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Masturbation and Sex - April 11th 2013, 08:37 PM

I'm 16. For a long time I've masturbated once or twice a day, most days. I started when I was in preschool.

A few years ago, (I'm not sure how old I was, it was 5th or 6th grade) I remember receiving numerous blowjobs from a sex buddy I had. I reached orgasm very quickly. This went on until probably 8th grade.

Now, a few months a go a girl gave me a blowjob and she didn't make me orgasm. I had to do it myself, simply because it was taking a long time.

This had me worried. I had previously read that excessive or too forceful masturbating can cause a person to be unable to orgasm during normal intercourse, or through oral sex. (Or anything other than their own hand, really) I'm now going into dating a new girl, and of course that means in a few months or so, sex. (Probably less as far as oral sex goes. I won't rush her or anything)

Is this a problem? I've made sure to start masturbating with a looser grip, more slowly, and have opted for either more "realistic" porn or no porn at all. But if this is a problem, I would really like to know. That way I'm able to stop it before it gets worse.
   
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Re: Masturbation and Sex - April 11th 2013, 08:41 PM

Hey there,

it's, I think, called the "death grip" or so. It's masturbating with a very tight grip so anything that isn't super tight won't stimulate enough. It takes a lot of months of masturbating with a loose grip to recover from (at least I am certain it's recoverable). The first few times you may not reach orgasm but getting used to it combined with abstaining (not reaching climax for a few days) will fix that for you.

It's all good, unpleasant but now you know
   
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Re: Masturbation and Sex - April 11th 2013, 08:46 PM

Thank you. Not to be too explicit, but how loose is loose enough?

I'm not a virgin, but the last time I had sex was almost a year ago and I can't remember how tight she was.
   
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Re: Masturbation and Sex - April 11th 2013, 09:10 PM

Well the science of explaining you the recommended level of "looseness"?
Just as loose as possible, use a feather grip. The loosener the touches that stimulate you, the better stimulating are the tight touches to you.
Dont worry, try a feather grip for a while just as long as you enjoy it (of course try for a while, won't be so enjoyable at the beginning if you have the death grip syndrome).

Also remember it could've just been a bad BJ :P But nevertheless, if you masturbate with a tight grip you should change that.

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