the parking lot with my bf

[ally34]

hey my bf and i are both 19. he had one other gf in the past when he was in gr10 or something and they kissed but i was the first girl he made out with and this other girl was a everyones got a gf kinda thing ; i want one too and didnt last. as for me i also have one ex but we got more a history and we were on and off and i did more with him then my current bf did with his ex (i guess u can say i was more experienced but we never had sex or close to it) long story short my ex was an ass and lied and cheated on me

i've now been with my bf a year and 10 months and i love him so much. hes a really nice guy and treats me well. he the kinda guy to not rush things, i think he waited a good 9 months to say i love you, he didnt kiss me right away when we met we were friends first, he doesnt pressure anything. we talked about sex before actually and we kind of both agreed early 20s but someone special that you've been with for a long time, that you could see yourself marrying. without being graphic hes done stuff down there to me and wanted me to give him a hj but i didnt under his underwear just over. but nothing past keeping the underwear/bra on and his underwear on

i just started driving and i was driving him home and it was late at night. he was saying no ally dont go yet.. lets just go chill in a parking lot? and at first i thought he was joking and i was like ahuh and do what? and hes like stuffff. but then after i realized he wasnt joking but i had to get home anyways. now tomrw i have night class and then he was guna met me at his school and i'll have the car. do you think he'll want to go to a parking lot? do you think i should. is it wierd we didnt have sex after being together so long. ? do you think he really was joking about the parking lot?

[taylalatbh.]

You only way you'll know if he was joking or not is if you ask him. I don't think it's such a big deal that you sit in a parking lot in your car, me and my boyfriend do it all the time and we don't always do sexual things. And if you do it, and your boyfriend wants to do something sexual, and you don't want to, just tell him no, he'll be fine with that.

I think you've been in the relationship a long time, and you may feel ready to experiment with each other, which is fine. As long as you're both ready, feel comfortable and you might want to talk about it first, then you might want to try a few sexual things. But it's all down to when you're both ready to. It's not weird that you haven't had sex yet though, you should do it when you both feel comfortable with it.

Only do what you're comfortable doing, and there's nothing wrong with parking up with him and just chatting, having some fun and seeing where things go. If you've got any concerns just talk to him a bit first. You're obviously both very close so he shouldn't mind.

Take care

[Crispy]

Pretty much echoing from above, ask him. If you want to and he wants to DO IT! If not, only do what your happy with

[Simplyme7]

Just because you go to a parking lot doesn't mean that you have to have sex. I mean you could just go there to get away. My bf and I do that quite often. And if you don't feel comfortable with having sex, then tell him. He should respect that. I also personally think that going from always having bra/underwear on to full blown sex is a big step. But that's just my opinion. As far as going to the parking lot or not, just do what you are comfortable with. I mean seriously, even if you go there and decide that you don't want to be there, you can just leave again. That's the nice thing about being in a car. xD

I hope everything works out well for you.

God Bless. =]

[Kyeto-X]

THere is no reall way to know what he is thinking or not unless you are a telepath or you ASK HIM. If you ever think he is trying to trick you into doing something sexual, ask him what he wants to do and press hi9m for a real answer.

You do not have to do ANYTHING sexual with him just because you have been together or because you love him or you are old enough or any other criteria besides you feel 100% completly ready. There is not (or should not) be a deadline where you have to have sex or dump him. Just because you are in a parking lot, his bedroom or a 5 star honeymoon suite, does not mean you have to have sex with him.

If you ever feel uncomfortable in any situation with your boyfriend, stop him, and be very clear and short in your statement. If he continues...and you still feel uncomforable, get out! Leave the situation, and go home if you can. You can always get back to him later and make things up to him (Meaning you patch your relationship and talk thing over, not meaning you give him a sexual favor).

If you have any questions, we are here for you. Keep us posted.