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Dont know a title name - June 18th 2017, 08:11 PM

Well i had a super great day today me amd a friend of mine where playing b ball and stuff and we started to talk about sex and stuff so he came with the idea to pick up girl so we walked around and hr saw a girl a little and he asked her to chill with us we ended up at a playground he really tryed to score with her he started to make sexual jokes toch her butt and all of that stuff and she didnt mind at all but im scared my self to do stuff like that my self he told me that we need this more so sure im down to scoring chicks but im scared if i do that people call me a perv


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Re: Dont know a title name - June 19th 2017, 03:11 AM

As long as you view women as something to "score" you will never be truly successful. Women are people. Unfortunately society has deemed fit to objectify us but that doesn't mean you have to buy into it. You can make a difference. Maybe this girl was okay with sexual jokes and your friend touching her butt but more likely than not most girls wouldn't be. It's incredibly disrespectful and rude. You'd do well not to take after your friend.

Try getting to know a girl, not just getting on about sex right off the bat. I know it can be really hard, especially because I've seen you post about struggling to talk to girls, but I promise it's more rewarding than just trying to get in some chick's pants. Remember: women are people. We aren't mystical, unknowable beings. Pay attention and you may be able to pick up on things that a girl would be happy to talk about. It could be many things- books, shows, music, beliefs, etc. While it may seem easier said than done, I promise trying to understand a girl you like as a person is better than just seeing her as an easy lay.

Good luck. And maybe, if you're willing, teach your friend not to buy into toxic masculinity culture (i.e. seeing women as sexual objects there for his pleasure).



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Re: Dont know a title name - June 19th 2017, 06:13 PM

I agree with Jordan. What your friend is doing is downright creepy and could get him into a lot of trouble, you should steer clear of going down that route. I would also like to say that viewing women as something to be "scored" is not a good mindset. You should be polite and respectful. Don't be kind to girls just to get sex/relationships/attention though because that won't get you anywhere.

My suggestion would be to start building friendships with girls first, rather than pursuing a relationship. Talk, text, hang out, ask them about their hobbies and interests. Once you can to get to know a girl as a person rather than a sexual outlet, that is when you are ready to have a relationship if that is what you both want.
   
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Re: Dont know a title name - June 20th 2017, 10:51 AM

Like both the above users have said, women are points to "score". Thats not the right attitude, and honestly, you're not going to get a girl that way.
Try to make friends/ get to know them, rather than having the "get in, get off, get out" mentality. Yes, its hard, and scary to talk to girls. Best advice I have for you is to NOT think of dating/sex rather, try to ask yourself, who is she as a person? What does she like? Dislike? etc. That stuff should help you talk to girls.

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Re: Dont know a title name - June 20th 2017, 01:37 PM

Hey there,

Personally I don't think your friend's approach is the best. Most girls/women probably wouldn't appreciate this sort of behaviour, it's wrong and it's demeaning. The best way to approach a girl is by being yourself, being polite and getting to know them, not physically touching them inappropriately. Luckily for your friend, this girl did not react badly to the way he acted, but most girls would. Generally, most people don't appreciate being treated like this.

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Re: Dont know a title name - June 22nd 2017, 07:05 AM

like they said above, get to know her, be interested in her as a person, and if you are sincere in that, she will want more from you.
   
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