is this bad?

[pursuit-of-happiness]

is it bad if the second time i hung out with this guy after meeting him we made out and i let him finger me...im worried that i take things too fast when i get caught up in the morning and then the next day i regret it

[justfallinginlove]

I wouldn't say it's bad as that is all a matter of opinon.

The real question is did you want to do this? Because if the answer is yes, then dont regret something you wanted to do. Just be careful. And if it's no, well then next time say "hey ya know I think I wanna slow things down a little, hope thats okay." And if hes worth your time he will go along with what you are comfortable with.

Everyone goes at there own pace, whether that be faster or slower. Its all up to you and your comfort.

As always, if you end up going farther please use protection!!
<3

[Aletheia*]

I agree.

I can't say that it's bad or it isn't. It's all a matter of opinion, YOURS counting the most. Not ours. Did you want this to occur? Were you comfortable with it? Kissing isn't a bad thing. It's just kissing. But, foreplay is a bit more intimate, and I'm guessing you weren't ready for it considering you regretted it.

There is something else you should consider: since YOU did make this move a little quickly, he might just think your interested in sex AND sex only. Not in a serious relationship.

[Skeleton]

I agree with the others, there is no right or wrong in this situation, it's down to you and what speed you want to take things at. If you want them to slow down then you should tell the guy that, if you're okay with the speed things are going at then carry on, just make sure that it's what you want at the time, don't feel like you have to go along with it because the guy you're with wants to.

[Ambermonique]

I don't think it's such a big deal, really.
If you want anything serious with a guy, then I'd rather take it slow.
But if you want to have fun, and this guy means nothing to you than just a hook up. Go for it!

[Madeleine.Claire]

Everyone else pretty much said it.
You decide whether or not it was too fast.
I know people that let guys do things like that all the time like it's no big deal.
I'm not that way but everyone is different.
Just don't do anything you're no comfortable with.
<3

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

It's personal preference. If you were comfortable with it all, then there's nothing wrong with it.

[TheCrowing]

Although some people may find fault in this.. at the end of the day, it's your feelings that matter, not theirs.

[pursuit-of-happiness]

at first i considered him just a hook up so why not but for some reason i feel a lot of chemistry with him now after experiencing all that...its weird because i didn't think i would be into him like that but i can feel sparks as soon as he kisses me.
thoughts...?

[vivid2012]

Originally Posted by remembering_sunday

It's personal preference. If you were comfortable with it all, then there's nothing wrong with it.

yup, might be nothing wrong with it.

[justfallinginlove]

Yeah, thats most likely the chemical reaction we as humans experience after experiencing a sexual moment with someone. If I remember correctly the chemical is called Oxytocin. It basically is a chemical/hormone that causes you to feel an emotional attachment to the person you were in a sexual situation with.

Then again I could be wrong and it may just have made u realize that you do really like him. My ex told me that when we kissed (like for real makeout) the first time was when he knew he was in love with me. So it could go either way.

You could always talk to him, communication is a beautiful thing. <3

[Le bonheur*]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. And I agree with Ash, when you get physical with someone chemicals are released and you could feel a connection. Some do, some don't. Talk to him about it, see if he felt it too. :]

[Ambiance]

It seems to me like neither of you really specified what you were interested in, you definately kind of maybe want to date him now, but you don't know where he stands. You've got to find out where he stands in order to figure out where to go from here; don't let him give you a "sorta kinda" answer, either, because I see this happen far too often: the boy gives the girl some kind of hope for romance, they continue hooking up, and he keeps stringing her along with empty promises.

As far as I've seen, emotion-less hook-ups never boil down to that little for both parties. See if he felt the same way; if he does, I would suggest a lot of romantic making out for a while, and nothing more. If a real relationship/connection developes, have fun with the other stuff.

[HeartofanAngel]

If you were comfortable and loved the experience, then theres nothing to regret. hehe Just make sure you take the proper precautions if you go any further and most of all, enjoy yourself!

Don't feel bad about having fun because you got swept up in the moment. Those moments are usually the best ones.

[lyinginside]

once yo go a club girls will be doing a lot more before even talking to the guy. so this is not bad. if it felt right it felt right. aslong as your comfortable then it's fine

[Heartlines.]

Whether it's bad or good really depends on what you think and feel about it. If it were me, I wouldn't want to have random hookups. I'm the type of person who likes relationships.. hooking up is just not who I am at all. But if you're content with that, then it's okay for you. And that's all that should count. But if you are going to be doing things like this on a regular basis, then I suggest birth control. Birth control is a good way to ensure you don't get pregnant. While it won't be 100% effective, it's better than no protection at all. That said, make sure you're emotionally able to handle this. Is it possible you could be craving something other than sex that you fulfill with sex?

As far as this guy goes, tell him you're interested in him. He may only be into you to the extent of only being physically attracted to you. If you feel sparks, he might of felt them as well. I would talk to him. Get to know him.