Female Advice Preferred: Masturbation & Orgasms

[DivingCheska]

I started masturbating at the age of about 5 years old. I am now 19 years old the thing is I masturbate so much I pretty much do it any chance I get when ever I'm in my room on my computer, or watching t.v. The thing is it's not a pleasurable as it should be. I do finger myself sometimes but the problem is I don't get that much out of it. Is there a right or wrong way for fingering? Also I still have no clue if I have ever had an orgasm. When I masturbate I get to a point where I feel like I have to pee but then I automatically stop...I know when you have an orgasm you are out of control. The thing is I have to be in control of my body. Do you think that might be the reason why? If it is what can I do to achieve orgasm and also is there anyway to get more out of fingering myself?

[Aletheia*]

Hey Frankie,
Well, I'm sure if you've seen other threads, you'd understand that not every female can have an orgasm. About 20-40% of woman can actually orgasm.
To answer your questions, you might just not be able to reach certain spots when you're masturbating. This is why I purely focus on clitoral stimulation instead of inside penetration. I find it more pleasurable anyway.
If you're tense when trying to have an orgasm, or you're trying to force yourself, it just won't happen. Try new techniques, and see how that goes. Doing the same thing over and over again will eventually become boring and will make it a lot harder to get to the Big O.

[Angel]

Originally Posted by ShannonPants

Hey Frankie, Well, I'm sure if you've seen other threads, you'd understand that not every female can have an orgasm. About 20-40% of woman can actually orgasm.

I'm curious, where are you getting this statistic from? Do you mean to say that a specific percentage of women can achieve orgasm? Or is this number for women who have ever achieved orgasm?

Frankie, try emptying out your bladder before you masturbate. This way, when you feel like you need to urinate it probably isn't the case. Do you feel a build up of pleasure before you feel like you need to pee? Some orgasms, especially of the g-spot variety, can cause a similar feeling in women. When totally relaxed, female ejaculation may occur. Try relaxing a bit and see where that takes you.

We can't give out techniques, but you can always Google them. There are loads of sites with tips and tricks you can experiment with.

[Revolution]

I would consider toys. They do make things a little more fun, give you some other ways to experiment. Other than that, I would be doing clitoral stimulation, I agree with Shannonpants, that's more pleasurable to me as well.
And just experiment, and let yourself have that moment. It's masterbation, you are in control of your body.