TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Religion and Spirituality, Science and Philosophy Use this forum to discuss what you believe in. This is a place where everyone may share their views freely.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Melon Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
Melon's Avatar
 
Gender: Male

Posts: 14
Join Date: December 31st 2012

Exclamation Minutes ago, my parents discovered I'm agnostic/atheist - December 10th 2013, 10:53 PM

<thread title> My mothers reaction was quite violent. Upon finding my Atheism bookmarks folder, she called me upstairs and raised her voice about how she believes in God. My parents are Christian, my mom more than my dad. I love them but I'm a bit scared. I retreated into the basement to type this.

Does anyone have any techniques/suggestions for damage control?

What should I do if the Reaction becomes worse than yelling?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Saoirse Offline
Blind Saint
Average Joe
***
 
Saoirse's Avatar
 
Name: Connor
Age: 23
Gender: Boy Boy Boy
Location: Kansas, United States of America

Posts: 150
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: June 25th 2013

Re: Minutes ago, my parents discovered I'm agnostic/atheist - December 10th 2013, 11:11 PM

I unfortunately don't know how to tell you how you should handle this, but if you need a person to talk to, I'm here. I have Christian beliefs, but I also believe that everyone should believe what they want without interference from anyone.

Again, need a friend? I'm here.


_______________________________________________


Cura Personalis


_______________________________________________

Social Networking Team since September 2013 | Articles Team since February 2014
Visually Impaired/Blind Specialist
Assistive Technology Helper
General Technology Helper
  Send a message via Skype™ to Saoirse 
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
Age of Ignorance's Avatar
 
Name: Mitch
Age: 26
Gender: Male
Location: Melbourne, Australia

Posts: 1,391
Blog Entries: 31
Join Date: February 3rd 2009

Re: Minutes ago, my parents discovered I'm agnostic/atheist - December 11th 2013, 03:48 AM

Firstly, good on you for experiencing spirituality on your own terms and not succumbing to dictatorial parents. Your beliefs are for you to hold and no one should ever impress upon you any other system of beliefs simply because they hold those beliefs and you do not. There are merits to all systems, but only you can decide what you believe in.

Secondly, let it blow over. Parents are prone to experiencing certain emotions upon learning that their children are doing or saying something that goes against their values. Ultimately, they come to accept the lifestyle you choose for yourself. They may be reluctant for a while, but every parent inevitably discovers that their children will one day come out of childhood and become an individual. The important thing for you to do is not to antagonise them, and to simply show that your beliefs do not change or determine the values you hold and the characteristics you exhibit. That should make it easier on them.


Because in the end, it doesn't even matter.
   
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
Corrupted Offline
528491
Average Joe
***
 
Corrupted's Avatar
 
Name: Jake
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Location: California

Posts: 174
Blog Entries: 2
Join Date: June 30th 2013

Re: Minutes ago, my parents discovered I'm agnostic/atheist - December 11th 2013, 05:28 AM

Believe in what you want to believe in. My parents never forcefully instilled religious values on me. My best friend that I've known for 6 years has had this happen to him before (his mom and his grandparents on that side of the family are Catholic), and it blew over after a while. Although your parents might not be happy with you right now, I'm almost sure that this will blow over sometime in the next week. They will eventually accept you as who you are. After all, it should be your choice in what you want to believe in, not theirs.




"Structure is the enemy of progressive thought."
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
ThisWillDestroyYou's Avatar
 
Name: Michael
Gender: Male
Location: USA

Posts: 1,050
Join Date: July 5th 2011

Re: Minutes ago, my parents discovered I'm agnostic/atheist - December 11th 2013, 08:36 PM

Just be agreeable. You don't need to expose your dissent any further than they've discovered. If they discovered an atheistic folder, that doesn't necessarily make you an atheist. You could say you were just reading about it to understand the viewpoint.


"For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love."
- Carl Sagan
   
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
DanTheMan :P Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
DanTheMan :P's Avatar
 
Name: Dan
Age: 22
Gender: Male
Location: Essex -.-, UK

Posts: 103
Blog Entries: 38
Join Date: October 14th 2013

Re: Minutes ago, my parents discovered I'm agnostic/atheist - December 12th 2013, 07:15 PM

I would just say to them that you cannot force someone to believe in something. If you dont believe there is some sort of higher entity, then your parents can scream at you all they like, or won't change your mind. In fact, it will likely turn you against Christianity more
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
agnostic or atheist, ago, atheism, christian, discovered, family, minutes, parents

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2018, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.