're only young once. Why surrender your youth to unnecessary responsibilities?

[Skatergirl]

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

I just want to know from other teenagers' perspective their opposition on teens having sex. I, personally am not for teenagers having sex because as a teenager I do not believe you are emotionally or physically ready. And, sex for a teenager(esp. guys) is not often done for the same reasons older couples do it. Many girls get hurt terribly because they give up their V-card thinking a guy loves them, only to find out all he wanted was to get them into bed, or sex becomes a tool for the girl to manipulate the guy. That, aside from religious views, is why I don't agree with teen sex. Its too much too soon. Teenagers are not ready emotionally for that intimacy. We aren't completley matured, and we tend to be reckless and do stupid stuff. Wait to have sex until you can take care of a kid. Now in a Christian view, Sex was designed for marriage, and was not to be abused.

I agree with you. So many teen girls are getting pregnant and never even wanted to! Seriously think about that before you get into bed! Not after!
It's almost like they're having sex just to try and be cool and grown up. Even 11 and 12 year olds are doing it!! Like ugh...when I was 12, I never even liked guys in that way! To me they were still the annoying brats who teased me way too much. lol
I'm going to stop right here before I get too out of hand. It just annoys me that people are so blind sometimes.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

I, personally am not for teenagers having sex because as a teenager I do not believe you are emotionally or physically ready.

The argument that teenagers aren't fully matured so they shouldn't have sex isn't a good one at all. People mature at different rates, depending on what you mean by "mature" and how people become "mature". The biological argument is moot because people become mature for sex during their teen years. Mentally, it depends on what traits and the intensity of these traits are needed for maturity.

I don't see a great deal of harm in teenage sex as long as they're consenting and at the legal age (or near it), or the teens are roughly at the same age. There's a natural desire and it isn't harmful. The harm comes from what happens after the sex, such as pregnancy or psychological or physical traumas. But assuming it's consensual sex not involving any harmful acts, it shouldn't end up with physical injuries.

It's not a new fad that young teenage girls are getting pregnant or used for sex. Look through history and you'll find it's happened quite often. It's also happened for males teenagers throughout history. It seems that many people ignore this and sensationalize the teenage sex in recent years to make it have a greater impact. But are we forgetting the discoveries from science? There are birth control pills to be taken as well as condoms. If these are used they reduce the chances of pregnancy in all people regardless of age.

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

And, sex for a teenager(esp. guys) is not often done for the same reasons older couples do it.

This argument is based on comparing the reasons teenagers and "older couples" have sex. However, you haven't said the reasons for why older couples and male teenagers engage in sex, so there is no argument nor evidence to your claim making your conclusion be your claim. It becomes an unsupported statement that tears apart much of your stance. Also, "older" is ambiguous as to the age range you're targeting. This is all for consensual sex however there is also non-consensual sex which teenagers and "older" people do engage in, which you also haven't considered.

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

Many girls get hurt terribly because they give up their V-card thinking a guy loves them, only to find out all he wanted was to get them into bed, or sex becomes a tool for the girl to manipulate the guy.

Sex is used to manipulate people of various age groups, which accounts for some of the reasons for "older" couples. Already there is a similarity at play for the reasons albeit a vague reason. The above quote from you says this similarity shouldn't exist.

Originally Posted by LostTeen011

Now in a Christian view, Sex was designed for marriage, and was not to be abused.

The religious views are conflicted because from Christianity, it does promote sex with teenagers in certain cases only. For example, passages where people were ordered to plunder a village and take the women and children for themselves to be used for sex. On the other hand, other cases say to not have sex outside marriage. So the Christian perspective is conflicted because it gives evidence for supporting and refuting the issue of teenage sex.

[Detective Olivia Benson]

Sex has become so over commercialized in our societies. From the minute we can communicate, we are being exposed to sexual references. My friend and I were looking at some Youtube videos of old television cartoons and movies that we watched when we were kids, you'd be surprised with all of the sexual references that they are filled with.

Our society is becoming too--sexualized, I guess you can say. It's everywhere. In commercials, in movies, and even in children's cartons. Back in the old days, here we have something that was never even mentioned in every day conversation. Now it's nearly impossible to through a conversation with a teenager or young adult without it coming up. In college, sexual references come up 24/7. "That's what she said" is one of the most commonly used phrases.

