Non-PG13 (Strong Language): Question about sex/masturbation

[Davebth]

Okay I need some help. There is this girl I really like, and I think she might like me too, but she is already in a relationship, but she has broken up with this guy before, so I'm sure it will happen again. Now she isn't a virgin, but I am. I know that if we go out, she will most likely try to engage intercourse, and while I'm not going to say no if she does, I want to know what to expect. My question is, does how long it takes to reach orgasm in masturbation affect how long it takes to reach orgasm during sex? I ask this because when I masturbate, it only takes me about 2 minutes to reach orgasm, or ejaculate. Would that mean I wouldn't last very long during intercourse? Because I don't want to feel like a loser if I don't last very long. Also I was kinda a late bloomer, meaning I didn't start getting armpit hair until the last month or so, and it's still very thin and light, I have a small amount of leg hair, and almost no arm hair. My voice is deep though. I don't sound like justin bieber, but at the same time I don't sound like a country singer. It's about the average deep voice on a teenager.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[Kmn483 ♥Bliz]

yes masturbation and any orgasms are related but not exactly, I suggest masturbating and trying to hold off orgasm. It will help you last longer in bed. If you can not feel well about it, i suggest a ring, or fingering/ giving her oral. It also helps if she gets you to come, and them gets you back up again, you should last longer. (the first one should not coem from vaginal sex though, because you can't keep it up, and the break wouldn't be good)
ps: mark this post as non pg 13

[Jaguar]

How long you're going to last not something you should be worrying about for your first time. If she wants to have sex just let her show you how she likes it and go with it.

[Emilycox]

I wouldn't worry about your performance. Just tell her you've never done it before and ask her to tell you what she wants you to do. And then just listen to her and follow her directions. Also you don't need to start with intercourse. There's blowjobs too remember!

[Davebth]

Originally Posted by Jaguar

How long you're going to last not something you should be worrying about for your first time. If she wants to have sex just let her show you how she likes it and go with it.

Yeah that is true, but also I've always wondered, will my second time having intercourse be significantly longer than the first time? Like is there a "switch" in your body that gets turned on after you have sex for the first time?

[Harmony♥]

Your last question really depends. Some guys can last significantly longer the second time they engage in sex, or it could last just as short as the first. I'd suggest masturbating before hand, that way you've already ejaculated which means you'll end up lasting longer once you start having intercourse. (And by beforehand, I mean like an hour before).

[DanceCommander]

Originally Posted by Davebth

Yeah that is true, but also I've always wondered, will my second time having intercourse be significantly longer than the first time? Like is there a "switch" in your body that gets turned on after you have sex for the first time?

Not necessarily. It takes practice, just like anything else. You may not last very long when you first begin having a sexual relationship, and that's okay. In a way it's like training yourself, and masturbation really helps with this.

When you are masturbating, each time try to hold off for a little bit longer. Over time, you'll be able to go longer without actually reaching climax. It'll help when it comes to sex, too.

[Davebth]

Originally Posted by MacGuffin

Not necessarily. It takes practice, just like anything else. You may not last very long when you first begin having a sexual relationship, and that's okay. In a way it's like training yourself, and masturbation really helps with this.

When you are masturbating, each time try to hold off for a little bit longer. Over time, you'll be able to go longer without actually reaching climax. It'll help when it comes to sex, too.

Okay I'll try that.

[Strummer]

If you haven't gone out with this girl before, you might be assuming or expecting too much. You may or may not go out with her, and then she may or may not want intercourse with you right away. You might want to get to know her better before deciding if you would want sex with her.

[Davebth]

Originally Posted by Strummer

If you haven't gone out with this girl before, you might be assuming or expecting too much. You may or may not go out with her, and then she may or may not want intercourse with you right away. You might want to get to know her better before deciding if you would want sex with her.

Nah we are really good friends, we hang out a lot and she is very open about sex. She even told me once that we would have it if we were dating.

[momo123]

it just depends really on the moment, how long you've been 'thinking about it'
i know my boyfriend first time lasted 10 but then if he thinks about it all day he wont last very long :P

[Jaguar]

Being able to last comes with experience. Like anything else you have to learn how and practice.

[unleash69]

Originally Posted by Davebth

Nah we are really good friends, we hang out a lot and she is very open about sex. She even told me once that we would have it if we were dating.

I c... u gt ur crds all laid out ainit.. Well tell u wat..! In shrt b4 it does cm 2 tht kp "practesting" th art of cntrollin ur orgsm ryt b4 burstin it all out thn u relax, calm dwn, n count dwn frm 10sec thn repeat th method at least 4-5 tymz b 4 lettin it rip..Ths teaches u 2 cntrol ur release whn u r all up in thr.. cos beliv u me... u R gna nd 2 learn self control.. N Dnt 4gt oral sex does it bst 4 a chick.. so dnt b scrd 2 put sme fingas at wrk as well n allow her 2 eventually ghasp 4 air b4 sh invites u in! Thn u cn put th method 2 wrk... Im sur u'll b fyn.. N jah by th way be honest wit her cos sh will teach u a thng or 2 bout hw sh likes thngs dne! GUD LUCK

[unleash69]

Originally Posted by Davebth

Nah we are really good friends, we hang out a lot and she is very open about sex. She even told me once that we would have it if we were dating.

I c... u gt ur crds all laid out ainit.. Well tell u wat..! In shrt b4 it does cm 2 tht kp "practesting" th art of cntrollin ur orgsm ryt b4 burstin it all out thn u relax, calm dwn, n count dwn frm 10sec thn repeat th method at least 4-5 tymz b 4 lettin it rip..Ths teaches u 2 cntrol ur release whn u r all up in thr.. cos beliv u me... u R gna nd 2 learn self control.. N Dnt 4gt oral sex does it bst 4 a chick.. so dnt b scrd 2 put sme fingas at wrk as well n allow her 2 eventually ghasp 4 air b4 sh invites u in! Thn u cn put th method 2 wrk... Im sur u'll b fyn.. N jah by th way be honest wit her cos sh will teach u a thng or 2 bout hw sh likes thngs dne! GUD LUCK

[Rebeccalouise]

the amount of time it takes you to ejaculate doesn't affect the time you can last during sex. so don't worry

[gymnastxxLeah]

Honestly, don't worry about it! I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself about sex. It's your first time. What's the rush? Date for a while... And if you fall in love and feel ready, go ahead. But it sounds like you haven't really thought about what YOU want. If you want a relationship, have a relationship! You don't have to start with sex. I'm not sure you're considering wether or not you're ready. If you love her and she loves you, it won't MATTER! I'd say just wait a while... The thing is, you're not even dating. Don't plan this so far ahead. When and if you start dating, and start getting serious, then is the time to start thinking about sex. And if that time comes, then just relax, take it slow... It should be special. Make it special for her... And she's not gonna look back and think "wow herein't last blah blah blah" she's gonna think 'that was really romantic and sweet of him."

just slow down. You're 14. You don't have to start having sex any time soon. You have your whole life ahead of you who PLENTY of sex ahead. It spend't have to start anytime soon. It sounds like you like this girl... Build a relationship. Don't jump into bed too early... Because if the first thing you do is sex, how the he'll does your relationship build up from there? What do you do then? What do you look forward to in your relationship?

[connormcguire1998]

you will be fine just start with showing her pleasure then you have intercourse to finish it off..........trust me it will work out fine