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Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 17th 2015, 08:47 PM

My boyfriend & I are having quite the heated debate about this. From a Christian standpoint, the bible says that wives must respect their husbands & husbands are to love their wives. Does that mean husbands can't respect their wives & wives have to let their husbands make all the decisions? My boyfriend has interpreted this to mean he does not have to respect me, although he has to treat me with respect. I am aware of the difference & it is extremely bothersome to me that Christianity would put women below men in this instance. I deserve just as much respect as my boyfriend does, the only difference is I'm a girl.

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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 17th 2015, 11:20 PM

I don't really know how to answer this, but the Bible says to love your neighbor as yourself. He should treat you as he wants to be treated.


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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 12:21 AM

I am not aware of the difference, so if you could explain I would appreciate it.

As a married woman myself I think mutual respect is required of a healthy loving marriage. A man can not truly love a woman without respecting her, in my personal opinion.




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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 12:34 AM

The difference is that he will treat me well but never fully respect me on an equal level because I'm a woman.



   
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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 12:42 AM

That's just wrong. ANY couple, regardless of gender, should be treated with respect and care. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.


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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 12:51 AM

You would think that is common sense but apparently because the "bible doesn't say to respect your wife", he won't respect me. He has treated me well up until recently so it's not like he doesn't respect me in that way. But it bothers the heck out of me that I'm not respected because I'm a woman. I've never had this issue with any guy I've dated. Just wanted opinions from Christians since I was not raised that way so I'm not very traditional.



   
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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 01:32 AM

You could turn this around on him and say it doesn't say you have to love him, just respect him. Really though it should be a given that he should respect you even if the bible doesn't explicitly say so. I mean it doesn't say he shouldn't respect you either? I understand why people live by the bible, but obviously it's not going to have all the tiny details of what you should do in your life, those should be common sense. It's probably best to drop this argument and trust that he does respect you, as Lizzie said, respect has to be there in order for love to be as well.


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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 01:45 AM

Ephesians 5:28


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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 05:40 AM

Ew.

I don't think love is possible without respect, to me it is a necessary attribute of love. Women are no longer property being sold in exchange for three cows...I feel it's pretty backwards to consider us less human than a man to not deserve to be respected. That's old fashioned in all the wrong ways.


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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 18th 2015, 02:29 PM

I'd recommend you use common sense. Or...
Love your wife but treat her like a lower life form, and see how far that gets you. :P


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Re: Can/Should Husbands Respect Their Wives? - August 31st 2015, 07:49 PM

Three points I'd raise in respect of this (admittedly a bit late to the party, but what the heck):

1) Paul's letters were all directed towards a particular congregation, at a particular point in time, for a particular reason (e.g. in the case of Corinth, because it was going to Hell in a handcart...). In the case of Ephesus, it was probably mentioned by Paul because (a) husbands weren't loving their wives as they should and (b) wives weren't respecting their husbands. Expanding that into all-encompassing doctrine is therefore quite a leap of logic, and not really supported by the wider canon of the Bible.

2) What difference is there between "respecting someone" and "treating someone with respect"? If you don't respect someone in the first place, it is rather difficult to treat them with respect. One rather begets the other. Likewise, loving someone requires that you respect them so by definition respecting your wife has to be part and parcel of the equation. So to me this seems a bit of an exercise in semantics.

3) Seriously, what happened to using common sense?


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