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decisions.. - September 27th 2009, 02:40 AM

i made a decision to wait to have sex till im older. not to do with religion really, more to do with possible consequences etc.. boyfriends have been fine about it and whatnot. Now i have a new boyfriend. He knew my thoughts on the subject, and its been established that thats not what hes after(he's a really lovely guy). We've taken it relatively slow (circumstantial..) but my problem is that im really really really attracted to him. I didnt think it would happen, but im gonna find it really difficult!

but i dont know whether to stick to my guns or just let myself go. It cant do any harm if i dont(its just difficult) but it could potentially be life-changing(not always a good thing!) if i do.

anyone know what im talking about?

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Re: decisions.. - September 27th 2009, 03:07 AM

I know what you mean!
My boyfriend and me are going to waiti until we get married. We have had the opportunity so quite a few times but we haven't. We want your first time to be memorable, we have been dating for 2 years next month, and not planning on doing it anytime soon. I see myself in the future married to him and vice versa, but anything can happen we could end up not getting married to eachother and I will not regret anything I did with him.
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Re: decisions.. - September 27th 2009, 04:49 AM

Hi there,

I think that you should stick to your values. This is what you believe and you might regret things later. I think you should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. If she honestly cares about you, he should understand and respect your values. If he doesn't, that it might be time to reconsider your relationship.

I hope everything works out for you.
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Re: decisions.. - September 27th 2009, 08:50 AM

I don't think it's quite like that Elizabeth.
They both want to, but he's not pushing her.
I think, do what you feel like. If you really feel that you're both comfortable with it, then go ahead.
BUT: Don't like, MAKE it happen. Just let it happen, get caught up in the moment.
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Re: decisions.. - September 27th 2009, 05:09 PM

I think you should do whats best for you personally. There are ways that will make you 99.9% sure nothing will become of it. You can take birth control pills and use condoms, and if that doesnt feel like its enough, you can add the foaming spermacide in there too. Thats a lot of back up. Also the depo shot and condoms. Id suggest if you think something may happen between the two of you, start taking birth control pills. Not only does it help prevent pregnancy, it regulates your cycles/hormones and helps with any acne or pimples. Make sure there are condoms on hand too. Just take things slow, whats meant to be will be!

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