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I have a major problem.. - April 4th 2015, 04:38 AM

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When I used to cut myself I used to love watching the blood run down my body. Then I started to love pain more and more.. The first time I had sex I wanted them to hurt me so bad. I loved it when he pulled my hair really hard, when he bite me, when me squeezed everywhere, when he scratched me, when he slammed me into walls, when he choked me and so much more.. I have a major problem.. Is this normal?
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Re: I have a major problem.. - April 4th 2015, 04:53 AM

Hey Shaydow,

I've moved this over to the Sex & Puberty forum from General because I feel you'll get better advice here.

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Re: I have a major problem.. - April 4th 2015, 04:54 AM

Hi there,

I think that depends on your intent with these sexual acts. A lot of people do like rougher sex. Some of the things you mentioned like pulling your hair or scratching are activities that some people do enjoy during sexual intercourse, and that is completely normal. If you're doing it for the sexual thrill, I don't see much of a problem with it.

If you are doing it as a form of self harm, then that's where the problem would come in. If you are doing it as a way to cope with your feelings like you would with cutting, rather than doing it for the sexual enjoyment it gives, I'd consider it a problem.


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Re: I have a major problem.. - April 5th 2015, 06:52 PM

Hey there,

I agree with Dez. You have to really think about why you think you enjoy these things during sex. If it's because you honestly just enjoy it, then it's not a problem. If you are doing it to cope with feelings outside of sex, then it is definitely a problem. Maybe you could write down how you feel before, during, and after you have "rough sex." I think that might help you sort out your feelings and come to a conclusion.

If you have any questions, feel free to message me.

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Re: I have a major problem.. - April 15th 2015, 08:29 PM

After reading your explaination,Really i am now getting scared about the first time sex
bheww everyone has different choice of sex.
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