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What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 8th 2012, 04:24 AM

What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you in school/workplace?
More likely, checking you out. The thing is, they do it alot and try to do it secretly.
How do you feel?
I'd personally feel nervous and prefer it they stop. (in the nicest way possible)
and I might try to look a tad nice and sit straight, but look the other way so they only see the back of my head or side of my face.
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 8th 2012, 04:42 AM

I generally have the same reaction. I don't like the feeling of being watched - it really creeps me out! If I can't leave the room or make the person who is staring at me stop (as you said, in the nicest way possible), then I usually try to ignore it. If this doesn't help any and I am genuinely creeped out by this person, then I may tell someone or ask for advice on what to do. Usually, though, I am in a position where I can simply leave the room if the person continues to watch me.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 8th 2012, 04:45 AM

My scenario is if I am at a department seminar and I see people staring at me.

if it's a guy
I think: he must be attracted to me
if I think he's cute: I smile, teeth and all (and I feel special)
if I think he's a creep: I try to ignore him and not look at him at all (I feel disgusted)

If it's a girl staring at me: I try to ignore her and not look at her at all (I feel like she's a b**ch. backstabbing b**ch. whether I know her or not. She's staring at me so she might be talking crap about me later, she must be a b**ch)

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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 8th 2012, 05:19 AM

For creepy staring, I ignore it. If it's continuous, I will speak up. I shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable because someone is weird.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 8th 2012, 05:42 AM

Do I have something on my face? Or on my shirt? Is my fly unzipped? Ohmygod, my hair, it must be fixed! Stop looking at MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 8th 2012, 05:52 AM

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Do I have something on my face? Or on my shirt? Is my fly unzipped? Ohmygod, my hair, it must be fixed! Stop looking at MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!
I actually WANT to stare at a person but I won't if they think anything.

And yea that is exactly why I get nervous, cause I have some bad spots and angles, but I don't mind the idea.
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 9th 2012, 05:16 PM

If someone looked at me in a creepy way then I would start to feel uncomfortable, and not meet their eye.

But if someone looked at me as if they liked me (in a non-creepy way), and I thought they were cute... then I would feel self-conscious and assume they were staring because I look terrible.




   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 10th 2012, 12:14 PM

I fart.

Sometimes... lol, I'm single and not looking. Fucking prince charming.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 10th 2012, 01:05 PM

Edge closer to people I know. It makes me incredibly paranoid. Just talk to me, don't stare!
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 10th 2012, 11:27 PM

Lol, I know I've accidentally "stared" at people on occasion myself, but it's usually just cause I am distracted and my visual focus just fell on someone, but I'm usually not really paying attention to what they're doing and would only be a few seconds, but considering my size and typical dress it's not like I am some kind of massive threat haha....
When ever people stare at me I usually don't care. I definitely don't look like a troll (I'm not trying to say I am the hottest out there, I am defs not, I'm pretty average, I'm just saying I'm not ugly by a long shot haha) so I mean, what ever, people will check me out or look at me or what ever, so I'm not going to freak out and think something is wrong (it's not like I would have accidentally left home wearing a clown hat or something) and unless a person is just blatantly ogling for way to long with out ever approaching me then I don't really care, it's not my problem... Unless they're looking at me cause they want to kidnap me, but on an ordinary day to day basis, that's highly unlikely...
If they're going to stare for a while, it'll start to bother me, but I'd either approach them or give them a look to suggest that, like, hello, I know what you're doing OR I'd just go somewhere else (say I am in a line up at a store, idk). I kinda hate it when creepy people like stare at you and the second you look at them hoping they've stopped they come to talk to you and it's like oh... crap... uhmm I have to go, family emergency, yeah yeah, bye BYE.... But that doesn't happen all that often (like, basically, ever!!)

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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 11th 2012, 01:07 AM

I'd feel nervous and really uncomfortable but not say anything. But I've done the same thing, sometimes intentionally checking someone out and sometimes just watching people for the sake of observing, or even just staring into space, then they always seem to notice and I feel bad. But either way, I get nervous and wish they wouldn't.


   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 11th 2012, 01:56 AM

I stare them down as if it's a challenge.
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 11th 2012, 02:45 AM

I wonder if theres something messed up about me. Also if somebody is looking at me I usually look back at them and see what they do. It's fun. Like at six flags! Best people watching ever
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 11th 2012, 03:14 AM

I try to just pretend I don't notice them and also try to figure out if my appearence could be better...
But if it continues then I just stare back


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 11th 2012, 04:14 AM

All depends haha. Once in a while its okay i guess...but too much...its starts to get annoying and creepy.espically if its someone way older than me...thats when i try to walk faster


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 11th 2012, 04:19 AM

I hate when people stare at me.
I usually end up making eye contact and then quickly look away due to the awkwardness.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 12th 2012, 01:32 AM

M-kay. Uh....if its someone I like, like as a friend, I'll smile or give one of those "yeah-I'm-pimp" head nods, or I'll stick out my tongue :P
if its someone I like like, I smile and blush a lot and do something perverted with my tongue (lick my lip in a seductive way) insta-horny
if its someone i hate, i evil stare or ignore them
creepers...i spaz out STOP LOOKING AT ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 13th 2012, 01:36 AM

I find the worst people for staring are little kids (like under 10 kinda deal)... And then I am like "why me?" haha... Or babies, but who really cares about why a baby dared to look at you haha
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 13th 2012, 01:49 AM

hahaha when older people stare at me....I feel like theyre saying in their heads "what kinda dope is that child on!?"
   
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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 13th 2012, 02:26 AM

I usually stare back, but I usually look away because I start laughing about it.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 13th 2012, 02:53 AM

I get really creeped out and I get really mad at them.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 13th 2012, 02:53 AM

I wonder why the fuck they're staring at me. If it's someone I know I'm like "WHAT?" and if it's someone I sorta know in my mind I'm like 'what the fuck are you staring at me for?' and if it's a stranger, repeat number two but add 'are you a pedofile? Do you have a bad taste in people for relationships- 'cause I know I'm ugly'.


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Re: What is your response/thoughts when someone stares at you? - May 16th 2012, 12:34 AM

In a way, it's flattering. But it also makes me very nervous and I don't have good enough self-esteem to be stared at all the time. It makes me worry that something is wrong with myself. Haha.


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