Female Advice Preferred: bit embarrassing

[hestina22]

i'm not sure i'm even allowed to ask this question, and if i'm not i'm really sorry!
so i like a boy...
and sometimes this boy looks really hot and does some hot stuff which kinda turns me on...
so sometimes i end up masturbating over him...is that weird?
and also when i do i don't orgasm. does anyone know why this is? i've heard that girls just don't sometimes, but i'm still a little worried...
any advice is appreciated x

[.Brittany.]

Hi Lavern,

Masturbation is totally normal. I'm pretty sure everyone does it (unless they are very religious, or don't believe in it). When it comes to not having an orgasm, as you mentioned some women don't have them. There could be many different reasons for it. The biggest reason could be medication. A lot of side effects of medication is the inability to orgasm. Another reasons is that maybe the person didn't "finish". Everyone is different.

Hope this helps,
Brittany

[Heathen]

As Brittany said, masturbation is really common. Many people fantasize about other people or certain scenarios that turn them on when they masturbate, so your experience is completely normal. As for not orgasming, it's true that some women just don't, but in my experience it may just be that it takes time to figure out what make you in particular reach climax. Every woman's body is different, and different things make different people orgasm. My suggestion would be to experiment with techniques and see what feels the best to you. Even if you don't reach orgasm, hopefully you can always enjoy the sensations masturbation brings.

[.:Bibliophile:.]

Hey there,

Masturbation is completely normal and doing it while you fantasize about this boy is normal as well. I used to try and masturbate when I was younger but it never did anything for me so I stopped. However, I have experienced the same thing with my boyfriend touching me and it's felt really good. It's possible that the reason you aren't reaching orgasm is because you aren't doing it long enough or you need to try different techniques. You can find a lot of stuff on google about different techniques to try. Also, if you are on any medications you might want to ask your doctor if one of the side effects is inability to reach orgasm. I know people that struggle with that due to medication.

[QOS]

Masturbation is completely fine, and not organsming is normal. It just depends on what your body likes and how you feel. If you do want to orgasm, I recommend exploring you body more. See where it likes to be touched, and know your limits. I hope this advice helps you, and if you want more advice, there's a very helpful YouTube channel called 'Sexplanations'. Hope you find this helpful, and best of luck!

[hestina22]

thank you everyone xx