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What frustrates you most? - May 5th 2010, 12:48 AM

What frustrates you most about your partner(s)?

I mean this sexually or relationship wise. I have a few biggies....

1. Laughing during sex. It's the biggest turn-off ever and makes me feel self-conscience! Am I making a weird face, or is my junk not adequate or...

2. Insecurity: Nothing bothers me more when someone doesn't act confident... even if you're not, fake it-- it's much more attractive. Insecurity does not invoke anything except pity... which I find is a turn off

3. MIND GAMES: Especially about sex. Sudden cut-offs, random days of 'not feeling like it' without explanation (not you don't WANT to, but something's putting you off), etc. Being upset without explaining why, then anger when I do not know why. It's all so annoying-- why can't people just say how they feel?

Those are my big three. And yourself?

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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 12:51 AM

defiantly agree with insecurity being a huge turn off.

i guess mind games as well, but i think everyone has their own little game, so is it really fair to say that you don't like them when you probably play them as well?

1. i can't stand when a guy acts as if he's a really cool guy when you text, and then you meet him in front of his friends and he's, well to put it nicely, lame. so basically don't act like you're someone you're not.

2. when a guy says lets sext, when you barely know him. maybe things down the road will be in your favor and you'll date, but until then leave that for another time. when a girl says no. don't push it. it makes you unattractive.

3. the clingy person. okay i understand you love me and all, but if i want to talk to my girls please leave me alone for a few minutes while i do, then we can talk. you have friends too don't you?
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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 05:08 AM

1. When we're getting heavy and heated and his phone rings...and he picks it up!
2. When either of us are too tired but we both want it
3. When he spends all his time chatting to his friends on facebook/bbm etc when he comes round my place - it's like if he wanted to chat to them he should have just stayed home. I'd much rather he didn't just blank me in my own house because his friends can't wait for a couple of hours
4. If he either gets way too clingy or just starts acting really distant for no reason.
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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 03:10 PM

When he becomes distant yet wants to have sex seemingly all the time... I mean wtf is something wrong with me/our relationship?

When he wants to tell me something, yet insists I tell him something similar first... even though I don't want to and have never brought it up.... and then complains that we don't communicate.
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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 03:25 PM

When he tells me theres something wrong but won't tell me what it is!!
OR he tells me theres something good that he wants to say but he won't spit it out!!
That gets really frustrating!

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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 08:51 PM

Your partner not seeming at all "in to it," and basically being the only person participating in foreplay.

Going more than a day without sex, and feeling like you practically need to beg for it.

Being the woman and having a higher libido than your man.

Your partner never never never being aggressive.

When your partner feels that getting to masturbate that morning is more important than having enough "supply" to able to have sex that night.

When they make a big deal out of something they did for you. Like, bragging about how much they spent on your present.

Thinking both of you are in the mood, then it turns out they aren’t. “Let’s go upstairs” meant “let’s go to sleep.”

Neither of you finishing, and seemingly great sex turns into horrible sex.

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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 09:21 PM

Being different with friends than they are with you.
When they constantly ask "whats wrong"-and there is nothing wrong.
When we are out for something to eat, and he leaves his phone on the table and looks at it every 2 minutes...
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Re: What frustrates you most? - May 7th 2010, 09:43 PM

It varies from partner to partner, but as for the current...

When he'll so readily cancel Skype calls, phone calls or text or MSN conversations to "finish work" or "go to bed," but then allows friends to come over that not only keep him from doing work but keep him up late into the night. And then when I tell him it hurts, he tells me I'm pressuring him into choosing his friends or me.

The rest we've worked out, come to a compromise on. It's this issue that we've been working at to resolve, but all in all, all it does is make me feel unimportant.

General frustrations include -
1. Not communicating with me when something is clearly wrong, i.e., being sulky and broody and talking cryptically (as in making vague, depressing comments or making morbid comments) and then getting angry with me if I ask "what's wrong" too many times or if I don't ask enough
2. People who are impatient and pushy when it comes to sex, and who decide they'd break up with any girl if she didn't have sex with them in x-amount of time
3. People who get angry at you for not saying "I love you" or expressing affection, even though they respond to those comments by saying "whatever" or "knock it off."

Perhaps this is because I've been involved with abusive partners, but that doesn't mean these things hurt any less.

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