Female Advice Preferred: virgin

[monkey01]

im 16 and im still a virgin well so many others my age are not is it weird that im still a virgin. also im tempted to lose it to just any random guy because i want to know what it's like and i dont want to be the odd one out. is that weird. i feel like im the only 16 year old who is still a virgin

[~Wallflower~]

You're only 16, a lot of people are still virgins at 16. It's just for some reason "good" to not be a virgin cause I guess it means your experienced? Which really doesn't get you all that far cause trust me, I have been with guys who AREN'T virgins who sucked so yeah... You aren't the only one. 1. a lot of people lie, so not everyone who CLAIMS to have done it have, that's quite common with teenagers who just want to fit in. trust me there. they wouldn't lie when it's important (with a gf or close friends or what ever) but with their circle of friends they might and 2. the people who are virgins aren't about to talk about it now are they?

[Amber]

It's definitely NOT weird that you're still a virgin. I'm 22 and was a virgin until I was 18 and some people stay virgins until they're married - which still isn't weird. You just have to realize that not everyone is having sex and that there are other virgins out there besides you. I would suggest to not have sex with someone random just to get it over with. Some people feel that their virginity is a special thing, something that you shouldn't give to any person but that you should wait for that special someone. I actually wish I would have waited until I found the right person.

[Magical Forest.]

Hey Chantelle,

Being a virgin at 16 isn't anything abnormal. I know plenty of people that didn't have sex til they were 19/20. Thats perfectly fine! And I'm pretty sure that a lot of the people you know probably haven't done it.
Losing your virginity to some random person probably wouldn't be the best thing to do as you'll probably regret it and you could end up disliking yourself because of this. The best way it to wait, no matter how long, to find the right person and make it a special experience. Later on down the line you'll probably have more respect for yourself that you did it because you were ready, rather than doing it randomly with a random guy.

[Apple Orchard Ghost]

I'm 18 and I'm a virgin, and I have friends that are 19-21 that are still virgins. There's nothing wrong with it. Society just tells us that if you don't lose your virginity in high school, you're a loser, which is totally wrong. If you want to have sex, do it because you genuinely want to have sex with a person, not because you don't want to be left out or anything. And if people make fun of you for it, that just proves that they are immature and stupid.

[AmazonQueen]

Hell I'm 17 and still a virgin, I been feeling like the odd one out to. But just losing it to a random guy to know what it's like isn't the answer. In truth everyone is different so just go at your own pace and wait till you find someone who you love and feel comfortable with.

[Darth Vader]

I don't think I lost my virginity until I was 16 or 17. It's really not a big deal to lose it at an early age, plus you might regret it later if you lose it to some random dude. Save it until you're ready to lose it, not when you want to fit in.

[Detective Olivia Benson]

I'm 20 and still a virgin (to penetration, anyway). I went through a phase where I felt exactly how you're feeling now in May/June. Part of it was because I'd found out a couple of my best friends had recently lost their virginity, leaving me one of the last virgins among my friend group. There's one other guy who's a virgin, but I'm not interested in him, ha. But basically I started going out with random guys and let's just say I kind of regret how far I went. Sometimes I don't, because it was nice for the "experience," but it would have been so much better if I'd waited. I realize what I'd done now was kind of selfish, especially with the first guy. I was basically using him as a "toy," per say. I had no feelings for him from the beginning, so I guess you can say I played him and used him. The second guy, I actually liked, but I felt like he was too good to be true, and in the end it turned out that was definitely the case. I let him perform oral sex on me after a week of dating, then never heard from him again (It's a long story, but I found out he was lying about having a Facebook account, and I made the mistake of confronting him via text). I'm just glad we didn't go all the way, and I'm glad I didn't perform oral sex on him.

It is hard to wait, especially when you feel like all your friends are having sex. Well, when you're my age, they are all pretty much having sex. The hardest part is wondering if the right "one" is ever going to come along. Don't go have sex with just some random guy just to see what it feels like, because then it won't mean anything. You'll feel nothing. Trust me, I know from experience. When I was fooling around with the first guy I literally felt NOTHING. No tingling sensations, no vibrations, no pleasure or pain, nothing at all. When I was fooling around with the second guy, I felt feelings I'd never felt before, but still something didn't feel right.

I've heard when you're with someone you're in love with, it's absolutely amazing, and I do believe that. That's why I don't want to do anything again until I am in love, because I know there will be so much more meaning attached. In the end, I'm sure you'll be happy you waited.

[forever_hannah]

Probably half the people I know are still virgins at 19 or 20. I agree with everyone else. I don't think it makes you weird. I think it's better when you wait for someone you're comfortable around and it just progresses naturally. You're talking about it like it's a chore you have to get done when really it can be a great thing when it's with the right person. Just give it time! I know that's hard to feel like you're the odd one out, but I think you're more normal than you realize!

