Dealing with the Opposite Sex

[Kyeto-X]

Ok, so I ws wonderinghow everyone feels about dealing head on with the obivious differences in our two sexes. Are guys as creeped out by periods as girls assume? Are girls are as offended by random boners as guys think? How comfortable are you with just talking to your boyfriend or girlfrined about what's going on in your body? Or just talking to your guy/chick friends?

Any stories/ Why or Whay nots? you know the drill. Spin us some yarn

(Not tagged...so keep it clean if you can)

[taylalatbh.]

I talk to my boyfriend about all of it. His bits, and my bits. It's just added to daily conversations now. It wasn't at first, but after a while it's like second nature to talk about it. I think it's good when couples can share things like that.

As for general guys and girls. I wouldn't really assume any 'mature' guy is that grossed out by periods. They should know its happening and all about it and everything. So there's really no reason to be all icky about it. And as for girls with guys boners, I don't think it's anything to worry about. I think it's cute.

[MaggzB]

me and my boyfriend talk pretty openly about everything. expecially when it comes to me on my period because i gett pretty intense pains and what not he always wants to know if he can help me feel better. [back massage <3] a
also with him we talk about all the bits god gave us. its pretty natural now not at first but its like second nature haha

[Justin Bieber]

I'll answer as if I were still dating someone xD
I don't mind talking about my period at all. Some of my boyfriends found it gross and didn't want to venture down there at all, but one was totally fine with it. So I really think guys have totally different views about periods. A few of my past boyfriends would rub my tummy or back to help me feel better. Actually, I was in school once and was texting him about my cramps and how I forgot tylenol... and he ran to the store in his free block and brought me back tylenol... so cute
As for boners... if I am dating a guy and he randomly gets hard... it's like the best thing ever. I love ittttttt. And I automatically want to hug and kiss him and make him feel oh-so-special. Such a turn on.

I'm pretty open about my body (usually?), but especially with boyfriends. But I know some people who aren't... it really depends.

[PlayingPretend]

Originally Posted by Ronald Weasley

I'll answer as if I were still dating someone xD
I don't mind talking about my period at all. Some of my boyfriends found it gross and didn't want to venture down there at all, but one was totally fine with it. So I really think guys have totally different views about periods. A few of my past boyfriends would rub my tummy or back to help me feel better. Actually, I was in school once and was texting him about my cramps and how I forgot tylenol... and he ran to the store in his free block and brought me back tylenol... so cute
As for boners... if I am dating a guy and he randomly gets hard... it's like the best thing ever. I love ittttttt. And I automatically want to hug and kiss him and make him feel oh-so-special. Such a turn on.

I'm pretty open about my body (usually?), but especially with boyfriends. But I know some people who aren't... it really depends.

Even though I've only had one boyfriend, I'm pretty much exactly the same.

[Stained Dreamer]

my boyfriend and i are open about everything. great example is today- i was having HUGE cramps and my back was KILLING me. he knew it was period pains so he massaged my back to try to help. I give him a hug afterwards and he has a huge boner from rubbing all up and down my back. neither of us mind (i take his boners as a compliment actually!) and we're doing great.

[Allons-y!]

We're open. We talk about it. Nothing offends me in terms of my boyfriend. I'm not sure how I'd react to a random boner from a guy I wasn't dating. If I noticed, I probably wouldn't say anything--it's embarrassing enough for them as it is, and I understand they can't always control it.

[MacGuffin]

There are absolutely no boundaries between us. We talk about all things physical going on with one another, and neither of us is bashful about it.

[Kyeto-X]

Originally Posted by Superstar

There are absolutely no boundaries between us. We talk about all things physical going on with one another, and neither of us is bashful about it.

I wish more people were like this . Some people get all squimy about those types of discussions, even at 20-30. I mean...you ARE adults. we CAN talk about this and not be grossed out. Any man who is 18 and does not know that women have periods and what it entails are either ignorant, or raised on mars.

Same thing with random boners... -____- we can't control it ladies... and honestly...we bathe, we clean ourselves.

Granted, i don't think we should advertise it to the masses "I HAVE A BONER!!" but we should at least be comfortabrle with telling our significant others about this

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Any man who is 18 and does not know that women have periods and what it entails are either ignorant, or raised on mars.

Well, that's not necessarily true. I know a lot of girls who don't even know what a period really is. And if a boy has either not had proper sex education or has only had "male" sex education, then how would he know?

