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Unhappy Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 5th 2010, 03:43 PM

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This is going to be long, so please bear with me.

Ok, so I noticed the other day my husband was trying to inconspicuously play sex games on the internet, like those anime "Meet'N'Fuk" games, etc... I didn't say anything because, they're just games, not a turn on at all. I got on later and checked the history to just see and noticed he started watching porn too that night. Here's the deal though, he's been trying to make me "squirt" and like half of them were of girls "squirting" and also we've been playing around with anal (on him) and like the close to the other half were like girls using strap ons on a guy. Still, it concerns me that he's not satisfied with me or something. We have sex like every other night and like twice or more on the nights that we do. We even have a bondage kit and just bought a G-spot vibrator and anal beads to try out, so I wouldn't think he was bored... ?

Am I just being too worried or is it cause for concern, or is it normal for guys to watch porn even when they're satisfied with their sex life?

And it's not like he's having to watch is because he's deprived, because pretty much every time he wants to have sex and at first I don't he always winds up making me want to...

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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 5th 2010, 03:54 PM

I imagine it's normal. It would depend on his sex drive, frankly. Some men don't even want sex on a nightly basis, others only need to masturbate occasionally, and some like to masturbate in addition to having sex. I don't see it as anything to be concerned about, frankly.
   
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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 5th 2010, 04:30 PM

I don't think you should be worried. He might be watching porn for another reason, he might be watching it to learn new 'techniques' to try out.
   
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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 5th 2010, 08:46 PM

I agree with the other post.
If you feel it comes to much and things become to outlandish for you then speak to him. But like you said he watched girls "squrting" and then wanted to try and do that to you and then watched girls giving guys anal. He might just be trying to get ideas and try them out. He might want to try and spice things up. You could just try talking to him now and ask if that is what he is wanting to do.


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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 12:31 AM

yeah it sounds like he is just scouting for ideas and techniques... if you two have an active sex life and he's talking about trying the stuff out on you that he's watching... it just seems to me that he's found some new turn ons. I wouldn't feel inadiquate. If he doesn't seem like he's becoming distant, it's okay... sex drives can be quite strong for men when they are younger... and he even could be watching extra porn to suppliment his drive lol... so he doesn't kill you. I think you're good, don't worry.


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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 12:39 AM

He is a man and sometimes they like to watch porn. It may not be anything to worry about; however, if you would like him to stop and you do not like him doing so just sit him down and talk to him about it.
   
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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 03:43 AM

Yeah, most guys do watch porn, it's just something that is normal for them. I think that he is also looking out for new stuff to try out, or maybe even trying to learn something for himself?



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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 05:45 AM

It's completely normal. If he takes more interest in porn than he takes interest in you, THEN you would have a problem. But it seems that he balances it out -- and I see no problem with it. The truth is that porn is a fantastic way to learn about your loved one. As you probably already noticed, it is the most effective way (and easiest) to find out what your husband fantasizes about. He's probably just experimenting -- getting some ideas for the real action. I think we all kinda want to spice up the sex life a bit. In fact, I encourage you to watch porn with him. Lots of couples do it, and it really brings you and him closer together.



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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 10:29 AM

I laugh every time I see one of these threads. There REALLY should be a sticky (Pun intended) about this...

NO... YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE ALARMED.

Why? Because all guys do it. I'm in a healthy sexual relationship... and I still go home and watch porn. Either it's because you're not home when he's after sex... or you're not in the mood. Hell... I know I do it because there's some stuff that porn can satisfy (such as my urge/fantasies of watching others etc) that my girlfriend can't. Most women take offence to this... but really, why?

Just let him watch his porn, join in with him occasionally... learn the fantasies that he has, and decide if you want to help fulfill them or let the porn take care of it.


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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 12:28 PM

It's normal. Or, I'd assume so at least.
I live with my boyfriend, and we regularly watch porn together.

I don't think it's because he's not satisfied with you. Maybe he was just horny and wanted to watch something that really turned him on, instead of bothering you or asking you for sex.
That's just my opinion. Hope I helped a little.



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Re: Reason for concern? - husband watching porn - July 6th 2010, 07:58 PM

Thanks everyone,
and we do watch it together, I just can't watch guys it kinda creeps me out so we just watch lesbian porn together haha.
But I do plan on talking to him if it seems to get progressively worse.
I'm just a worrier, thanks for the encouragement.



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