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liking transexuals - September 28th 2017, 03:24 PM

Hey guys. I'm straight. but would it be considered gay to do stuff with a really hot transsexual? thanks.

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Re: liking transexuals - September 28th 2017, 05:45 PM

I think one of my favorite Youtubers, Blaire White, explained it best here.

In my opinion, it would matter more to me where that person was in transition rather than what their previous sex was. There are people who will argue that if a man calls himself a woman, but makes no effort to transition or be female-passing, it still won't be "gay" to have sex with him because he identifies as a woman.
Above all I think that if you're attracted to someone or want to try something out, it's okay to experiment. You don't have to put a label on anything! Even if you do stuff with a transsexual, it doesn't mean you're gay or any less straight. Maybe it could just mean there was one exception.
For example, I'm straight, but there have also been instances where I've been attracted to girls, sexually and romantically, and have wanted to experiment with them. But I still consider myself straight.

Basically with labels, it's whatever you think feels right to call yourself. In my very honest opinion, if a man transitioned to a woman 100% and no longer had a penis, it wouldn't be gay at all because that person now appears to be a complete woman. But again, that's only how I would see it, if I were in that situation. It's one of those things that there are 1000 opinions about and so many different scenarios and people you could be involved with. I don't think there's just one, simple answer to this.

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Re: liking transexuals - September 29th 2017, 02:04 AM

Just some friendly information:

First of all, the term "transsexual" is no longer correct to apply to trans individuals. It's largely considered antiquated and offensive. The proper is usually "trans." Some may use "Transgender" but its safest to use "trans."

That said,

Gender identity is separate from sexual orientation. A woman who is trans (or as some might say is male-to-female) is just that: a woman. It doesn't matter what her anatomy is because gender is not linked to genitalia. Therefore, you are still straight if you have sexual relations with a transwoman.

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Re: liking transexuals - October 1st 2017, 07:51 AM

@DanceCommander, transsexual refers to someone who has completed sex reassignment surgery (top and bottom). Not every transgender person is transsexual but every transsexual is transgender. It varies from person to person on whether or not they find it offensive, many transgender people I know (from hanging out on LGBT forums) don't consider it offensive. And in the vast majority of cases, gender is linked to sex. Most people aren't transgender or intersex and from what I've seen, most intersex people tend to identify with the sex they most closely resemble anyway e.g. most people with CAIS will identify as women.

So really, Aaron, I think whether or not it's gay depends on two things.
1. How far along someone is into their transition and whether they present as female
2. Whether you see them as a man or a woman
If she wasn't using female pronouns, had a penis, wasn't on hormones, had a flat chest, made no effort to present as female...I'd consider that gay.

If she used female pronouns, was on hormones, presented as female, had breasts but had a penis...I'd see that as kind of a gray area but I'd say straight. I'm a lesbian and I think if I really liked this girl and found out she had a penis, we could maybe make it work. Maybe...I think it depends on whether or not she planned on labiaplasty and vaginoplasty.

If she used female pronouns, was on hormones, presented as female, had breasts and a vagina...I'd definitely consider that straight. But if you see her as a man no matter what, then I think that's gay because you're imagining and enjoying having sex with a man so...

In the end, is it really a big deal if you turn out to be bi anyway? I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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Re: liking transexuals - October 1st 2017, 11:31 PM

I think that this is really dependent on who you talk to. There are people within the LGBTQ+ community who would agree that it would depend on how far along into transitioning someone is but there is a large amount of people within that community who would not agree with that.

I think what it comes down to, personally, is how you feel about it. If you are with someone that you knew, at one point, was a 'Male' (they might not have ever felt like they were but their friends/family saw them that way)would you feel that it was gay/bi and would that bother you etc? If you do not think that it would make you gay/bi than so be it. The fact is that no one other than yourself can say whether or not you are LGBTQ+. For example, there are people who primarily identify as straight but have had attraction to the same sex. They do not feel that they need to identify as anything other than straight etc even though some people have tried to tell them that they are bi.

Personally, I agree with Jordan and I know a number of people within the LGBTQ+ community who agree too. For them, personally, how far along the person is in transition isn't the determining factor.

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