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He won't do anything... - May 15th 2012, 05:03 AM

All of my past relationships have been physical in some sort or another. But my boyfriend is a saint and literally won't do anything... It's his religious beliefs and I completely and totally respect that. However, I'm comfortable with physical, annnnnd, we're not physical... How do I overcome these temptations without making him cross any of his boundaries?

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Re: He won't do anything... - May 15th 2012, 05:40 AM

Hey Kayla,

That's what dating is all about, finding people your compatible with. I'd suggest talking to him and asking where he stands. You never know he could be thinking the exact same thing and didn't want to come off as rude. Talk with him and see where it goes, who knows it could be a good thing.
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Re: He won't do anything... - May 15th 2012, 06:45 AM

100% agree with Ryan. You have to talk to him about this. If he doesn't want to do anything, that's his wishes. But if he has interests in doing some stuff, you guys should really establish exactly where those boundaries are.

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Re: He won't do anything... - May 22nd 2012, 08:55 AM

I agree with ryan too. Communication is key. Just be honest a tell him you aren't trying to push him in anyway and that you simply wanna communicated about it just be careful p, having the same standards helps relationships last.

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Re: He won't do anything... - May 22nd 2012, 10:32 AM

I do agree that you should talk to him about it and see where he stands and where he draws the line, you might be able to work out what is and isn't okay to do.
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Re: He won't do anything... - May 25th 2012, 04:02 PM

i think with these things talk isn't always necessary, if you initiate something in the moment he would be more likely to do what he feels, for smaller things if there is nothing physical at all just start buy holding his hand or giving him a hug, there's really no need to talk about that you can just go by his response.
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Re: He won't do anything... - May 25th 2012, 06:20 PM

Well... What kinds of things is he having qualms with? Like is he even refusing to hold hands, hug and kiss? Cause that being the case, I can definitely see how you would be struggling at having 0 physical contact.

You should definitely try to give him hugs or kisses, and if he resists, just talk to him about it, see if there are anythings he is ok with (read: previously mentioned). I am not saying you need to have sex or do oral or even touch under the clothes in any super intimate way, I am just suggesting little peck typed kisses and hugs, nothing horrendous.

What is his religious affiliation though? And if it is Christian, what is the denomination? I am just curious because I am trying to understand where the resistance lies and I am familiar with different denominations rules (which, admittedly vary in strictness and/or content depending on location as well, but still...) and I am just curious......
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Re: He won't do anything... - May 26th 2012, 05:49 PM

Communicate. Tell him what you'd like more of. It could just be kissing and feeling with clothes on You could get pleasure w/o removing clothing ya know?

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