I lost my virginity today to my boyfriend of 8 months. He was 17 and a virgin, and I'm 20. he doesn't really believe in pre-marital sex, though we agreed if it felt right we would let it happen.
We just spent our first weekend all alone in my apartment, and after lots of talking we decided to try it. We started with a condom but it was too tight, so we tried it briefly without one (I'm on the pill). In the process I think we both panicked a little and he pulled out.
I don't regret doing it with him. I love him very much, and we definitely see our selves being together in the future, but I feel like since we know we're good together, that we should have waited.
Most people will always try things, no harm in that. Now that you have, there is still no reason you cant hold off on it until you're both ready now that you both know what exactly is involved in it. When you do, Id suggest the large condoms if the normal regular condoms are too tight. Keep in mind though, they are supposed to be snug so they dont fall off.
I'm glad you and your boyfriend realized how serious sex is, and how it's completely fine to wait until you're ready. There's no need to rush anything. Waiting until marriage is acceptable, and a route many people take. Never feel ashamed for doing what you did, or feel embarrassed for waiting. [:
im glad your first time was special too, but i think you should have waited. its great you love him and can see yourself together, but you should have used a condom the whole time. or gone and gotten bigger condoms if it was too tight.
To be honest if you're on the pill, the proper, birth control pill, and taking it correctly your safe from pregnancy really and you shouldn't have any STDs or STIs to worry about ... SO I wouldn't worry about that, its a very effective form of birth control
Aaand pre martial sex, I think its all down to the individual, I think letting it happen is cool
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