Now, if you're around my parents' generation or older, and if you say, "That's what see said," they'll look at you funny, and heaven forbid you bring up something suggestive, they don't get it. That's because in their generation, they were brought up that you don't talk about those things. Your sexuality is your own business. High school students still had sex in the seventies and eighties, but they didn't talk about it as widely as we do today.

Now, if you look back at the 1500s and 1600s, we had 12 year olds having babies. It was 'normal' for a 12 year old to get married. "Teenage pregnancy" has been around forever, in fact, as I've established--back then it was the norm. As children became "older", I guess you can say, it was frowned upon. Think about the early 1900s. My grandma's mom (my great-grandmother) had her first child in 1918 at the age 17. She was still in high school. She had three children before the age 20, and her fourth and final was born shortly after she turned 20. Teenage pregnancy is definitely not something new, it was just more 'common' back in those days.

Have times really changed? The only thing that has changed is children today are nowhere as mature in the past. Children are selfish, inconsiderate, and it all goes back to the whole debate on "Kids today."

This doesn't answer your question, though. "Is it all right for teens to have sex?" Personally, for me, I don't see myself having sex before I turn twenty. (If that's where you cut off the 'teen'.) Most teenagers who have sex are not having sex for the right reasons. They are having sex out of lust, not love. Sex is the ultimate expression of love. And unless one is truly expressing themselves out of love, then sex is not right. Teenagers have sex for pleasure and 'fun' and 'for something to do.' Those are all the wrong reasons.

Personally, I think you should only have sex with someone who you truly love and can see yourself being with the rest of your life. And for the longest time, I thought that meant marriage; but nowadays I don't think it necessarily means marriage. There are a lot of reasons couples choose to have sex before they're married, one being to "test the waters," I guess you can say.

So, the bottom line goes down to: what is your definition of "teenager." A teenager in the early 1900s? Yes. But a teenager today? No. Unless they are extremely mature for their age.

[Silhouette]

I think that you do have to be ready, but some teenage relationships do have sex in their relationship and they work out okay.
It really depends on the people, but if they are careful and ready about it, then I think it is okay.
As stated above, we are meant to have sex and a long time ago kids aged 14+ were considered adults.

[Sythan]

My religion influences my "Yes" decision. Let me explain:

Within Paganism, sex and sexuality is encouraged. The Earth was created out of sex between the Goddess and God, thus came the Earth in all its beauty. There is no age limit for when sexual activity can occur, it is natural.

Sex is a form of the highest worship in Paganism because within her Charge, the Goddess stated "All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals."

That doesnt mean it shouldnt be respected. It was made for our use, so using it responsibly is EXTREMELY important.

[emma01]

Sex is such a natural thing but nowadays it seems to be such a bad thing. I am NOT having sex yet, nor do I plan to for at least a few years (im 16) because I don't feel ready for it! I dont think many people my age are mature enough to have sex, but there will be people out there younger than me who have had it and felt like they were ready. And I guess I can't really stop anyone who wants to do it. I do find it funny that when boys have sex, their mates congratulate them, but when girls have sex, they turn into the #1 gossip theme and everyone gets all bitchy and saying "you shouldn't do that you stupid girl"
I dont think one can put an age on it. But I dont think teens should be having sex, because sure they may be mature enough to have safe sex, and use protection...but are they ready to accept the consequences of a possible pregnancy? And no this doesn't mean that the day they turn 20 they are mature enough to have safe sex and are able to have a baby...because no one can mature overnight, i know that...but still, I believe that most people start becoming ready to have a family from about 20 onwards, as they have had one or two years at college/university, and have a feel of what it is like to be living alone and have more of an idea of what owning a house/renting a flat costs these days, they have an idea of what its like to have to work many hours to earn enough money, which means having a kid would make it difficult.

I know I am going off topic by talking about pregnancy, but really, the condom can break, and most common contraceptive methods aren't 100% protective...so sure, a 15 year old may be able to have sex, but I dont think is ready to possibly have kids.

