Friends with benefits.. yes or no?

[Saphire]

Just curious to what everyones opinions are on friends with benefits.

Nothing to do with myself, just a general question

[TheNumber42]

Personally? I think it's an absolutely terrible idea. I have heard too many stories of people getting hurt because one person became more attached than the other and vice versa.

And I could never do it myself in a million years because, for me and my values, love is requirement for anything sexual. I just couldn't stay detached and "have fun." That's not what sex is to me.

Though, that's just my opinion and I respect that it does seem to work for some people.

[Fucking Done]

Not for me.
But I don't think that it's a bad thing.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Well, everyone else is entitled to have sex with whoever they want (obviously within the law etc.) But I would never do it. I've only ever done anything sexually with my boyfriend and I plan on keeping it that way. Sex is very much about love for me and I could never do it without being in love with the other person.

Also, sometimes it makes me sad to see my friends in "friends with benefits" relationships because I can usually see that one person wants more from the relationship. But sometimes people make it work and that's fine for them .

[Magic.]

I have had friends with benefits in the past, and it was fun. But it's difficult sometimes to know the line. Like the guy (I am still friends with) tried to make it seem all romantic and take me on dates and stuff. Personally I didn't like it and called it off.
I don't know if I'd choose to have someone again. I'm not awkward about it myself, but I found the boy was which made me feel uneasy about it ... I wouldn't want to risk the friendship.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

I think it's fine as long as both parties know what the deal is, and can cope with it.

I've been in a FWB situation before and it turned out quite messy, I ended up getting attached after a while and it stopped being just a bit of fun. He didn't feel the same way and that was that.

Not always a bad idea, it can be lots of fun, as long as you're able to stop yourself developing emotions wanting more than that.
(this seems to be easier for guys than girls)

[Lu82]

horrible idea! for me it has to be "friend" or "Girlfriend" nothing in between.

[MadPoet]

I would never want to be friends with benefits with someone, but that's just me. I don't think it's a bad thing as long as both people know what it truly means, and are willing to come to terms with the fact that it will most likely never end up as anything more. More often than not I think that one of the people involved ends up having feelings that cannot be returned, and they are forced to move on due to the others decision/s. I don't think it ever works out too well, but I suppose it can be done.

[Algernon]

It gets emotional eventually. Not for me. And usually the people who think It will be okay and not get emotional are wrong.

[MacGuffin]

I do it. It can turn out alright as long as both parties know where its at. It can also turn out messy. Its always a risk to get engaged in such a relationship, but I dont mind it.

[CoffeeAddict]

Two words: Bad idea. Some of my friends have tried it, and they either start liking the other person, or the other person starts liking them, and it turns out disastrous. Plus, it's not really something I'm into, a prefer a proper relationship just having sex.

[Jill.]

Don't mind it at all. As long as both parties know what is going on, it can be quit fun. (:

[emoticon]

well i promised myself i would never do it and now i'm in one. . horrible idea right? it is, i'll admit it. but i can't help myself. and we've always acted more or less like a couple. for now that what it is. but it has the possibity of turning into something. and if not. at least i got to be apart of her that way for a little while. yeah i like her lots and i'm probably gonna get hurt. but i don't want to stop. but yes it is a bad idea.

[Shattered Angel]

It really all depends with me. I have a couple of friends that consider themselves "friends with benefits" just because they can't go out on dates yet. They cuddle and poke each other, but nothing serious. If they were to become more physical to the point of sex, I would have to say I disagree with the idea. I'm a strong believer in celibacy, though I suppose it's not my place to judge.

[BrittneyNicole]

Nooooo way; not for me. Sex means too much to me to just "do it".

[Ella.x]

I'm all for it as long as both people know what's going on and are happy with not getting romantically involved with each other.

[Speechless]

I'm not against it. It's just not something I can see myself doing.

[bitesize]

i think it's grand, and it's fine for people who can deal with it. i'd like to say i could too, but personally it's not for me.

[Skeleton]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If you think you can just keep it friends with benefits and not get attached then go for it.

[Maloo]

Been there, got messy. But it works for some people I guess.

[Rhop101]

I know I couldn't deal with it.

It's sort of funny that it's called friends with benefits I mean I guess it normally is with friends, but could also be random people anyway I say that it's funny because in some ways a relationship is a friendship plus a little extra or friends plus benefits rather than friends with benefits I guess.

[Work_In_Progress]

Friends with benefits..

Prepare yourself for a world of hurt.. Okay maybe not THAT much hurt, but you'll still get burned after awhile.

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

Each to their own.
But not for me, I know I'd just get way too much emotionally attached.

[Gymnophoria]

I don't think it's a good idea at all.
Mainly because for me sex is a big deal, because you love and trust someone to the point that you are giving yourself fully to them.
Obviously if it was just like Shattered Angel said and it's just cuddling and poking or whatever it's not as bad but does carry the risk of one or both parties getting hurt.
But that's just my opinion.

[BabyIndia]

Wouldn't do it myself, but You know each to there own

[don'tstopbelievin]

It's worked for me in the past but it's also gone horribly wrong.. but can't the same be said of full on relationships??

[flowerchild32273]

ive done it...no...you get attached and somebody always gets hurt. at least thats my experience

[Lorelei]

I couldn't get into a friends with benefits relationship...I have to be romantically attached to the person. Otherwise it just wouldn't feel right.

For other people...Sure, whatever floats their boat. As long as they're being safe about it and have a mutual understanding about the status of the relationship.

[TheLittleNinja]

I can understand why people do it, and I think that while it works, it's probably great. I myself couldn't get into that sort of relationship - I need a LOT of trust, and emotion within a relationship before it even gets sexual

[Keep Calm and Eat Cake]

ok, so i have a FWB. we were seeing each other last summer and we lost our virginity to each other then; although we ended up not being able to see eachother a whole lot and so i guess it was more of a "summer romance". over the past couple of months we started talking again. we met up, we had sex but we aknowleged that this time probably wouldnt be any different since we are still in the same situation with not being able to see each other a whole lot. we agreed though that theres absolutely nothing wrong with meeting up for the occassional "benefit" (lol).

i already can tell that it's probably going to end in disaster and yes, it's probably naive to let myself get to this stage, but i do really like him and i can tell my feelings will develop more in time. but at the same time i don't care. im moving a few hours away in september to go to university so im going to be saying bye to everyone i know who i see regularly then anyway, so why not make the most of this now?

i think i'd rather it be this way than not atall and i guess when it comes to that stage, i'll deal with it then.

sorry for the essay and i have no idea what my point even is. i guess just to say how yes, friends with benefits is a terrible idea but it makes me happy at the same time. our friendship has always been more than just "friends " anyway so it's not as though were sacrificing a friendship without sex.

that makes no sence probably, but im v. tierd.