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Exclamation Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 6th 2011, 04:12 AM

Okay so I'm new to thie site but I'm hoping you all can help me out.

My boyfriend and I have been dating a while and have agreed to save our virginity until we get married, we've recently started dry humping (with all our clothes on) and he's asked if I wouldn't mind being on the bottom all the time, I told him yes cause I know how much he likes the top but now I'm hardly getting any pleasure from it any tips that can help me be able to get a lot of pleasure and still be on the bottom??
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 6th 2011, 04:34 AM

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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 6th 2011, 07:18 AM

Do you guys touch intimately at all? If yes or if you're ready for that, that is always a turn on. But only if you're ready for that.
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 6th 2011, 02:32 PM

Anything affectionate or sexual is a two-way street. It should be as good for you as for him. I think you should insist that you get your turn any way you want it, on top or any other way.

Since you've already gotten into some of the things you can do to exchange sexual affection without losing your virginities, I suggest you get some clothes off and try being on top so you can apply some pressure to the shaft his penis with your vulva, and if you do it near the tip he will get a lot of feeling from it also. If you feel embarrassed remember this is the man you'll marry and have kids with so you have nothing to hide from each other. If you want to try giving each other sexual affection with hands or mouth there's nothing wrong with that, either.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 6th 2011, 03:43 PM

Take your clothes off and straddle him, its fun! And its innocent! I usually climb on top and rub the tip of his on me, I still have my virginity! Nothing wrong with you and your eventual husband having some fun!
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 6th 2011, 06:05 PM

Hey there! First off, Welcome to TH!

My ex and I used to enjoy this You can defiantly get pleasure from being on the bottom. What your boyfriend is probably doing is he is rubbing against your pelvic area versus actually hitting ur vaginal region. Literally just tell him where he should be aiming, for lack of a better word.
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 7th 2011, 02:39 AM

Thank you all for your help, I'll fur sure be using this advice as much as I can.
I got him to ejaculate today so I'm hoping the next major turn on will be me
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 7th 2011, 03:02 AM

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Hey there! First off, Welcome to TH!

My ex and I used to enjoy this You can defiantly get pleasure from being on the bottom. What your boyfriend is probably doing is he is rubbing against your pelvic area versus actually hitting ur vaginal region. Literally just tell him where he should be aiming, for lack of a better word.
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What do u think would be the like nicest way to say it? I don't want to sound demanding and I don't want him to think that he's never pleasured me
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 7th 2011, 03:20 AM

Honestly, there is nothing wrong with telling a guy what you want him to do. Giving directions doesn't have to sound demanding. If you want to set it up before hand, you can say something like, "Hey, I really enjoy doing this with you; I have a lot of fun doing it. But I want to try something different next time. When we do it in the future, I may ask you to do things a little differently, just to shake it up and see if we can both get even more enjoyment out of it than we already are."

That's a very non-threatening way to bring up the subject. He doesn't feel like he's being told he does a "bad job" when you guys mess around, and you can be able to direct him in a way that feels comfortable to you. It's perfectly okay to tell him things like, "move down just a little to the right," or "press harder right there;" there is nothing bad about asking for what you want, because you're in this for your pleasure, too, not just his.

Hopefully your boyfriend will be open and receptive to doing this a little bit differently. Remember that the key to a good physical relationship is openness and communication, so it's vital to be able to talk about these things. Hopefully you and your boyfriend can create a safe environment in which to explore your attraction towards one another in a way that is mutually pleasurable to you both.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 7th 2011, 04:45 AM

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What do u think would be the like nicest way to say it? I don't want to sound demanding and I don't want him to think that he's never pleasured me
If you're on the bottom, grab his hips and move him to where you want him and like it feels best for you. Be assertive.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 7th 2011, 08:56 AM

Or just tell him exactly where to do it. He won't feel threatened, part of sexual things is getting your partner off, and he will enjoy it more when he does get you off.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 7th 2011, 07:16 PM

Dont be shy! Show him and guide him to where it feels good.
If you are comfortable with it, take some clothes off. You dont have to be completely naked just whatever you feel happy with.
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 8th 2011, 01:43 AM

Thank you all for the continued advice! I'll have the opportunity to use it this coming Wednesday or friday
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 8th 2011, 08:53 PM

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This. I completely agree.