[Sythan]

Originally Posted by emma01

Sex is such a natural thing but nowadays it seems to be such a bad thing. I am NOT having sex yet, nor do I plan to for at least a few years (im 16) because I don't feel ready for it! I dont think many people my age are mature enough to have sex, but there will be people out there younger than me who have had it and felt like they were ready. And I guess I can't really stop anyone who wants to do it. I do find it funny that when boys have sex, their mates congratulate them, but when girls have sex, they turn into the #1 gossip theme and everyone gets all bitchy and saying "you shouldn't do that you stupid girl"
I dont think one can put an age on it. But I dont think teens should be having sex, because sure they may be mature enough to have safe sex, and use protection...but are they ready to accept the consequences of a possible pregnancy? And no this doesn't mean that the day they turn 20 they are mature enough to have safe sex and are able to have a baby...because no one can mature overnight, i know that...but still, I believe that most people start becoming ready to have a family from about 20 onwards, as they have had one or two years at college/university, and have a feel of what it is like to be living alone and have more of an idea of what owning a house/renting a flat costs these days, they have an idea of what its like to have to work many hours to earn enough money, which means having a kid would make it difficult.

I know I am going off topic by talking about pregnancy, but really, the condom can break, and most common contraceptive methods aren't 100% protective...so sure, a 15 year old may be able to have sex, but I dont think is ready to possibly have kids.

Spoken like a true Kiwi

[emma01]

Originally Posted by Sythan

Spoken like a true Kiwi

Sorry but is that a good thing or a bad thing?

[Sythan]

Originally Posted by emma01

Sorry but is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Thats a Good thing, every Kiwi ive met is very outspoken and always has great knowledge.

[emma01]

Originally Posted by Sythan

Thats a Good thing, every Kiwi ive met is very outspoken and always has great knowledge.

Oh Well thanks, but i dont think im that knowledgable :P Hehe thankyou anyway!

[Loving Linux Penguin]

I'm in-between. If both people are ready and are being very careful about what they do and how they do it, then it's fine. But if they're just a couple of uneducated kids monkeying around, that's not cool.

[losing touch.]

i voted yes, BUT.. my opinion is more along the lines of; i think it's fine for teens who are ready and taking precautions to have sex. i'm not saying i would openly encourage 13/14 year olds to have sex.. but it happens and i wouldn't judge people for their choices.

[Brandon]

I'm almost an advocate of sex and masturbation, in general, so teenage sex is not an exception. Sit back and relax, and I'll discuss the many reasons why I support teenage sex:

1. I don't want to start a religious debate, but I will say that religion isn't based on modern ideals. It's very old school, and will continue to be old school as long as society continues to change. I really do think that as long as society continues to change, the more loosely-interpreted the Bible (maybe not the other Holy books considering I haven't read them all) is. From my observation, there are countless number of "devoted Christians" who have engaged in premarital sex. All they do is pray and hope that their sin will be forgiven. If God created us with original sin, and Jesus sacrificed his life for our sins, then you can bet your ass I'm going to have premarital sex. Otherwise, why try to live my life preventing sinful acts (which, if someone TRULY follows the Bible, then preventing sin would be a LOT more complicated than that), when I can commit the sin that Jesus died for? I wouldn't want Jesus to die for nothing. So I think that religion should be left out of sex and marriage. It's so loosely-interpreted that there's a lot of conflicting views on certain subjects and it makes me question whether we really have ANY idea on what the truth is. Our bodies were built for procreation, so I disagree that sex is for marriage. No, sex is for procreation between a legally married couple.

2. For men AND women, it's a biological desire -- we all have sexual desire. It's in nature, therefore we can't change it, but we can control it. Back then, women were getting married at what...14? I don't know what it is now but I'm pretty sure that the average age for marriage is at LEAST 18+. I started having sexual desires when I turned 8-10 years old. I'm not going to wait another 10 or so years to satisfy a biological desire when I'm presented an opportunity. And even then, I'm never guaranteed that I'm going to get married. So if there's no guarantee and I have the opportunity, I'm going to seize that opportunity. If it's against God to have premarital sex, then I'd be willing to take that risk and repent my sins to hope that they'd be forgiven. If a man is stranded on a small island, I'm not going to assume that another ship is going to pass by and save him, I'm going to save him because the opportunity is there and I'd feel better about myself.

