Talking about sex!

[Kyeto-X]

http://wiselunitic13.blog.com/?p=39


Yes, this is from my blog. But i thought it would be an interesting topic for teenhelp.

How do you feel about the taboo placed about the topic of sex and sexuality? What actions do you think should or should not be placed on it. And also, what do you think would be a good age to start discussing sex with children?

[Revolution]

How do you feel about the taboo placed about the topic of sex and sexuality?
It's stupid. Sex happens, it makes life, it's fun, you know, yay sex. I talk about sex a lot, I have done a lot of volunteer work with sexual violence prevention and with sexual wellness, and when you mentions something about it to people they get this look on their face or start giggling. It's pretty odd for me. It's very American too, people in other counties (correct me if I'm wrong non-Americans) are a bit more chill about it. Like, nudity is more on television, and it's just not as prude. Even with "badass mtv" and all we get preached at about our generation being dirty, we're a very puritan based culture, and it's something people don't want to talk about. However, this causes miseducation. Which causes pregnancy, STIs, and people getting hurt.

What actions do you think should or should not be placed on it?
Sex education needs to get more funded and not just absteinance only crap. Guess what world? Teenagers have sex. I know, it's shocking, but they do, so why don't we stop avoiding the subject and start teaching people how to not ruin their lives? I mean, obviously, there are places you shouldn't talk about sex. Math class, for one, may not be the best time. And church, you know, if you're the church person, that's usually not a good time to talk about your oral experience yesterday. But generally, we need to stop thinking about sex as "dirty" and more just natural, and be more open t talk about it so when you get a rash on your penis or in your vulva you don't call the doctor like "Um...it hurts...down there." And so when you read the word penis or vulva in a response you don't cringe. How many of you cringed? I hope not. I'm talking medically. That isn't "dirty." A lot of it is about religion. But, US anyway, is a secular country? In theory, we should feel more comfortable.

And also, what do you think would be a good age to start discussing sex with children?
Honestly, I love when my parents talked to me about sex, I was about six or seven. The first time, they told me that babies come from mommy's tummies. They didn't get into detail, obviously, I wouldn't understand. Then, when I was about eight, they went over more details, and when I was ten or eleven my mom talked to my sister and I about the different birth controls. What people think happens when you talk to your kid about sex: They go off and have crazy sex. What actually happened to me: I waited until I was 17 to lose my virginity to somebody I had been dating two and a half years. I know. I went crazy.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Kyeto-X

http://wiselunitic13.blog.com/?p=39


Yes, this is from my blog. But i thought it would be an interesting topic for teenhelp.

How do you feel about the taboo placed about the topic of sex and sexuality? What actions do you think should or should not be placed on it. And also, what do you think would be a good age to start discussing sex with children?

Since I'm 14 there are only three areas of my life where the topic of talking about sex applies: at home, at school, and among my friends. I consider myself very lucky to have been raised in a family where the subject has never been taboo. Also lucky that my close friends are very comfortable with the subject amongst us. And at school, it's the clinical version. But it's openly talked about.

My friends and I don't have a great deal of actual intercourse experience, but we're all in various stages of sex activities. Truthfully our main activity is masturbation, and we have no problem talking about it. We never have. A couple of us came from homes where dudes masturbating was not some nasty gross thing little boys should never get "caught" doing. The two or three of us that came from homes that treated it as something bad, or didn't discuss it at all, have become totally open with the rest of us because of the comfort level. We talk about our various adventures with girls and we share information. I researched a thread topic on TH this weekend and shared and discussed the topic and my results with 6 of my buds.

My recent personal experience proves that having an open environment to discuss sex will not guarantee a kid won't still ignore some warning or prohibition and end up in some trouble. I'm learning the hard way that there's more to sex than the act itself. But I don't have guilt and discomfort about myself, my hormone rages, or whatever ON top of all the consequences of a bad decision.

The age at when kids should be talked to I think depends on the kid and the situation. My Dad had my first "the talk" with me when I was 8. He found me on the living room couch butt naked and playing with my pee-pee. That was the first time I heard from him, " it's your body, nothing wrong with it, all men do or will, BUT YOU DO THIS IN PRIVATE". He has honored that privacy ever since and always apologizes for "interrupting" me if he walks in on me. I never feel like I've been "caught" . I can't count the number of talks we've had since then to fill in the blanks. Might be a couple mins might be a couple hours, but I'm used to being able to ask him anything.

Enjoyed the blog entry .

[JKmadu619]

Sex is a taboo in my house. Closest discussion regarding it is: "You're getting to the age where some people are watching porn. Please good God be careful around your mother." as a direct quote from my dad...

But I know before I had this whole puberty thing sorted out it was really confusing. You start having these new bodily functions and suddenly these feelings you've never had before. It was scary as hell not knowing what was going on, and how was I to know? No one told me. In retrospect I really wish someone had talked to me.

Even know, the whole idea of sex is pretty unfamilair to me. I'm not really able to formulate opinions on ideas like causual sex or sex before marriage because I don't know enough about it because I haven't had the chance to share ideas about it.

When I have kids I do hope it will be something of an open topic so they won't have the issue of having to figure all these things out with no help. Not only that but it creates self-doubt because it's hard to become interested in a subject that is obviously never spoken about within your household.

- Justin

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by JKmadu619

Sex is a taboo in my house. Closest discussion regarding it is: "You're getting to the age where some people are watching porn. Please good God be careful around your mother." as a direct quote from my dad...

But I know before I had this whole puberty thing sorted out it was really confusing. You start having these new bodily functions and suddenly these feelings you've never had before. It was scary as hell not knowing what was going on, and how was I to know? No one told me. In retrospect I really wish someone had talked to me.

Even know, the whole idea of sex is pretty unfamilair to me. I'm not really able to formulate opinions on ideas like causual sex or sex before marriage because I don't know enough about it because I haven't had the chance to share ideas about it.

When I have kids I do hope it will be something of an open topic so they won't have the issue of having to figure all these things out with no help. Not only that but it creates self-doubt because it's hard to become interested in a subject that is obviously never spoken about within your household.

- Justin

Great post dude...I hope you've got some friends to talk to about this stuff. And there's always TH. Dude, the fact that its mostly girls on here and theres a whole lot of them who are young adults, means there is a ton of information about sex, and relationships, the problems of sex too early, or for the wrong reason, or with the wrong person. I find answers to questions I didn't even know I had. And from the females point of view...cool sh*t.

"Please good God be careful around your mother". . Funniest line I've seen on here in a while. How many dudes dad must have said this, or something like it to them. Priceless