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I have a big mouth... - September 9th 2009, 04:40 PM

A couple days ago when i was at my boyfriends house we were laying in bed and making up etc,and since he kept asking for a hand job i wanted to give him one.But since i've never touched a penis in my life when i was putting my hand down there i said wow that feels weird and hes like oh my god are you serious? and i said yeah and started laughing and then i tryed again and said it's small :x and he's like i'm not even hard god,i felt so bad i don't know how i said that so loud.

I felt like such a little kid for acting like that :/(oh and i couldn't give him the hand job) what's wrong with me? lol.
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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 9th 2009, 08:16 PM

It's probably just down to nerves. Seeing as though you haven't done it before. Try not to worry too much. And if you're that worried about it, just talk to him, and let him know that you're new to these sorts of things and a bit inexperienced. I'm sure he'll understand and probably help you out.

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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 9th 2009, 09:36 PM

We all say things before thinking about them and the world doesn't come to an end. If you're close enough to be in bed and fooling around, then you're close enough to forgive each other's mistakes. Tell him how you feel and I'm sure you'll both have a laugh about it.

If you want to give him a hand job, plan for it. Have baby oil and a hand towel or paper towels and tell him you're going to give him a hand job. He'll be delighted and will be happy to show you how. It's a good thing to do this kind of stuff cuz it gets you familiar with each others' bodies and takes the pressure off so you can make a good decision about when and if you want to have sex.

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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 9th 2009, 11:14 PM

Hey, don't feel ashamed...the first time I touched my boyfriend's penis I started laughing hysterically (I couldn't seem to grasp the idea of the outer -skin being 'soft', meanwhile, when gripping it, it's hard), LOL. If you don't feel ready to make this next step with him, then by all means, hold out. I was lucky--my boyfriend and I had never seen/touched anyone else's 'parts' before...so we were both in for a surprise ;] I sincerely hope that his laughter was out of sarcasm, LOL. But, in any case, don't fret over it...it happens to the best of us :]
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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 9th 2009, 11:20 PM

You know, in all honesty, I really feel like hormones control a lot more than we think. I honestly believe you were just feeling too much at the time to even think about what you were saying. In new experiences, I am always more inclined to say what I really think, than activities I am more acquainted with. If you want to give your boyfriend a hand job (which you do not by any means HAVE to do), my advice is to just keep trying. Sure, you will make mistakes, but why not let your boyfriend help with that. Maybe he can show you how, or help guide your hands. If you can feel yourself saying something you might regret, have a phrase ready to go such as "I love you, baby!" I don't think it's a big deal that you laughed... I laughed my first time, too My boyfriend ended up laughing too and we ended up making out somehow, but, anyways! Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know what you are thinking. He can most likely help you in SOME way.

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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 9th 2009, 11:24 PM

lol, that is funny. Penises do feel weird if you've never "had one" before. It's a nice soft weird, but weird. Just tell him that you have very little experience and of course it's weird because you've never felt one before. Tell him it's not as if it isn't a nice weird, but weird means unfamiliar, it doesn't mean bad. Nothing is wrong with you, but you were both in a vulnerable position and he wants to know you approve of him* Guys are sensitive about their equipment. Tell him you were surprised by how small it is compared to what it probably looks like hard. You've never seen one before. Ask him to get hard for you and tell him about how surprised you are at how much it grew. Guys like it when you tell them it's big, even if they're secure enough to be okay if you don't. It's a compliment. Just let him know that it was a new and fun experience and weird because it was unfamiliar, but not bad* It does feel odd, we don't have them. I like the squishiness personally, but it does feel different from anything else I have ever felt, so it is weird*
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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 10th 2009, 06:04 AM

You are just nervous. I was so nervous I had to have my boyfriend explain to me exactly what I would feel before I would even try it. I did say a few things because I was so nervous that insulted him a little bit. For example "I thought it would be bigger" He didn't like that very much. Just explain to him how nervous you are/were.


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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 10th 2009, 03:25 PM

wow,yh i think thats like two of the worst things you could ever say to a guy to be honest .
did you apologise?
you was probly nervous but i think he may feel very self concious now about his manly hood,i don't know how you can reasure him because if you now say 'it's big'than he won't believe you. ermmm,i think your justgonna have to learn from your mistakes and be careful, think before you speak

oh and one more thing,a lot of girls say things like that on there first time,it's just nerves and guys can be just as offensive if not more offensive to girls and sometimes they mean to be offensive, you didn't mean that, so try not to get too down about it

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Re: I have a big mouth... - September 11th 2009, 07:57 AM

We don't care if it's big, at least I don't. I care more about giving the most pleasure I possibly can to a girl. and a lot of guys are average, so they could put on a few extra inches to match their partner. Really it's like a puzzle, if it doesn't fit right then you need to compensate.
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