3. Sex is very healthy for you in practically everything about yourself.

- It's good physically because it's exercise. It's actually a great exercise because it works out all parts of your body. So there's potential to burn calories while getting a good form of exercise. With your mind preoccupied, you practically don't think about it being an exercise. It's like running without even being aware that you're running -- that's how awesome it is physically.

It's good for you mentally because orgasm (which men obviously achieve more than women do) pumps endorphins in your mind and body that helps you relieve stress. Sex is like smoking cigarettes without the increased risk of developing lung cancer. It's even suggested that sex decreases the chance of prostate cancer. So you burn calories, you relieve stress, and...what am I missing?

Oh yeah! It feels good...we all like doing things that makes us feel good. So unless you have sex with someone with STD's, then there's really no reason why you shouldn't have sex. Like driving a car, you're expected to be mature. If you don't want to get pregnant, you take birth control and wear condoms. There's still risk of pregnancy, but there's risk in everything we do -- so if we're supposed to not have sex to avoid pregnancy, then we also SOMEHOW have to do something that avoids any risk at all (which is almost impossible, IF NOT impossible).

So I give a big "HELL YEAH" it's okay for teenagers to have sex. In fact, Brandon recommends it. Life is full of regrets, but we learn through our mistakes because it helps build our character. We aren't perfect, no one is, so teenage sex is definitely worth the risk as long as you're mature about it. It's almost 2011. A lot of things have changed.

[thebigmole]

I'm for no and I'll explain why. With high school and everything else we have to go through as teenagers do we really want to throw sex into all of that. I personally always saw it as a distraction in high school. All of the people I knew who were doing it had problems because of it at some time or another. Why add that into the stress you've already got as a teenager?

[Dream]

I think that teenagers can be ready for sex emotionally and otherwise if they are clear to themselves and other person about why they are doing it and what the consequences of their reasons are. This will probably happen in later teens, but I don't see a reason for putting an arbitrary age on when someone should or shouldn't have sex.

I do think it is good to wait though. I didn't have my first until 20, and having done that I would be fine with waiting longer.

It would be advisable for most people to wait, but do you really think they will listen?

[Maloo]

I don't have a problem with teenagers having sex as long as they're at LEAST 16.

Hearing kids younger than that talking about having sex just absolutely disgusts me and makes me want to vomit.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

I personally feel that most young teens 13-16 or 17 are FAR from ready for sex. They must keep in mind you can not get it back.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Originally Posted by Eblouie

You're only young once. Why surrender your youth to unnecessary responsibilities?

Erm, what responsibility exactly does sex give you? If all parties involved just see it as fun, then it's just fun -- no responsibility.

Babies are taken out of the equation by contraception and, well to be frank, abortion.

Plenty.. if not most.. older teenagers (A level/University age) in the UK seem to have a view that sex is fun. If that is their opinion and they're safe well rave on in my view! Whether that be just casually or in a relationship.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Originally Posted by I love dogs

I personally feel that most young teens 13-16 or 17 are FAR from ready for sex. They must keep in mind you can not get it back.

In your view, what things have to be demonstrated by the individual to be ready for sex? Biologically, teens 13-17 are ready but there is a lot of variation with the psychological abilities in that age group.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by WOW!USaidSomethingSmart!

In your view, what things have to be demonstrated by the individual to be ready for sex? Biologically, teens 13-17 are ready but there is a lot of variation with the psychological abilities in that age group.

You should be able to realize that even if you regret it you can not change it and be ready to accept those deep scars.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Originally Posted by I love dogs

You should be able to realize that even if you regret it you can not change it and be ready to accept those deep scars.

Do you think that that changes once you reach 20? Or that it can't happen after you've had multiple sexual partners already?

[Awakening]

I put yes but im kind of in between. Not all teens are ready to have sex. I think way to many people rush into it. Sex should be saved for being in a commited relationship and being in love.

If your in love and in a commited relationship then it's up to you wether or not you think your ready to have sex.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by her_beautiful_mistake

Do you think that that changes once you reach 20? Or that it can't happen after you've had multiple sexual partners already?

