Female Advice Preferred: Addicted to masturbation & vibrators

[DivingCheska]

I know I have talked about how I'm pretty damn sure I'm addicted to masturbating and it might have something to do with being molested at the age of like 3-6 and then again and 15.
Anyways
This is getting really annoying no matter how much I want to stop touching myself or not masturbate for a day I can't. Take today for an instant for about the last 4 hours I have been masturbating and i tried stopping awhile ago and I couldn't even when it starts to hurt I can't. And I'm also pretty sure I have never had an orgasom which is wierd since i do it so fucking much
Does anyone have any ideas on why the fuck I can't stop this or have an orgasom.

Also
I've been thinking if I get a dildo or vibrater do you think that would help with the orgasom and then maybe even get me to have relief so I can quit masturbating for the day?

Also do you think I'm wierd for being addicted to this? And is it normal or not?

[hotgurl231]

a good idea may be to get a vibrator or didldo. but yo might to talk to yor parents or guardians about it first.

[Sythan]

I don't believe you can become addicted to masturbation. Sure its fun, and I do it whenever I can, it feels great, relieves anxiety, and reduces the risk of me getting Prostate Cancer.

Some people just have a greater sex drive than others.

[aidensmommy]

Masturbation is a perfectly normal thing, nothing to be ashamed of, and no one should judge because of it, including yourself, if it makes you happy, then why not?
If you find it to be a problem, you could reduce the time you spend masturbating or atleast break it up through out the day and perhaps consider seeing a specialist, as far as the experimentation of vibrators and things, that's perfectly healthy and I think it's a wonderful idea especially if your goal is to reach an orgasm.
Good Luck, hope it helps

[TheLittleNinja]

Hey there Frankie!

The truth is - you CAN become addicted to anything. However, we only usually classify things as an 'addiction' if they begin to interfere with your everyday life... For example in your case, if you were to choose masturbating over writing that essay, or choosing to masturbate instead of cooking dinner... Do you feel this is you? If you DO, then perhaps it IS time to seek professional help.

Out of interest, have you ever spoken to anyone about the molesting that went on in your childhood? Do you have a counsellor or therapist that you already talk to? If you do, then try and bring it up with them. If you don't then maybe think about seeking one just to have a chat! I know it may be an embarrassing subject to talk about openly - but if you don't and if it IS affecting your life in a negative way - then it needs to be sorted out....AND, professionals deal in this sort of stuff everyday of the week - so they've heard it all before!!

Also, do you that you always wanting to masturbate might be because you want to orgasm or achieve your first orgasm? If THIS is the case, then yes I would certainly say invest in a vibrator - because if anything can help you achieve an orgasm - one of those can! Just try out a simple one to start with though - so as to not overwhelm or scare yourself!

Finally, have you tried distracting yourself from masturbation? If ever you feel like you 'need' to masturbate but you don't 'want' to - then try and put yourself somewhere where you can't...For example, go out for a walk, go and be in a room full of other people. Or try an focus on completing another activity to take your mind of the 'need' to masturbate.

I hope this helps!
TakeCare xx

Ps. As Courtney said, Masturbation is a perfectly normal thing to want to do, and remember also that some people have higher sex drives/libido's than others!!

[jklawlzlmao]

When I first started masturbating, I really enjoyed it, but I couldn't seem to climax. I tried many, MANY different things to get me there, but none of them worked. The final thing I tried before deciding I was just one of those women who couldn't have an orgasm was that I knew there was a removable shower faucet in my parents jacuzzi/ bathtub. I had heard the vibration of the water could work for some people and so I tried it. Not even that worked! But just before giving up I tried using the jets in the jacuzzi. It took me maybe 5 minutes before having the greatest feeling of my entire life, one that left me with butterflies in my stomach for maybe an hour afterwards. Try to find what works for you, maybe you should get a vibrator and I don't think you have a problem. Its true, some people just have a higher sexual drive than others. Hope I could help.

[DylantG93]

Maybe you can't stop because you was molested. You are hiding that emotion, that fear. maybe because you do it you are trying to prevent your self from getting hurt. if you ever want to talk, i will listen. you dont have to be that strong, it is ok to cry. i hope this helps. you got to be able to love your self, before you can forgive the ones who hurt you. other wise they have power over you they dont deserve God bless

[InDenial1992]

Masturbation isn't a bad thing at all. Many girls will experiment as their needs grow.
I personally think you can get addicted to anything, including masturbation.
The amount of time you spend doing it is nothing to worry about. I'm sure at some point everyone will be like you are.
Maybe a dildo or vibrater will help you cut back a bit because it will give you more satisfaction than you can give yourself.
Hope this helps

Xx

[Trayhotz]

I think it is only a problem or weird if you like more than sex. Maybe you need sex frequently to fill that void. Try more sex it's fun.

