Um... how do I make sex better?

[Ambiance]

I'm with my boyfriend of two years, and we just recently decided to have sex. We've done it about five times now, so it's reached that point for me where like... it doesn't hurt, and actually feels good xD He's pretty well-endowed and everything, but I just don't think he feels very confident?

Basically, I'm really kinky. I like being dominated, and he likes that I'm into that and says he is too, but he's always concerned about offending me. I've tried talking to him about a fair number of times now... and he says he knows that it's a silly fear when we've discussed it and everything. I just recently got him to get more into dirty talk. I hate to sound... idk, weird, but just doing sexual things with no roughness just isn't the epitome of satisfaction for me.

We both want to try new things, but I pretty much want him to take control and he doesn't know what to do... help?

[Aletheia*]

Why don't you try dominating him first? If you take the initiative to be more dominate first, he might catch on and want to participate in it as well.

If this, however, doesn't work I'd try speaking to him about it again. Explain that if he were to give it a try more often, you wouldn't be offended by anything he does (as long as it's within reason, of course). Obviously, this would be because you want him to participate in more dominate things in the bedroom. Make sure he's comfortable with it, as that might be why he's less willing to participate in it.