I know it does not change, but it said teenage sex. By the way even if a girl is with child and has an abortion many times that too will leave scars.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Originally Posted by I love dogs

I know it does not change, but it said teenage sex. By the way even if a girl girl is with child and has an abortion many times that too will leave scars.

So when do you think that age is? Do you think there is a fixed age at which you suddenly get that deep understanding or connection, etc? Because if you don't think there is a fixed age, the alternative really is that the age is variable depending on the individual... and that range would include teenagers.

Lets be realistic here, teenage girls that have multiple abortions are in the vast minority of teenage girls having sex and so don't really need to be factored into the overall opinion of teenage sex.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by her_beautiful_mistake

So when do you think that age is? Do you think there is a fixed age at which you suddenly get that deep understanding or connection, etc? Because if you don't think there is a fixed age, the alternative really is that the age is variable depending on the individual... and that range would include teenagers.

Lets be realistic here, teenage girls that have multiple abortions are in the vast minority of teenage girls having sex and so don't really need to be factored into the overall opinion of teenage sex.

There is no fixed age, no but young teens those 13-15 are rarely ready that is just a fact. I mean they are still trying to figure themselves out.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Originally Posted by I love dogs

You should be able to realize that even if you regret it you can not change it and be ready to accept those deep scars.

Sex is displayed throughout media quite a bit and kids 13 years old know about abortion as well as that sex can to pregnancies. So by that view, 13 year olds are ready mentally to have sex.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by WOW!USaidSomethingSmart!

Sex is displayed throughout media quite a bit and kids 13 years old know about abortion as well as that sex can to pregnancies. So by that view, 13 year olds are ready mentally to have sex.

But I am not talking about just knowing it I can KNOW something and not be prepared to accept it should it happen.

[off to a new life]

I don't think there is anything wrong with emotionally healthy teens in healthy relationships having sex.

[Kyeto-X]

I personally have a moderate view of sexuality.

First, I agree that sex is far too taboo of a subject. Everyone does it, you are a freaking byproduct of it...get use to it!! Teenagers have a sex drive too and to deny them of using it because they are too young for the responsibilities is like telling someone they are too young to use the bathroom and handing them a diaper to wear. Society has changes, biology hasn't. The term and even the IDEA of teenagers only came about at turn of the 20th century. Before that, their was no concept of the time in between adulthood and childhood. You just switched one day. Now we have adolescents which is kind of a mediating time of life between the two extremes.

Another issue is that with extended lifespan and more education and finical backing needed to provide for one's family, people are getting married later and later into the mid and late 20's. This is ok, except for the fact that the sex drive is still turning on at 14-16 and we are told to stuff it into a box and not play with it EVER!!! Lest your penis will fall off and and and and AIDS and and and and Angels will cry andandand bad stuffs!!! This leads to kids growing up with a really sick and twisted view of sex so that when they DO get married and the chastity belt is removed, they have no idea how to use their sex drive besides burying it and being afraid of it. So we raise our kids to save sex until marriage and when they get married, they are so afraid of sex that they still don't have it...Virgins for life!!

However, I also agree that too much sex with alot of partners is bad and not how sex was designed to be. With this attitude, you end up ripping apart the well documented connection and bonding experience of sex. I personally belief that this is more of the "gift of sex" rather then the simple orgasm. If you are chasing after orgasms, here is a Hustler and a box of tissue. It feels about the same physically. It's the mental aspect of SHARING this with someone you LOVE that makes sex so amazing and coveted. I do not believe in flippant casual sex with whoever you can lay.

I believe that parents of teenagers should raise their kids to be responsible with sex. Not only knowing what goes where but how to say no (To a significant other and a casual acquaintance) , when you should say no (When you don't feel ready or comfortable, when you don't feel like you could spent a lifetime with this person, you KNOW this person), and what should be in place when you do say yes (one or more forms or trusted contraceptives, safe, private place to have sex, Loving trusting monogamous relationship, someone who was willing to wait for you).

In short, Yes, but with exceptions and rules.

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Originally Posted by I love dogs

There is no fixed age, no but young teens those 13-15 are rarely ready that is just a fact. I mean they are still trying to figure themselves out.

It's not a fact. It's your opinion

And teenage spans all the way up to 19.