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BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 16th 2009, 01:26 AM

Ok.. I Have Been Dating This Guy For Awhile Now And I Really Like Him, But The Subject Came Up, If We Were Alone Would I Give Him A Blow Job? He Is Not Forcing Me, It's My Choice. Well I Said I Probably Would, But I'm Scared! I Have Never Done Anything Like That, He Hasn't Either Tho.. I Do Kinda Want To, I'm Curious I Guess Lol But Still Scared. But My Question Is.. What's It Like?? Do You Really Gag? Is It Really Salty? My Friend Said That If You Swallow It's Good For Your Skin, Is That True?? And What If I Did It Wrong? Is That Even Possible???

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 16th 2009, 02:02 AM

Well, at first I didn't like it, it is a bit salty, you do gag if he goes to deep and I have never heard that cum makes your skin better.

Now I reckon it's pretty good. He really likes it and I like to please him.

A few tips:
- Pretend it's a lollypop. I know it sounds weird but guys love it.
- Control how far he goes, you're in control. Tell him that. That will reduce your chances of gagging and make sure he doesn't thrust or put his hands on your head. That can make you feel uncomfortable.
- remember, he doesn't have go in your mouth, you can finish him with your hand and if he does go in your mouth, you don't have to swallow.
- Put your lips over your teeth like you're pretending to be an old lady when you do it. This should stop you from hurting him with your teeth.

Most of all, relax and remember you can stop at any time.

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 16th 2009, 02:45 AM

Youll gag if he goes deep in your throat its set off ur gag reflex.
Yah its usually salty tasting.
And Idk nothing bout doing nethin for ur skin.
No if your mouth is down there it will feel good no matter what. Just be careful with teeth.
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 16th 2009, 08:36 PM

When i gave my boyfriend his first blowjob.. neither of us knew what we were to do.. We were alone and i wanted too.. so i did.. the part i hated the most was the fact that i asked him to look away cause i was soo nervous and had no clue what i was doing.. he did, i wish he didn't but oh well.. i just kinda went with what i thought what right. Everybody does it differently. Also its your choice to do whatever you want when you choose to actually give him one.
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 06:45 AM

Don't do anything you're not completely comfortable doing. Oral sex is a very intimate thing and you really have to want to do it or it won't be a good experience. I suggest that you do some things to get comfortable with each other first like cuddling naked together, showering toghether, or exchanging hand jobs to get used to the idea of giving each other an orgasm. To me, oral has always been even more intimate than actual sex. I really had to like the person to be comfortable doing it.

And don't worry about doing it wrong. Just tell each other what feels best for you, since everybody's different and what one person likes, another won't.

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Smile Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 08:59 AM

From experience I've found that giving someone a BJ varies from person to person... and you kinda have to be in the mood to do it. It may sound silly but the best thing you can do when it's your first time is to communicate. What I mean by that is make sure you coach each other, if he doesn't like something make sure he speaks up. Practice with it and see what works for you. Perhaps the most important thing is to have fun! if you're not having fun don't do it. As for the semen being good for your skin, I've personally never heard that before. I do know that it contains a lot of protein. "Swallowing" is done by personal preference some people don't like it for the taste etc. and then again some people love it. Being scared is normal. Sex is a big step in any relationship.

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 06:01 PM

I'm in a similar situation. And one of my best friends, who, to say the least, is a pro, helped me out a lot. She got a penis-shaped object and, well, demonstrated. It sounds kind of odd, but it made me less nervous to talk about it with someone who is experienced. And you can practice too with something. Just to get used to having something that size in your mouth. I have yet to give my first blowjob, I'm waiting until I'm really comfortable with my guy, because we're not quite there.
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 07:14 PM

Actually cum is good for your teeth sorry I saw a post had to comment but like most of them said, if he goes to deep you will gag and my first time it was actually ok but if you dont want him cummin in your mouth just tell him and he should respect you enough to hold it in! lol
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 07:47 PM

If you aren't completely comfortable with the idea I honestly advice you not to do it. Trust me.

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 08:12 PM

i dont find it salty at all. but its fun. just remember do what ur comfortable with.
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 18th 2009, 09:19 PM

Make sure he knows it's okay to tell you to do something else. My boyfriend and I are very open with telling each other what feels good. It's always nice to know when you're doing something right.

Ask him to tell you when he's about to come so you don't have to swallow it. In my experience, guys enjoy it when you swallow, but you really don't have to.

The taste varies, actually upon more than just if he's washed. The food he eats will also play a part in how his semen tastes.

You will most likely gag if you're deep throating him. Personally, I've never done this because I absolutely hate gagging and frankly just don't like the idea of doing it. Otherwise, you won't gag. Don't take too much of him in your mouth if you're not ready.

Finally, make sure he's talking about going down on you, too! After all, if you're going to try it, so should he!

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 19th 2009, 12:36 AM

For your first time, don't be afraid to ask him what he likes and what he doesn't like and don't be afraid to let him guide you so you can give him the best blowjob possible. The number 1 rule of thumb is just try not to bite lol. It takes practice like all things in life so don't be ashamed or embarrassed if you don't get it completely down on the first try.

As for the taste of semen, it varies from guy to guy so I'm told. It does have a bit of a bitter aftertaste but nothing completely unbearable (if you are curious, I have tasted myself before so that's how I know). Also, I have read that the foods you eat can affect your taste. For example, fruits can make you taste sweeter while things like spinach and red meat can make you taste bad.
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 19th 2009, 02:11 AM

I don't gag ... but that is cuz I have got used to it.
Like when I started giving my bf BJ's I just kinda started to gradually go deeper and so I got used to it and don't gag
Taste ? I actually don't really notice the taste.. lol .. it just feels warm in my mouth & that's all I notice. lol

I used to be quite scared before I gave my first BJ, and I didn't really start to like it until I started going out with my current bf.
I wouldn't be able to give ya tips on what to do, cuz I don't really no myself :P
I just try things & if my bf likes it - he'll tel me and I'll continue to do it.

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 19th 2009, 03:34 AM

Yes, It will make you gag, but If you train yourself It's pretty easy and you might actually enjoy it after awhile. I mean gag by cough, not throw up. You're 15, If you don't want to, then you shouldn't be in a rush. You might not like the taste, and swallowing is entirely optional.

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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 20th 2009, 12:46 AM

it sounds like you're pretty nervous and unsure about the whole thing. make sure you're 100% with what you're doing and don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to. if he pressures you he's not the right guy for you.
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Re: BJs???? I'm Scared!! - November 22nd 2009, 04:34 AM

Agreed with above poster, it does sound like your nervous, but at the same time, I think sex is a topic that not many people get 100% comfortable with either.

The main thing is to communicate. That doesn't mean just talking, it means listening as well. My last girlfriend gave TERRIBLE blowjobs, she didn't listen when I told her something didn't feel good, so I kinda just stopped asking for them. He also has to listen to, I know a lot of girls don't like it when guy's grab the girl's head or try to shove their dicks down the girl's throat, so tell him if he does anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Oh, and get him to trim his pubes before you give him one. I don't think you'd appreciate his pubic hair in your mouth or on your tongue, that's just gross lol.
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