the urge... D:

[kiwi_fish_bunny]

okay so recently i've been having the urge, you know the one, to finally go and have sex, lose my V plates :P

its kinda horrible, its not my mind wanting it but more my body, my insides have been kinda like, "i want penis" (okay weird way of putting it, but i find this weird to say anyway so may aswell have fun :P )

so ive been masturbating, but cant get that orgasmic experience, i feel like my body is going to explode if i dont get any (does anyone else get this?)

but the bad thing is im in a kinda relationship online ... and cant cheat, half wondering if i can see if it can be an open relationship, and have a fuck buddy? have anyone done this? any advise do's r donts

/ how bad does it hurt first time girls?

[Jennyjenn1]

Don't do anything you going to regret. We all have urges and yes thats how it feels sometimes its natural instinct to just want to do it sometimes..

I'd keep practicing masturbation you will get there. Just relax and enjoy yourself. Don't add any pressure that will only make it harder.

I just think since your a virgin doing it with someone your not in a relationship with you might regret it.

As for pain everyone is different.. depends on his size how slow he goes how arroused you are.. and if your used to any penetration in advance from masturbation.

[shoesandglitter]

I know how you feel, I had a stage in my life before any boyfriends when I felt the same way, I felt like a ticking time-bomb.... But I didn't let myself make any rushed decisions, I waited, and it was worth it. First time is too special to just throw it away for a fuck buddy that you don't have any real feelings for... You'll have plenty of time in your life to have sex so don't rush it. As for pain, it was really painful for me, so it felt good knowing I was with someone I could trust.... But I'm sure you'll be okay... You just need the right person. x

[PlayingPretend]

I also want to suggest experimenting with your body a little bit more. It sounds like you're expecting some orgasmic experience from sex that you can't get with masturbation when a lot of the time (though I won't say all), people who don't masturbate have more difficulty during sex/acting sexually because they haven't experienced or experimented with what works and what doesn't.

[AmazonQueen]

I know it's hard but you just need to hang in there. Losing your virginity to a fuck buddy could be something you regret and also he may become someone you form an emotional bond with which might just further complicate your relationship with your boyfriend

[Aletheia*]

I agree with the others. Losing it to just anyone could be something you end up regretting later on down the line. Trust me: There is no rush to lose the V cards. In my opinion, sex is always best when you save it for someone who's worth it. Not just some random person, or just someone looking for sex (such as a sex buddy).

This is your decision of course, but those urges are just something you'll have to deal with for the rest of your life. Hormones don't go away, but the urges will calm down with time as you grow and mature. There is still no rush to lose your V card though. Just make sure in whatever situation you choose that you protect yourself against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases and infections.