My boyfriend knew that girls have periods, but he didn't really know what it was before I explained. He didn't realise that the bleeding was pretty much continuous for 5 days. He thought it literally just happened one time a month. Which would be more preferable :P. He wasn't ignorant, but schools tend to separate boys and girls when they have sex education, so they wouldn't really tell boys very much about periods.

We talk about everything though. Especially with me moderating the S&P forum, I tend to ask him a lot of questions that I don't know how to answer (so usually the male questions) and I tell him about a lot of the other questions that appear.

I think I would be fairly comfortable discussing stuff with my male friends, but most of my male friends probably wouldn't be comfortable. They are a bit immature at times.

[LittleMiss]

It doesn't bother me because I'm incredibly honest and I say how I feel.

Random boners on people other than my boyfriend are funny (they are on my bf too), but on him it's also flattering to know that's how I make him feel.

It is quite funny how, at the pool, because we play a water sport together, he won't let me hug him or even stand too close because he's only wearing speedos.

We talk about my period too, mostly because my boyfriend wants to know when I don't feel like any sort of sexual behaviour because I have it or whether he has to hide and feed me chocolate from under a table.

[Alrex]

If I can fart or take a crap on the toilet without the girl being grossed out/vice versa, I will be happy.

My bag of humour is quite disturbing and full of poo and toilet jokes

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

We're open about everything. If I have a question I ask it, and vice versa....
I still dont think he totally "gets" PMS (who does?!) how I'm moody one minute, and fine the next, but he knows what makes me feel better!

[PunkRoxS9]

My boyfriend isn't creeped out by periods or anything, like the other week when I was on, and we couldn't do that much sexually I kept apologising but he was like "why apologise, its only natural" so, yeah, he's pretty awesome about it. And he'll cuddle me when I'm on and I have bad cramps =]
As for random boners, I take them as a compliment =] x

[Ellie]

Originally Posted by Kyeto-X

Any man who is 18 and does not know that women have periods and what it entails are either ignorant, or raised on mars.

Originally Posted by ShimmeringFaerie

Well, that's not necessarily true. I know a lot of girls who don't even know what a period really is. And if a boy has either not had proper sex education or has only had "male" sex education, then how would he know?

I'm one of those girls and I'm what? 20 and a girl xD I have a period so surely I should know what they are, right? I know physically what happens but it's only recently that I found out the more biological side. I thought that eggs were created each month, I never actually knew that a woman already has eggs in her ovaries. But to be honest I'm not afraid to admit that I didn't know because I also know I'm not the only person who doesn't. Although people know that women have a period it can be quite different from knowing what one actually is and even how women are effected and experience them.

I'm single at the moment but in my last relationship we were open with each other about our bodies and what we were experiencing. I was really embarassed the first time I told my boyfriend that I was on my period but he was really supportive and from there our relationship became closer.

[Boobies]

Nature is nature, what ever it is I'll get over it (y)

I'm not easily grossed out and I like for my signif-other to tell me what's up with them and everything so it's to be expected.

[kadyCHAOS]

me and my boyfriend are totally open with everything. periods are natural, sure they limit you a little sexually but theres no reason to get embarassed about it or grossed out really.

and random boners? huge turn on for me.

[Nightmare]

I can answer for both sides:
From my girlfriend's perception, she loves it when I'm with her and I will just suddenly get an erection. She'll laugh and kiss me and it turns her on. If we're on the phone talking about our sexual ventures or something similar she'll often ask "Are you pointing right now?" (Her term for an erection) and if the answer is no it can actually sadden her.

I don't get freaked or grossed out by her periods. The only thing we don't do when she has it is oral (we haven't had sex), but I'll still finger her, in fact she's extra horny when she has her period.)

[Simplyme7]

My boyfriend and I talk about everything. I found it to be a little bit ackward at first to talk about things like my period and his problems, but as the relationship has grown, It doesn't bother me in the least. He is very understanding when I go through my major PMS problems, and I know that I can confide in him with anything. Now that I've been like this with him, I find it to be a very important part of a relationship.

[Brandon]

I believe in being totally honest with some people. My best friends know everything about me. It's funny because whenever we went to movies and there was a sex scene we were like "BONER CHECK" and we'd all stand up. Lmao. I think that if someone wants to know all about me, they deserve to know alllllll about me. lol