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Question Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 4th 2012, 03:56 PM

For all of you, when and how much is too much too soon?
   
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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 4th 2012, 04:14 PM

It all depends on how strong my feelings are for the person I'm with. Everyone goes at a different speed, it's about what's most comfortable to them. For me, I usually have a 1 month before nudity, 2-3 months before sex waiting period. That way I've had time to really get to know the person and I'm sure about wanting to become sexual. However, with my current boyfriend we entered into a sexual relationship very quickly because we were very close for 2 years before dating, and we'd both had strong feelings for each other for a very long time beforehand.

For me, too much too soon is when a guy wants to do something before I'm ready and he pushes the issue. If a guy tries to pressure me into something I don't want, he's either going to have a longer waiting period, or if he keeps up he'll end up single. I can't stand pushy guys who just can't wait to get in your pants.


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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 4th 2012, 07:56 PM

Everyone is different. It depends entirely on the people involved and how they feel about each other.


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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 4th 2012, 09:00 PM

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Everyone is different. It depends entirely on the people involved and how they feel about each other.
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Now personally, when I was a virgin, I dated my first boyfriend like 9-10 months before we had sex. With my last boyfriend, we only waited a few weeks. I think I probably would wait around the same time depending on the guy & his experience as well.
   
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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 4th 2012, 11:33 PM

Depends on the couple, how long you've been together, how old you are, and lots of other factors.


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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 4th 2012, 11:46 PM

I wait a few months.
   
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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 5th 2012, 05:13 AM

It really depends, but I tend to go fast if there's a really good connection. Usually within a few weeks.

But it's going to be different for you than it would be for anyone else. So do things at your own pace.


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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 5th 2012, 06:09 AM

For me, it honestly depends on the person. When I was a virigin, I was with my boyfriend for 7 months before we had sex for the first time. But I've also dated a guy and we had sex within a few weeks of dating. You'll know when it's right, you'll feel it.




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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 5th 2012, 07:19 AM

Wait at least 3 months. That's how long I waited with my girlfriend. I kind of regret it. I wish I waited much longer. I wish I waited at least till 6 months. We were both virgins and now we're sex crazy. It sucks, I feel like I'm getting addicted.. Don't go all crazy too because than you'll end up like me and dying for sex all the time. All I can think about now... Guess that's my fault though.
   
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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 5th 2012, 01:16 PM

Depends on the comfort level etc. Some guys I wait months, some it just happens within the week. There really is no right or wrong time.


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Re: Out of pure and simple curiosity... - March 5th 2012, 03:11 PM

For me, it was all about the comfort level. When I was a virgin, I waited two months to sleep with the person I lost it too. With my current boyfriend, I waited two weeks. I knew my current boyfriend for a few years before we started dating, so I was comfortable with him to begin with. With my ex, I had only just met him that year, so it took me a while to learn to trust.











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