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How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 7th 2018, 02:52 AM

It's all in the title...

UPDATE: I want her to know because I want to get it off my chest. Also, she doesn't know that I know what sexual pleasure or porn even is so...

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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 7th 2018, 03:05 AM

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Welcome to the site! I think the first question you should consider asking yourself is why you want to tell your mom. Do you think having her know will help you in some way? If you have questions about masturbation and you feel she could answer them then it would make sense to talk to her. I think the other thing you have to consider is if your mom would be open to this type of discussion. Unfortunately, there are parents who are closed off to discussions about their children masturbating; if your mom would be closed off it might be best to discuss this with someone else. There are a number of people out there who openly discuss sex and masturbation with their parents. It's great if you and your mom could have this type of relationship as it will allow you to get a lot of your questions answered. The best piece of advice I can give you is to do what you think will be best for you.


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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 7th 2018, 03:19 AM

Hi,

You don’t have to tell your mom you masturbate if you don’t want to. I never told my mom. As was previously pointed out, if you have questions about masturbation or think there is a problem with it then it would be worth it to talk to her, but if not you definitely aren’t rwqjrkws to.

If you decide to talk to her you can sit her down somewhere private when she’s in a decent mood and be straightforward about it. Let her know that you are masturbating and have some questions, and see what she says. You can also put this in a letter.

If she isn’t receptive you can also ask another trusted family member or a doctor. If you have any questions, a Doctor is perfect since they have training. Remember that a doctor has probably heard it all, so they won’t be upset.

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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 7th 2018, 04:30 PM

why would you want to...
it's great to want to be open with your mom, but something you'll learn as you get older is that there are just some things we really don't need to discuss with our parents. it's okay to have things that you do by yourself, and you don't need to fill in your parents on every detail. your mom knows, even if she doesn't actively think about it, that you will do this eventually. for a lot of parents, it's a very uncomfortable topic, which is why so many parents skip this conversation completely. of course, there are some who are open about sex and things of this nature. bottom line is it's up to you to judge whether you really want to have this conversation or not.

has she given you the sex talk yet? if not, you could start by asking her about general questions and move on to masturbation.
you say you want to tell her so you can get it off your chest, but why do you want to get it off your chest? masturbation is an entirely, 100% normal and healthy thing. what you do with your body is entirely up to you. of course it's fine that you want to talk to your mom, but just know that you don't have to. and if you decide not to, you have no reason to feel guilty or ashamed for not telling her.


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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 7th 2018, 10:19 PM

She has given me the sex talk, but she only told me about how you put the thing in the thing to make the thing... yea im not gonna go into detail. And just like me, she doesn't want to go into detail either. She never said anything about masturbation, sex for pleasure or any of this stuff. she didn't even mention pleasure in the first place.
   
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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 8th 2018, 08:01 PM

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She has given me the sex talk, but she only told me about how you put the thing in the thing to make the thing... yea im not gonna go into detail. And just like me, she doesn't want to go into detail either. She never said anything about masturbation, sex for pleasure or any of this stuff. she didn't even mention pleasure in the first place.
If sex is such an uncomfortable topic for the both of you, why do you feel the need to talk to your mom about masturbation? Do you have questions about it? If she's that closed off it sounds like you may be better off asking your family physician. They'll have a lot more experience with these matters and it may be easier to talk to them than to your mom.



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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 9th 2018, 02:22 AM

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She has given me the sex talk, but she only told me about how you put the thing in the thing to make the thing... yea im not gonna go into detail. And just like me, she doesn't want to go into detail either. She never said anything about masturbation, sex for pleasure or any of this stuff. she didn't even mention pleasure in the first place.

Sex and masturbation is a difficult topic for most parents to have with their children but there are actually a ton of parents who would prefer having their children talk to them instead of their peers. The main reason being that their peers are more likely to provide them with inaccurate information and parents who are informed and open can provide much better information. However, if your mom is struggling with talking to you about this subject and you struggle to talk to her then it probably would be best to discuss it with a professional such as a physician.


Despite what some might believe there are parents and children who can/do have healthy discussions about sex. This should be how it is with parents because it's their job to prepare their children for the world and part of that preparation involves the child becoming sexually active. Unfortunately it seems like your mom might not be too open to discussing the topic and that could end up causing more discomfort and harm than if you chose to talk to someone such as a physician.


Is there a particular reason you feel you need to talk to your mom thought? Maybe if you discuss that we can provide you with better assistance.


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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 14th 2018, 07:53 PM

it is very likely she already expects you masturbate since basically all teens do, but if you really feel like you need to get this of your chest then do what you want.
   
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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 19th 2018, 12:23 PM

I don't think you need to tell your mom regarding this.
   
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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - June 27th 2018, 05:10 AM

Having the sex talk is suuuuper awkward for parents, which is likely why she only gave you the safe sex talk, and not the "how to" talk or the "what it feels like" talk, no parent wants to give such intimate details to their child. For that matter, it's not a conversation people really even have amongst friends that often.

Honestly though, I don't think she needs or would even want to know. She told you how to be safe. You're not doing anything wrong by masturbating, nor do you need permission to experience your own body. Frankly, I think it'd just make your mom uncomfortable to know that her baby might be masturbating all the time if she knew for certain you were doing so. So, I just wouldn't...
   
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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - July 23rd 2018, 09:12 AM

If you want to, yes. It would certainly help for when you have questions, which you don't want to many friends. Most young boys pretend to know everything just from porn and from what I've been told it's fake and there's still a lot of unanwsered questions. Is there an older brother or father figure that can help out as well?
   
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Re: How Should I tell my mom I masturbate? Should I? - July 27th 2018, 07:40 AM

It is very likely that she already know you must be masturbating, since basically all teens masturbate. Sharing this things with parents is super awkward for parents, which is likely to why she only gave you the safe sex talk, and not the "how to" talk or the "what it feels like" talk, no parent wants to give such intimate details to their childrens.
   
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