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Rough Sex - December 6th 2014, 12:50 AM

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Me and my girlfriend have been experimenting with rough sex. We're both into choking(but we're safe about it), spanking, and being tied up a little. What else would be considered rough sex but not BDSM?
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Re: Rough Sex - December 6th 2014, 01:19 AM

It's really how you define it. Strictly speaking, BDSM usually requires a superior and an inferior. As long as you're both safe, happy, and comfortable- I don't see a point in categorizing what you do.

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Re: Rough Sex - December 6th 2014, 02:28 AM

Given your age, I would advise against the choking... Not to sound too much like your parents, but rough sex like this is dangerous no matter how safe you are. And choking should definitely be at least a soft limit for you guys.
Other than that, I'd suggest gags and blindfolds, perhaps even earplugs... Blindfolds and earplugs force your mind to focus more on the sensations making the sex all around more enjoyable. Gags are just plain kinky and I love em.

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Re: Rough Sex - December 6th 2014, 03:49 AM

I agree that blindfolds are great, especially when you're tied up. As the poster above mentioned, it takes your mind off the visual aspect of what's going on around you and then the sensations become much more powerful, making the sex much more pleasurable.

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Re: Rough Sex - December 6th 2014, 08:29 AM

Blindfolds and binding/pinning is awesome. I also really like hair pulling, haha. I've never gotten into choking, sounds weird to me, but to each their own.

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Re: Rough Sex - December 8th 2014, 05:38 PM

All of those things could be BDSM depending on how you classify them since they'd fall into either the bondage and discipline(BD) or sadomasochism(SM) category(the other one is dominance and submission, DS). But I agree with Kat that it doesn't really matter how it's categorized as long as you are both enjoying yourselves. I would try and stay away from the choking, I've done it before but it turns out that there really is no safe way to do it. You can do many other things safely it's just the body doesn't take kindly to not having oxygen. I agree with everyone about blindfolds and bondage, those two go together very well. If you have something really soft or hot/cold to run across someone's body while they're tied down and blindfolded that's really nice to. I am personally into knife play and like knives to be dragged across my body(not cutting it, just tracing my skin) but that's something that not everyone seems to like :P
Just play around with different things and talk about it with your partner, you'll come across a lot of neat things to try that you might like.

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