[Disastrously Rose]

I agree with 'TheLittleNinja' when it comes to the idea that you can be addicted to anything. In fact, I have had a rough time getting over reading erotica and masturbating. I have seeked for help and advice, and one of the main things people say is that masturbating is normal and that more people than you would think, do it. In my opinion, and from the accumulative arrays of advice, masturbating is a natural thing you do to releave yourself of sexual tension. Which leads me to the idea that you mentioned, and it's that you keep masturbating to orgasm.

I know this probably isn't it but maybe it's that you aren't touching the right spot, or maybe it's that you need something more (like more pressure?), to fufill your needs. After all, everyone's body is different and because of that everyone's body is designed for sexual pleasure in slightly different ways. I think buying a dildo or a vibrator, which ever appeals to you more, and try them out. Only if you feel comfortable with those items, of course. And see if that helps you orgasm more often.

If this doesn't work and you can't find anything else to fufill your needs, I suggest you try to cut back on masturbating (only if you feel you need to though) and by this you can do simple things like going to dinner with some friends or just finding an interesting show on TV. You can try to break the masturbation down gradually, like about an hour a day, to 30 mins., to 15 mins., to every other day, and so on. You can also reward yourself, for example, you have gone a full day without masturbating so you treat yourself to a chocolate bar or something to that effect.

Quitting any sort of addiction is hard, but I know you can get through this with strength.

Have courage,
Scarlett

x

[tamz]

Hey,

maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes when you think about having an orgasm, you just can't do it and get frustrated quite easily. I definitely agree that a vibrator may help, it's easier to just go with the moment with one. I wouldn't worry about how much you did it but it is possible your childhood is having an influence on it. If you haven't already done so, I suggest you talk to someone about the molestering, even though it's hard, it will help in the long run.

Best of luck, xx

[DivingCheska]

Originally Posted by TheLittleNinja

Hey there Frankie!

The truth is - you CAN become addicted to anything. However, we only usually classify things as an 'addiction' if they begin to interfere with your everyday life... For example in your case, if you were to choose masturbating over writing that essay, or choosing to masturbate instead of cooking dinner... Do you feel this is you? If you DO, then perhaps it IS time to seek professional help.

Out of interest, have you ever spoken to anyone about the molesting that went on in your childhood? Do you have a counsellor or therapist that you already talk to? If you do, then try and bring it up with them. If you don't then maybe think about seeking one just to have a chat! I know it may be an embarrassing subject to talk about openly - but if you don't and if it IS affecting your life in a negative way - then it needs to be sorted out....AND, professionals deal in this sort of stuff everyday of the week - so they've heard it all before!!

Also, do you that you always wanting to masturbate might be because you want to orgasm or achieve your first orgasm? If THIS is the case, then yes I would certainly say invest in a vibrator - because if anything can help you achieve an orgasm - one of those can! Just try out a simple one to start with though - so as to not overwhelm or scare yourself!

Finally, have you tried distracting yourself from masturbation? If ever you feel like you 'need' to masturbate but you don't 'want' to - then try and put yourself somewhere where you can't...For example, go out for a walk, go and be in a room full of other people. Or try an focus on completing another activity to take your mind of the 'need' to masturbate.

I hope this helps!
TakeCare xx

Ps. As Courtney said, Masturbation is a perfectly normal thing to want to do, and remember also that some people have higher sex drives/libido's than others!!

I know it's a normal thing to do but the amount I do it and the fact that I know I'm addicted to it sucks. No I have not talked to a professional about this and I never will considering that is embarrassing and I already have enough problems talking with them. No I have not really talked about what happened to me considering I can't remember a damn thing about it so there is no way someone can talk about something when they don't remember it happening...But don't get me wrong it did happen and that I know for sure.

Thank you for all the help you guys.

[.TJ.]

Don't use a vibrator, excessive use *will* desensitize you and will make it harder to have orgasm during intercourse.

[DivingCheska]

Originally Posted by Clyde

Don't use a vibrator, excessive use *will* desensitize you and will make it harder to have orgasm during intercourse.

No offence but how do you know your a Guy and I honestly don't want guys opinion ions beecause they more than likley don't know what there saying

[tamz]

Originally Posted by SMILING*to*HIDE*the*TRUTH

No offence but how do you know your a Guy and I honestly don't want guys opinion ions beecause they more than likley don't know what there saying

Hey love,

He's right ya know. As much as us girls hate to admit a guy is right :P It can desensitize you if you use it to much and it could become that you can't orgasm without one. That said, you would have to use it a fair bit before that could happen.

[.TJ.]

Originally Posted by SMILING*to*HIDE*the*TRUTH

No offence but how do you know your a Guy and I honestly don't want guys opinion ions beecause they more than likley don't know what there saying

Believe what you want, I honestly don't care. I'm just trying to help But you may want to believe me being my source *is* an MD I work with nearly every day.

