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Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 2nd 2013, 03:10 AM

My grandmother's dog recently died. We don't know how he died but he was extremely sick the day before he died. The vets thought he was going to be okay. They were wrong. Well, he died the next morning in my grandmother's room and my dad and I buried him in the backyard. Ever since then, every time I mowed the grass in the backyard I would walk to his grave and say a few words in my head.

Today I mowed the grass and I went by the grave to apologize for a few things and that I hope he's up in Heaven with my grandmother's previous dog (that was just like him but he died getting ran over by a truck). As some people may know, I'm an Agnostic Theist so I'm not sure there's a Heaven.

The grave is next to a neighbor's fence and I thought of the possibility that one of their children would come out and see what I was doing (since children are naturally curious).

If the child asked me what I was doing, I'd probably respond with the truth and tell him/her that I'm just visiting a pet grave. He/she might ask "what's a grave?" and you respond with "a place where humans and animals rest after they die." But then the child responds "what do they do after they die?" We know that's a question about the after-life that we don't really understand but to a child it's a really valid question. The question is...what would you say? What if the mother/father of that child is standing from a distance but able to hear the conversation?
   
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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 2nd 2013, 03:14 AM

Oh jeeze, that's a tough one. If I knew what their parents believed in, I suppose i'd just go along with it. If I didn't I would probably just tell them to ask their parents and make up an excuse to leave.
   
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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 2nd 2013, 04:01 AM

Kids are fun, eh?
I would probably just turn it back into a question for them. "Well what do you think happens?" Then entertain whatever they've been taught for a few minutes to get you out of a nearly very awkward situation. Either that, or just direct them to having a conversation with their parents.
   
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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 2nd 2013, 07:07 AM

I agree with the person above. I'd ask what they think. But after they shared their thoughts, I'd say that I think they go to a place called Heaven. I'd probably give a brief description of Heaven, but not a lot, as I wouldn't want to shove my religious thoughts down his throat. If he asked who was really right or something, I'd probably say, "Nobody really knows for sure. I believe in Heaven because the Bible says there's a Heaven. But lots of people are different." If he pushed on, the parents (if they were anything like MY neighbors) would give me a 'I hate you you insignificant piece of crap, ddon't make eye contact with my kid' smile, and call their kid in Spanish to go clean his room.
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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 3rd 2013, 12:08 AM

If the child was little, I would lie. There is no reason to upset a kid about a dead dog if you don't have to. Just say you are getting fresh air or something. If the kid was older and old enough to have a sense of what death is, then perhaps let them know. Otherwise, I would just keep that to myself. Talking about a dead pet would probably just make them cry or confuse them. It's best to leave that to the parents.




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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 3rd 2013, 12:15 AM

I would probably say, "I don't know." Or, "Whatever they were doing before they were born."


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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 3rd 2013, 11:16 PM

I would never tell a child I was visiting a pet grave. Children get attached to their pets and they're sad when animals in general die. I wouldn't want to upset them and risk an ear bending from their parents so I would gently ask them to return to their parents because I'm having some time alone. If they asked why, I would respond that sometimes it's good to be alone. Later when I manage to catch the child's parent(s) alone I would privately let them know their child came to ask me why I was outside and I didn't want to tell them I was visiting my pet's grave.


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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 4th 2013, 04:30 AM

I don't understand why people are hesitant to tell children the truth. A child SHOULD understand the concept of death and begin to cope with it at a young age. Otherwise, when reality strikes, it will be much harder for them. It's actually been shown that a good reason to have pets is to get kids accustomed to coping with death.


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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 4th 2013, 03:29 PM

Honestly, I would just tell them that lots of people think lots of different things, and it is up to the child to decide which they think is right. and if they asked what the different things are I'd just either give a few of the basics (life after death, reincarnation, that kinda thing) but ultimately I'd probably just tell them to ask their parents if their curious, really it depends on my relationship with the family.

I defiantly wouldn't be all preachy or try to force my beliefs on them, since beliefs are personal to the one who holds them.


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Re: Here's a fun hypothetical situation... - August 4th 2013, 03:34 PM

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I don't understand why people are hesitant to tell children the truth. A child SHOULD understand the concept of death and begin to cope with it at a young age. Otherwise, when reality strikes, it will be much harder for them. It's actually been shown that a good reason to have pets is to get kids accustomed to coping with death.
I agree that children should learn that death is a part of the life cycle and is natural. But I feel like this should be taught from the parents, not from a stranger or someone they barely know. If the stranger brings up the topic of a dead pet and the child doesn't know or understand death yet, it could be really upsetting. So I think it's just best avoided.

My response would be different if its my own child.




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