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Sex doesn't feel good - April 9th 2010, 05:46 AM

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Okay, so straight to the problem. I'm a virgin and I recently started seeing a girl and we've tried to have sex many times. I can maintain a rock hard erection during foreplay and everything, but as soon as I stick my penis in... It's gone. This might be a little bit nerves, but I think I know the problem. For the 30 odd seconds I was able to penetrate and thrust I didn't feel much pleasure. Up until having a sex life I was a frequent masturbator. I think that maybe sex doesn't feel good because a vagina is so foreign to the grip, dryness, and friction of my familiar hand. Is there anything I can do to help sex become more pleasurable? I've already stopped masturbating completely and I still can't pull it off (it's been a good week or so). This is frustrating me and embarrassing me to no end, so any advice is welcome.
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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 9th 2010, 06:03 AM

its probably nerves, try relaxing. If it goes limp, give it 10 minutes and some more foreplay to kill time and try again.
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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 9th 2010, 03:36 PM

Talking about it with your girlfriend would be a fab start.
Telling each other things no matter if you think they feel embaressing or not will help!

Just relax and take your time, if it doesn't happen first time.. keep trying.
Try different positions, different fore play. Role play ect - to spice things up.

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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 9th 2010, 07:13 PM

I agree, talk to your girlfriend about it. You're 20, Im assuming shes around the same age somewhere. She wont laugh at you or make fun of you. Dont think of it as sex, something that you have to compete with other people to become the best. Its to show the passion in a relationship. If she has experience, she can guide you through it verbally. Dont be so hard on yourself, try not to be nervous but to go with the flow instead. Also, a position that may help is spooning. Her on her side, you on your side behind her. Get her to bend her knees but keep her legs closed. That will add some tightness.
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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 10th 2010, 05:07 PM

whilst youre inside her try getting her to do things that will turn you on at the same time, instead of just relying on the penetration to keep you hard.. its different for different men of course, but mine likes me to kiss his neck/bite/pull his hair etc which gets him even hornier, so this may help you stay turned on

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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 10th 2010, 05:08 PM

oh by the way, how is this triggering eating disorders?

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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 10th 2010, 07:02 PM

I agree with all of this How long does your foreplay last - I mean, if you have a long amount of time doing foreplay, could your erection be 'tired' by the time you come to have sex?

I also agree with what Holly said, talk to your girlfriend, and see if she can get you to turn you on at the same time as having sex. Oh, and with masturbating - could you try loosening your grip and using warm lube - to make it feel more 'real'?

Just a few ideas, but I agree with the first few posts

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Re: Sex doesn't feel good - April 10th 2010, 07:14 PM

i agree with what holly said about doing other things while your having sex such as making out, kissing each others necks, touching her breasts, maybe see if she could whisper some sexy things in your ear...it could help =P

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