[Masquerade.]

Being a virgin at 16 isn't weird at all. I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin. The age that you first have sex isn't important in the long run. What is important is that your first time is with someone you really care about, not just some random guy. If you don't wait for the right person, you might end up regretting it. So, just hold on a little longer and try to focus on the fact that, when it does happen, it will be special.

[Bella xx]

I'm sixteen and still a virgin. I'm actually happy with myself because I'm one of the last virgins in my friends circle, my last boyfriend actually dumped me because I would sleep with him.
It's always best to wait until you can lose your virginity to someone you trust and care about, and who cares about you. I'm not saying having sex with a random is wrong, just that I don't think it's the best thing to do just so you can find out what sex feels like.
Just wait until the right guy comes along, it will make the experience so much better for you.

[Tigerlily.]

Everyone who's posted is right, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age, including 16. It's up to you whether you want to lose your virginity or not, and who to if you chose to, but when I was 13 (younger than you are, I know, but still) I wanted to know what sex felt like, a lot of my friends expected me to be one of the people who have sex young, a few of my friends had lost their virginity, and I was curious. So instead of waiting until I was in a relationship and truly thinking it through, I said yes to the first guy to offer that I could get alone with. And in all honesty, I regret it, I don't regret losing my virginity, although very young, I was ready, but I regret that I lost it to that person. I didn't have feelings for the guy, and that's not something I could take back. Would I be a virgin now? No, I've had sex since then, but I would have rather had my first time with someone I cared about, rather than meaningless sex. For some people, they can give up their virginity like that and have no regrets, but personally, I'm not one of those people. You may or may not be, but be sure you're ready and with the person you know you want to lose it to before just doing it to say you did.

[HealingAngel]

I'm a 16 year old virgin. Not even the slightest bit weird. Don't give it up to some loser! <3

[xxxjustyouraveragegirlxxx]

its not wierd, dont lose it if your not ready to, i regreted that!

[havehopeyourbeautiful]

i am 15 almost 16 and a virgin i know what you mean about feeling like the odd one out but one of my friends turned 16 on thursday. and she is a virgin one of my cusions is 16 and pregnat and has had 6 miscarriges and 3 aborsions so you dont want to end up like her, cherrish you viginty

[bellzluv]

It is not bad to be a virgin. Most people think it is good to be one until the right age. Cause it doesn't matter if u use a condom or not, you could still end up getting pregnant. i am 14 and have lost my virginity but i wish i could have waited, cause i have had a bunch of scares!!! But, don't be tempted my all the other people that lost there virginity's!!! Just Be Safe and Cation!!!!!

[Kumagoro]

I'll be 21 next year and I'm still a virgin. It's not uncommon at all. You'll be ready when you're ready, there's no set age for that. I thought I'd lose mine to the guy I was in love with, but since we broke up quite suddenly I'm glad we didn't do it in the end.

[EndureEmo]

i lost my virginity when i was 15. and yes just like you, i didnt really care who with i just wanted to see how it was. so yeh we did it i told him not to tell a soul and i told no one also. but yes he told and than i was considered a slut! because he was 18 after all ;/ i got so angery at my self for letting him. becuase he came on to me first.
there was a plus with it, i knew what i was doing with my second guy. but still id rather of just waited because the 2nd guy i really liked him for a year before hand it would of been special to me of i lost it to someone i cared about.

[EmergencyHugMaster]

Well, some people are virgins all the way up until marriage, so you certainly are not alone. If you have love, you don't need sex.

[ShadowDancing]

It's totally normal! There are lots of people older than you who are still virgins as well. I wouldn't suggest losing it to a random guy, or even a guy you're close to just to fit in. You should wait until you're 100% ready with someone you trust. That way, the experience will be special

[havehopeyourbeautiful]

^^
i agree with the above post and hamed

[luvcookies]

you shouldnt worry about that...wait till u meet the right guy and then if you want to...have sex with him ahahah

[Age of Ignorance]

Originally Posted by Oneirophobia

Well, some people are virgins all the way up until marriage, so you certainly are not alone. If you have love, you don't need sex.

LIES!

Just kidding. Hamed is right, even if "love" is a relative concept and not a universal one.

Just because your friends are out having sex doesn't mean you need to.

[musiclife.18]

that is totally normal. you are only 16. just because many of your friends have had sex doesnt mean you have to. your time will come dont worry enjoy life .

[kumar]

i am 22, i am still virgin.. i think i needs to be virgin till 28.. so you have to understand there are lots of people around you without getting right partner