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Unhappy pain during sex - December 5th 2009, 02:04 AM

ok so my boyfriend and i have a long distance relationship (we met online) and we dated for 2 years before actually seeing each other...although we did go on a break. during the break i was upset and such and there was this guy. long story short i slept with him...it was my first time...it hurt...ALOT. i already told my current bf everything so you dont need to lecture me about that. the real issue that im worrying about is what happened when my bf came to visit me. it was about 4 months after i had had sex with the other guy and i expected it to still hurt a but but it was really bad. it seemed to get a little better after we had done it a couple times but not much. we actually had sex 7 times in 2 days (we had very limited time with each other, what do you expect?) but every time we did it it hurt me...i guess im just worried that its always going to hurt or something is wrong =/ what do you guys think?
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Re: pain during sex - December 5th 2009, 01:35 PM

Honestly, it just sounds like you pushed it too fast. You weren't that experienced in the first place, and having sex 7 times in 2 days, would be painful to even the most experienced girls out there. Not to mention, if you go a long time without having sex, the next time you do, it's going to be painful by default. My advice to you is next time don't do it as much, make sure there's enough foreplay beforehand and lube is always your friend. Have fun, and be safe. (:


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Re: pain during sex - December 5th 2009, 02:38 PM

the first few times [often more] you have sex it is normal to get a bit of pain. i agree with Holly though, having sex that many times in a short space of time is going to make you a bit sore, especially seeing as you haven't had sex for a while and have not been sexually active for long. just take is slow next time and if you're in any pain stop and try again another time. it might take a little while for you to feel comfortable and start enjoying sex rather than being in pain.. but you'll get there. :]

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Re: pain during sex - December 5th 2009, 06:43 PM

yea i know it was alot but even though it hurt it was good and he was gentle and i liked making him happy. we just liked being so close to each other and if it hurt me too much i did ask him to stop and he did, right away, and we just cuddled and kissed and it was wonderful <3. i just cant stress enough that this was not him being pushy or uncaring. hes really the sweetest guy ever ^_^ we just only had a couple days to be together and i wont be seeing him for months. probably not until the summer
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Re: pain during sex - December 6th 2009, 01:03 AM


A lot of females have a hard time with the pain of sex. I believe that your body is still getting used to it, and it could take a while for your body to become used to it.

Try taking it slow, and hopefully things will stop hurting as much. If it continues to hurt, possibly consider approaching your doctor, in regards to it.

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Re: pain during sex - December 7th 2009, 10:28 AM

Wow. 7 times in 2 days! I'll bet he was a bit sore, too.

Some sources of pain:

- Not enough lube. It's hard to get too much. Use more than you think you need.

- He could be too big for you. Happens more than you think. Try different positions that will allow you to control how far he goes in.

- A yeast or other infection or irritation. Maybe a latex allergy, even.

- Something else wrong. If it keeps up, get checked out.

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Re: pain during sex - December 9th 2009, 02:16 AM

it cant be latex, we didnt use condoms. we didnt have any artificial lube. next time =P
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