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Gay but cant keep it up? - November 3rd 2015, 09:06 AM

Hey. So im a gay guy. I know i like guys. But everytime i try to uh i dont know how to put it without being crude so i do apologise... Everytime i try to put it inside a guy, i'll go floppy and it makes me really nervous. Any advice on this?
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Re: Gay but cant keep it up? - November 3rd 2015, 06:52 PM

I can think of a few possibilities.

Do you have trouble keeping an erection outside of trying to have sex? If your masturbating an lose your erection then I might suggest you're experiencing some kind of physiological problem that you may want to address with your doctor. It might be something simple like to much alcohol or smoking though, both of which restrict blood flow and can make it harder for a male to get fully hard or stay erect, but it could be something else too. However, if your masturbating and don't experience any problems, then I would like to refer you to the anxiety/nervousness you mentioned.

The anxiety/nerves could be affecting your erection. The fear and anxiety experienced right before having sex causes you to lose the erection (it's actually quite common), and then the next time your nervous and also afraid it'll happen again. It becomes a vicious cycle. Men can lose their erections because of how anxiety affects blood flow. You can try to find a way to relax; try to identify what causes those feelings, and remind yourself that it's really ok, maybe you focus on foreplay a little more, like by having your partner use his hand to stimulate you or perform oral sex; in this way, you develop a greater comfort with performing sexually.

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