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How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 04:42 AM

How long do you guys usually wait before having sex with someone?

If you only wait a few weeks is that considered easy?


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 05:26 AM

I personally waited just under a year... until i knew that he wasnt just waiting for it and that we both truly loved each other.


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 08:07 AM

I'd say 99% of males would do it any time if they feel attracted to that person. So I suppose you mean females. It's even on the same page: http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f6-se...long-wait-sex/

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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 11:39 AM

If that's "easy" then I don't know what I am :') I had sex with my boyfriend on the second date.

As long as you're comfortable and so is he screw what other people think. Do it whenever you want.


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 04:07 PM

I had sex with my first on the third date and it felt right, and he was a great guy but after a few more times he walked me to the bus stop and then texted me we couldn't see each other anymore so I don't really know anymore. I just feel easy. Which is annoying because i want intimacy when i feel its right now and not be sitting on my hands for 3 weeks because i think he will leave once he gets sex if its too fast


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 08:54 PM

I think it's not about how long a guy would wait but how long you're comfortable with not having sex for. It should be a time that you're both ready and happy to have sex. After about 2 months of being together I told my previous boyfriend that I wasn't ready yet and so on and so forth. He was happy to wait and said that we should do it only whenever we're both ready or not at all. Nearing a year later, that was when I felt more comfortable.

Personally I don't think it's easy to wait just a few weeks before having sex but I think waiting a few weeks to actually get to know the person in-depth is a better option.


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 11:00 PM

I think you did right acting on your desires. If you desire sex, why not go for it? If I notice a chick doesn't put out because of "a rule" while she really wants to actually, I move on. If I feel she isn't ready (yet), no probs.
   
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Re: How long do you wait? - July 30th 2013, 11:36 PM

How do I know he's not just in it for sex then if I don't wait.


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 31st 2013, 03:07 AM

It's all about personal preference. If you're iffy & unsure about sex this soon or his intentions, then wait. If he's pressuring you to do so before you're sure you're ready, then he's not worth it.

But typically, as I said, it depends on the person. Some people wait longer than others. With my current boyfriend, I only waited like a week or two.



   
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Re: How long do you wait? - July 31st 2013, 04:46 AM

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How do I know he's not just in it for sex then if I don't wait.
Intuition, I'd say. Currently I wouldn't be in "just for sex", but by not allowing a beautiful evening date to have a beautiful finish even though you want it you would lose me.

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Re: How long do you wait? - July 31st 2013, 06:28 AM

If I remember correctly I waited 2 months, we were very comfortable with each other and we just had the chemisty and it just happened and we are still going out after almost 2 years.


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Re: How long do you wait? - July 31st 2013, 07:35 PM

i never wanna lose my virginity until i'm married i think. i find its fun anyway so you might too. our bodies have sensitive parts that are fun to have kissed and make us come! so you can do that and not have to rush all the way
   
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