Also, what I did, and would do again, is too literally take their hand and place it where u want him to be rubbing against. As long as your comfortable of course.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 9th 2011, 03:14 AM

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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 9th 2011, 03:25 AM

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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 9th 2011, 10:33 AM

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Take your clothes off and straddle him, its fun! And its innocent! I usually climb on top and rub the tip of his on me, I still have my virginity! Nothing wrong with you and your eventual husband having some fun!
I wouldn't say that it's completely innocent...

Also, you may still become pregnant by rubbing yourself on his penis without protection, not to mention you could get an STD - all without losing your virginity...


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 11th 2011, 02:10 AM

The first time me and my ex did this.. we both took our pants off and left our underwear on? lol that could help a little.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 14th 2011, 02:49 AM

Well, we had another go at it today, I used some of the more innocent advice and had one of the best experiences!! however he decided later on that we were only thinking about DH so he wants to stop. WTF lol
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 14th 2011, 03:31 AM

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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 14th 2011, 03:40 AM

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I have no clue what you mean by DH.
DH = Dry Humping (don't worry, took me a sec to figure it out too! hahaha)
In other words... rather than them just thinking about sex they started to only thing about dry humping.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 14th 2011, 04:19 AM

How come he wants to stop? It's safe with clothes on. Without clothes, it is sort of risky, but just make sure privates are as far away as possible without avoiding pleasure. However, with clothes on, it can be very pleasurable and safe. My boyfriend and I did mostly this until we began to have sex two years into our relationship. We just wanted to take things slow! Are you only abstaining from vaginal intercourse, and still willing to do hand/oral, or is it all off limits?



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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 14th 2011, 09:27 PM

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How come he wants to stop? It's safe with clothes on. Without clothes, it is sort of risky, but just make sure privates are as far away as possible without avoiding pleasure. However, with clothes on, it can be very pleasurable and safe. My boyfriend and I did mostly this until we began to have sex two years into our relationship. We just wanted to take things slow! Are you only abstaining from vaginal intercourse, and still willing to do hand/oral, or is it all off limits?
Well we haven't discussed hand/oral all that much so I Don't even know if it's off limits but he wanted to stop because he was afraid that's all we would do all the time and we'd stop just loving each other for who we are. Today he wrote and said he had been stupid when he said that and that we could still do dry humping. I'd like to actually discuss it in person with him to figure out what's rly going on.
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 15th 2011, 08:50 PM

Discussing it in person defiantly sounds like a good idea! Maybe you all can figure out what boundaries to keep and find a comfy little compromise. Keep us posted


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 16th 2011, 07:08 AM

He's just a little uncertain what you're feelings are about it, and how he feels about it too, so talking about it is definitely in order. There's no reason that some sex play can't be part of a loving relationship just so it doesn't take the place of everything else. An orgasm is a powerful conditioning experience and having them with one you love brings you closer together. DH is fun to do, but let it lead to some other things which bring you closer together but don't necessarily have the overt sexual content, such as exchanging massages in your underwear, or showering together to give yourselves the chance to touch and see each all over. These are experiences that are normal and are the natural progression of intimate relationships.


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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 22nd 2011, 05:06 AM

Well guys, with all we've discuss and the advice I was givin me and my bf just had the most amazing week!! Tonight and Friday night were the most intense and orgasms took place lol! We've talked about boundaries and we've decided DH can stay as well as giving hand w/clothes on. He's not quite ready to start taking things off yet but were only growing more and more in love
   
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Re: Dry humping-more pleasure? - November 22nd 2011, 08:15 AM

That's wonderful! Communication is the key to any relationship, particularly when sexual feelings become involved. This is great news, congrats!



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