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Masturbation Fears - July 25th 2011, 07:25 AM

Okay, so I'm 18 and I just recently decided to start masturbating. I had way too much sexual build up. Regardless, the first time I did it, I felt guilty. Because both of my parents always told me they thought it was disgusting. And I had thought the Bible said not to. But I had done research and founding nothing in the bible was against self-pleasure. I told my mom about it and she said she really didn't have an opinion on masturbation and didn't really care if I did it. Okay, parental guilt off. I honestly don't care what they think anymore.

Now I'm more concerned about how much is too much masturbation? I honestly don't want to become...addicted? and do it all the time. But even sometimes after I masturbate, I might still get horny about 30 minutes to an hour later. Of course, I've just moved and have nothing to do and nothing to keep my mind occupied, so I think I get aroused more because I have nothing to do.

And then I feel bad because I'll tell myself "Okay, not gonna masturbate for a while...then I usually end up doing it anyway. " (it's almost comical)

Lol I tried watching porn (I kind of want to laugh now, some of it was soooo far out there.) and I really would like to keep that to a minimum (I'm afraid of having an addictive personality.)

Also, one last little problemo. Is it weird to think random things while masturbating? Like one time my cousin popped into my mind (not doing anything naughty- just his face) and it was only for a split second. This scared me because I thought I was turned on by him and he's young. And I think I just wasn't in the mood enough so my mind wandered and I didn't think anything dirty- so I pretty much just brushed it off. Lol I started freaking out though at first because I'm always afraid of becoming like the guy who raped me when I was little and I don't want to have the same focus on kids as he might have had.

So yeah, help is really appreciated since I'm new at this. I don't want to feel bad about it (feeling better the more I do it, I guess) but I guess I'm just afraid of it being too much and taking over my life, since it seems like once I want to masturbate there's not much I can do to hold back (depending on how horny I am; lol I'm not gonna masturbate in public. )


   
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Re: Masturbation Fears - July 25th 2011, 09:49 PM

Don't worry about the random thoughts, that happens to me too its probably because your not very into it and that lets your mind wander. And there is no reason to feel guilty about masturbation, its something that most people do and its just consider odd when its openly talked about (with certain people). I never have had problems with it taking over, constantly thinking about it or anything, when I get bored it pops into my head but its never been an overwhelming need to do it. You shouldn't have a problem with becoming addicted, in my mind, unless you have a past with addiction. There's nothing wrong or weird about what you have said
   
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Re: Masturbation Fears - July 26th 2011, 12:31 AM

There is no set amount of time that is "too much" to masturbate. The general rule of thumb is that if it is keeping you from your daily responsibilities, you are probably doing it too much.

I wouldn't worry too much about having an addictive personality. It isn't a sign of personal failure if you say you won't masturbate and you do, either. Just allow yourself to explore for right now, and don't worry about getting too sucked in. It's very unlikely that you will shirk school work, friends, and family all for the sake of self pleasure, so I wouldn't worry too much.

Also, thinking random thoughts during masturbation is normal. Happens all the time to a lot of people. It doesn't mean you secretly want to screw your cousin or anything, it means you are normal.


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Re: Masturbation Fears - August 1st 2011, 04:15 PM

i only skimmed it , didnt read the whole thing, it was a bit long for me, i have a short attention span, but to be honest, most 18 year olds do far worse things than masturbate. the only part that is pretty weird is the fact u told ur parents......

yea , religious households are often like this. no big deal, just keep it secret, and dont tell the entire world like u did with this post.
   
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Re: Masturbation Fears - August 1st 2011, 04:24 PM

Like the first two posters said, there really isn't a way of masturbating "too much," but if you're worried, then just limit yourself to doing it last thing at night, while you're in bed. That way, you won't associate other everyday tasks with masturbating. Also, it means you won't want to carry on after you've done it once. Because you'll probably fall asleep - it helps you fall asleep too!

As for the random thoughts thing, don't worry about it, it's normal

And if you want to do it less, occupy yourself with going out with friends, or playing a sport or something, so you don't have too much free time!

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Re: Masturbation Fears - August 1st 2011, 04:34 PM

Masturbating is fine in moderation. Its proven masturbating can relieve stress to some degree. If you let your sex drive take over there’s a good chance you’re going to do something foolish and end up regretting the whole situation. Don’t do anything that you have to think twice about.
   
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Re: Masturbation Fears - August 2nd 2011, 08:52 AM

The more bored you are, the more you'll masturbate. It IS addictive, but there are definitely more rewarding activities. The answer is easy - keep yourself busy. At least that works for me

About the random thoughts... What do you usually think about while you masturbate? Because I have noticed I have a real difficulty keeping my mind on one topic/person/situation. My mind just wanders until I am aroused enough to not think about anything. So I guess anything's fine. After all, imagination helps us learn our own borders. You can use yours to explore what you like and who you like without actually having to risk your friendships or get hurt.
   
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