Help! Do I wait or just do it

[cuttergirl17]

I am 17 and still a virgin. I have really been wanting to have sex lately but idk if I should just do it with anyone. I don't have a bf but I have certain friends who have offered. Should I be waiting or do I just do it? The other thing is I have a bf even though were on break but its long distance n we won't be ale to have sex for years so idk what o do. Plz help!

[Coexist.]

Hey Amanda,
I lost my virginity at 17, almost 18 years old. You are not abnormal, and you do not have to rush the process. Lose your virginity to somebody you really like, really trust, and not just a friend that you put up with. And esepcially don't cheat on your boyfriend long distance, although you are taking a break, you still care about him if you were to stay in the relationship, and trust me, long distance sex is the best. It's great to be able to rekindle with an old love. So my recommendation is to wait. It's your life, but I don't think it's necessary to lose it this soon.

[Cataclysmic]

Hi there,

While it is not abnormal to want to have sex at this age, I agree with Traci that you shouldn't rush it along. You would be cheating on your boyfriend, and it's not a good idea to lose your virginity to just anyone, whether they are your friends or not. Your first time should be with someone you love and care about very much, such as your boyfriend, and not just a friend. You still have the rest of your life ahead of you to lose your virginity to someone you care about.

-Dez

[Harmony♥]

Nobody can tell you yes or no. This decision is entirely up to you. In my personal opinion, sex is better with someone you're in a relationship with. Sex with random people, or friends, could lead to an awkward phase in your friendship, which could ultimately end the friendship. Or, you may end up regretting the fact that you didn't wait for the right person.

[TheBabyEater]

If you have to ask, you're not ready to have sex.

[Silhouette]

I have to agree with Marissa.
This is your own decision, and you have to think about whether you will regret it later or not. Sex isn't something to just 'get over with' or anything, its something special between two people. I personally think its best to wait until its with someone you love, but if you want to do it with a friend then there's nothing stopping you.
But you are only 17, and as said already you aren't abnormal. Many people don't loose their virginity until they are even a few years older than you.

[lorilou]

I'm 19 and have had the opportunity many times to lose my virginity with various people, but it never felt right. As cliche as it sounds, you will know when the time is right, and when you're with the right person. I am so glad I waited to be with my boyfriend now, it was super special. But honestly, it's up to you, I wouldn't advise going out and just getting it over with, although I know I felt like that too. Make it special, you only lose it once

[LiveLongAndProsper]

It's perfectly normal to feel like this at your age, and feel desperate to have sex, but it's also perfectly normal to still be a virgin at your age and wait even a few years before you lose it.

In the end, only you can make the decision, but in my opinion it's better to lose your virginity to someone who you are in a relationship with because they really care about you and your well being and losing your virginity can be a big thing for some people.

Also, even though you and your boyfriend are on a break, if you did start being properly in a relationship with him in the future, how would he feel knowing that you'd lost your virginity while you were on a break? Do you still count each other as boyfriend and girlfriend?

All things for you to think about, but ultimately it's your decision, your body, and your virginity.

[Colors Leave Me Blind]

Just because you are 17 doesn't mean thats too late to lose your virginity. Your virginity is something special that you shouldn't just give away to anyone. You should wait until someone your truly love comes along and it just happens.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I lost my virginity at 17 & honestly could have waited longer than that. There is no rush. Just be sure that you are ready when it happens.

[messyjessy]

Are you going to be happy if you just do it with a "buddy"? Don't let peer pressure change your views, do what's right for you. So many teens start having sex early, (like, under 16!) but most adults would probably say they wish they'd waited a bit. My 20 year old friend is still a virgin, and pushed all of pressure of society aside and decided to wait for the right person. But like everyone else has been saying, you're not abnormal for wanting to have sex.

[Chris.]

I agree with everyone here and they all made (around) the same point. We all do it at different times, and there really is no rush or pressure to do it. Of course we have hormones, and of course we want to release them but there are other ways of doing that besides sex.

I think that you should take some time and think about it. I personally would have wishes I waited, but I also felt pressured since others we doing it. Do it on your own time, and when you want to. You can choose to do it with someone special (a boyfriend//husband/ best friend), or with just someone who is a simple friend (or stranger).



Best wishes,
Chris

[Bella xx]

If you have to ask strangers if you should do it with a friend or not, then you probably shouldn't. In my opinon sex should be shared between two people who love eachother. So just sit tight and wait for guy who you actually love before you lose your virginity.

[Paix et Amour]

i think the age shouldnt matter (unless you are either like too young, 10 or something, or really old like 40 and havent, then you need to get laid lmao!) just wait until you find someone you love and just let it happen when the time is right

[Whisperingwillow]

I've been wondering if I should take that step with my boyfriend, when or if the question arises. And reading some of the responses has really helped me. I'd say do what feels right, when it feels right.

[apple_123]

There are plenty of people who havent lost their virginity who are even older than you, and i recently lost mine at age 18 and it was the best day of my life with the boy i am so in love with, not awkward, just perfect. and i think that you should wait for someone you love because its a great feeling to have no regrets!
Goodluck in whatever you do

[DeadlySin]

I tried to lose mine when I was 16, 17, and 18. After trying and failed I realised it just wasn't meant to happen. Then spur of the moment when I stopped caring about being a virgin I lost it when I was 19. So it's your choice. I just wouldn't suggest rushing it or planning it. Just let it happen when it's supposed to happen. =) Since quite a few people regret it when they just run off and lose it. But like I said, it's totally up to you.

[ANBUxAssassin]

I don't know if you had sex you not but like most people post i agree with the wait before you have sex im 21 and still a virgin im also the second eldest child my mom has my brother he 22 and married now but he had sex when he was young and it took control of him and when he got engaged the 1st time the girl/lady he was with got knocked up and he put so much stress on her she miss carried all because my older bro had sex and became a male dog in heat and my sis is 20 she also had sex but when she had my guess she did not care and now she has a 1 or 2yr old im a bad uncle/brother/son i don't know any one in my family bday but you need to think if you have sex now what will change nothing really but you will wish you have never done it because once its gone it's never coming back I want sex but i don't want it with any i just want it with the person I will merry that how i want my first time but think before you have sex because once you have sex you will then start to compare every person you had sex to the next and if that person had sex with 3 people then that can mean you also had sex 7 or more people depending on how many people that person slept with and what he/she got from that person

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