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lost it at 14.. - February 3rd 2017, 04:28 AM

one thing i hate about myself is how i lost my virginity at the age of fourteen. it makes me feel horrible. i always wonder if i will go to hell for that. since you're supposed to wait until you're married.. /:
can anyone help me, i think about it all the time and it really hurts..


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Re: lost it at 14.. - February 3rd 2017, 04:42 AM

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one thing i hate about myself is how i lost my virginity at the age of fourteen. it makes me feel horrible. i always wonder if i will go to hell for that. since you're supposed to wait until you're married.. /:
can anyone help me, i think about it all the time and it really hurts..
Hi Noah,

It's an awful feeling to have done something that we feel is a betrayal of not only ourselves but of God too. Did you ask God to forgive you? If you did - then you're going to have to take God at his word. Because whenever we feel that we have done something wrong - and ask God to forgive us - WE ARE FORGIVEN. And that's the end of it. CASE CLOSED! And we have no RIGHT to continue to shame ourselves for what we said or did. There is no reason for you to feel horrible. As far as God is concerned - it never happened. And there is no need for you to worry about it.

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Re: lost it at 14.. - February 3rd 2017, 05:31 AM

I'm not religious, but I will try to answer this to the best of my abilities in terms of your religious beliefs.

As the poster above said, God will forgive you of anything. If you repent your sins and ask him for forgiveness, he will grant it to you. No "sin" is too big to stop God's love for you, I promise you that. You are not going to hell for losing your virginity before marriage.
(Plus, you can always become a "born again virgin". I'm not sure about the specifics of it, but I know it's something you can look into.)

I think along with asking for God's forgiveness, you need to ask yourself for forgiveness. Most people look back on losing their virginity and don't really like the way it happened, whether they wanted it to be with someone else, at a different age, different place, etc. We all make mistakes, and you're definitely not the only
one who regrets losing your virginity.
You can feel guilty all you want about it, but it's not going to change the fact that it happened. And that's okay. All we can do with our mistakes and experiences of the past is learn from them. Maybe now if the chance to have sex comes up again, you can rethink if it's something you really want to do or not.
If it helps, write out your feelings in a journal, and work on how you can change those negative thoughts into positive ones. Practice accepting and forgiving yourself and eventually you will get through this.


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