[Alicia.C]

Sex and masturbation can be addictions. I was molested as a child and raped as a teen. For a while, sex was my big thing, along with drugs and what have you. And the things girls do for it all. :/ Anyway, go talk to a counsellor or something, you need to get the memories settled because it's obviously bothering you. I can tell.
TJ is right that vibrators desensitize you, but, don't go out and buy the biggest, strongest vibrator with 10 different speeds and 6 different flexible positions. lol Buy a little one that just slides onto your finger or something. Something simple and not too harsh. I personally think a toy might help if orgasm is what your aim is. Do you think that's why you masturbate so often? Because you have yet to have an orgasm?

[--.redpanda.--]

I know what this is like. I used to be an addict. I used to masturbate every night. Now, I rarely do so. It is just a sex drive that is controlled by your estrogen and a bunch of other hormones that us females have. I know that it is tough to listen to a male when he is trying to give advice,{No offense Clyde} but he is right. If you masturbate too much it can cause you to fail at feeling the pleasure during intercourse.

I got over it after my doctor gave me birth control. So, I'm not going to say go on birth control, but maybe talk to one of your male friends. I'm not trying to put down men and say they are toys, but friends with benefits helps also.

[DeadlySin]

Hahah then i'm a masturbation addict too.
Lately I've just been horny and me and my boyfriend have been having a lot of fun.
I could never orgasm unless I have a vibrator. So yes i'd say that helps.
Generally after orgasming i'm fine then.
So you're probably just like me and it's more sexual frustration or sexual build up. Try using toys and then maybe you'll calm down. =P

[DivingCheska]

Originally Posted by weaseltheepic

I know what this is like. I used to be an addict. I used to masturbate every night. Now, I rarely do so. It is just a sex drive that is controlled by your estrogen and a bunch of other hormones that us females have. I know that it is tough to listen to a male when he is trying to give advice,{No offense Clyde} but he is right. If you masturbate too much it can cause you to fail at feeling the pleasure during intercourse.

I got over it after my doctor gave me birth control. So, I'm not going to say go on birth control, but maybe talk to one of your male friends. I'm not trying to put down men and say they are toys, but friends with benefits helps also.

I know this it's just ugh like I said before I have been masturbating like this since I was 4-5 how can a five year old have a sex drive? I don't know what to do anymore...This is to embarrasing to talk to a doctor about. I don't have any toys so im screwed there and I'm also screwed in the sex department for diffrent reasons: 1) nobody will ever wanna be with me 2) I don't wanna have sex until I'm married 3) so with the second reason stated I'm never going to be able to have sex
This sucks

[Revolution]

There is nothing wrong with masturbation, but if you were molested as a child, and you believe this has to do with your view on it, you may want to talk to a counselor about this.
I would recommend you get a vibrator, especially if you do not want to have sex before marriage. It really helps. Plus, a large percentage of girls cannot have an orgasm during sex, and it's good to explore your sexuality.
And someone will want to be with you someday. But if you're 19, you're in no hurry, enjoy your own sexuality.

[DivingCheska]

Originally Posted by Alicia.C

Anyway, go talk to a counsellor or something, you need to get the memories settled because it's obviously bothering you. I can tell.

Buy a little one that just slides onto your finger or something. Something simple and not too harsh. I personally think a toy might help if orgasm is what your aim is. Do you think that's why you masturbate so often? Because you have yet to have an orgasm?

You can't really talk about something that you can't even remember it ever happening.

[Alicia.C]

Actually, you can. You may not remeber what happened, but it still has effect on your mental state. It's not the fact of talking over the details, it's the fact of letting it go and being able to move past it confidently and comfortably.

[Imi]

I went through a phase not too long ago of spending every spare minute I could masturbating - I'd spend hours watching porn, or just masturbating...I bought a vibrator, but actually that didn't work as well. But, without even realising it till I stumbled across this thread, I've stopped doing it nearly so often - so it's most likely just a phase, a long one, perhaps, like mine, - mine was like four-five years, but you will grow out of it! I do recommend you see a counsellor about the sexual abuse, though. I've been sexually abused and see a counsellor for it. It helps. =]

[DivingCheska]

Originally Posted by Alicia.C

Actually, you can. You may not remeber what happened, but it still has effect on your mental state. It's not the fact of talking over the details, it's the fact of letting it go and being able to move past it confidently and comfortably.

Yes I get that but when it has happened with three diffrent people you kind of just accept the fact that it will probably happen to me again or even worse...and I've accepted the fact that I'm most likley going to be sexually taken advadage of again...so there's not really a point to letting go because as soon as I do it will probably happen again sorry this was a little of topic