Sex or Not?

[VictoriasSecret]

I'm having an issue and any advice will be appreciated.
Lately, I've been wanting to lose my virginity pretty badly and I'm not sure why. And I'm sure I would have no problem doing so. I've been asked before, but I'd thought, "Oh, why would I do that? I'm to young." But now I just feel like I don't give a damn anymore. But there is still a part of my that says I'm young. And I know that when I start having sex, I'm going to have to ask my mom for birth control, and that's a conversation I just don't want to get into.
I'm broken! Part of me says "Sure! You don't give a damn", and then another part of me says "No! You're way to young, learn some self respect!"
Please Help! Thanks!

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

I would not do it. For at least two reasons one if you are 13 you are under the age of consent most everywhere in the west and other first-world nations. Secondly, once you have had sex there is NO taking it back you have lost it and no matter how much you regret it you can not change it.
Also as you yourself pointed out you would have to either tell your mother to get birth control or she would more than likely find out, even if you never did get Pregnant or get a STI or STD. For all of these reasons sex this young is NOT worth it.

[MacGuffin]

Having sex is an important decision to make, as it comes with a number of physical and emotional consequences. It shouldn't be made because you just want to lose your virginity or you "don't give a damn;" that's probably not the best way to go about it. While I cannot in good conscience advise a thirteen year old to have sex, know that to have sex is your own decision, and you shouldn't base it on worries of what other people will think. Just be sure that, if you do decide to have sex, you are properly prepared to handle the consequences. This may include, if people find out about it, having judgement passed upon you.

That said, if even a little part of you is saying you aren't sure about having sex, then it's probably a good idea to abstain from doing so. This is especially true if you don't think you can have a conversation about asking your mother for birth control. If you're going to have sex, you need to be responsible, and birth control is the most responsible way to do that on your part; if you can't be open with your mom about your desire to have sex and get birth control, then you are probably not ready to have sex. Wait until you A) Feel ready to have sex completely and B) You can talk to your mother about getting on birth control.

[VictoriasSecret]

My location on my page is wrong, I am from the east. (:
But I understand your point.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Originally Posted by VictoriasSecret

My location on my page is wrong, I am from the east. (:
But I understand your point.

Still if you have sex with someone who is over the age of consent you are both breaking the law and he/she could face criminal charges, even if you did consent since you are a minor.

[VictoriasSecret]

The guy I am debating this for is only one year older than me.

[Maloo]

Regardless of his age, I can tell you're not ready from your original post. You're having doubts, so I wouldn't do it.

[Revolution]

I wouldn't lose your virginity until all of you is ready, you are on birth control, and you're with somebody that you trust 100% and are completely comfortable with. It's not the age thing, it's that you're not completely sure. And that's okay, I didn't lose my virginity until I was almost 18, so there is nothing wrong with you, you're not prude. Just wait until you're ready. PM me if you ever need.

[Aletheia*]

Doubts = not ready. Even if you question yourself for one second, you should realize that you aren't ready to take that step.

[Sythan]

Have sex when you feel ready that you are capable of handling the positive and negative consequences of sex. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing it, do it when you feel ready. If you decide to, remember to always wear a condom to prevent STDs and Pregnancy.

[TheWhiteTornado]

In my opinion, I think anything under 16 is too young, but to each his own.

Anyways, that aside, if there's any doubt in your mind, I'd say wait. There are some pretty hefty consequences that wouldn't be worth risking if you were to do it on impulse and find that you regret it. I'd say that you wanting to lose it is just the hormones arriving.

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

Hi there

If you are having any doubts at all about having sex, then it probably suggests that you are not ready.

There is a lot of consequences to having sex, would you be prepared to risk them?

If you are going to have sex, then I would strongly suggest that you use birth control, and not wanting to/not feeling comfortable yet to ask for birth control would suggest to me that you are not ready.

Take your time, think things through and dont rush into anything, you are only young and have plenty of time.

Take care