Im so confused.

[Elrosea Elric]

Well, my relationship is currently complacated.
Anyway,im 14 and he's 15 almost 16, and I really actually want to hae sex with him because I love him that much. I,honestly have no idea what to do.

[Aletheia*]

If you want to take the next step, your best bet would be to communicate this with him. Communication is #1, and it's best to talk something like this over before you jump into it. Sex can end up being something you regret if you jump in before you're ready, so talking it over will definitely be best.

[blumemusik♫]

Hey
As long as you want to have sex with him because you love him, and he isn't pressuring you into it, then I'd say go ahead.

You need to communicate with him. Communication, as Shannon said, is the most important thing in any relationship. So talk to him about taking your relationship to the next level.

There are also other things you need to consider:

a) Contraception. Being 14 years old and pregnant isn't the best thing, and whilst some people can make it work, it's probably not ideal. So either get on the Pill, or make sure you have condoms ready. Other forms of contraception can be found here. Unless you're both virgins, I'd reccommend getting a sexual health screening and/or using condoms to prevent the spread of STIs/STDs.

b) Is it legal? Depending on where you're from, your boyfriend could get into trouble for sleeping with a minor. Information on the age of consent in different areas can be found here. Obviously, nobody's going to stop you, but there could be consequences for him in the future.

c) Where and when. Obviously you don't want to plan it too perfectly, because being on the spur of the moment is a bit more exciting. But make sure you're in a place where you're not going to be disturbed, and that it's not your time of the month, because that can be a bit messy If it's your first time, make sure to do plenty of foreplay, and don't be afraid, because tensing up can make it worse. Also make sure you set boundaries before you start, so that he doesn't start doing things you don't want to do. If you start getting uncomfortable (although a little discomfort is to be expected) then don't be worried about saying stop. He has to stop if you ask him to, or it can be considered rape.

Good luck, and stay safe!!<3

[Elrosea Elric]

thank you all, I hinted him and he got it