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Question TTC - June 10th 2016, 09:40 PM

So, my fiance and I are trying to conceive and have been for about three months. It's so frustrating. Every month I can't wait until my period's due in hopes of it not coming, but then when I get my period, my fiance and I are so disappointing. Is there anything we can do to make it less disappointing? Or anything that could help move the process along a little quicker? We want a baby so badly, but it's starting to feel like it'll never happen. I know we need to be patient, but every month it's so disappointing when I'm not pregnant. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but my period is due, and all I can hope for is that it doesn't show up, but I'm also so scared that it will come and that it'll be just another disappointment.


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Re: TTC - June 10th 2016, 11:43 PM

Hey there,

I don't know what you can do to stop being disappointed. Maybe doing something to help distract yourself if you end up getting your period will help make the disappointment not be as strong. But, in general, I think the disappointment is normal when you really want a baby.

Something that you can do to move the process along is to track your ovulation. There's only a short amount of time when you ovulate. So, if you have a better idea of when that is you and your husband can have sex then and it should increase your chances.

I know there are ovulation tracking kits you can get in the store. They are a bit pricey, I recently saw one for close to $40 but it might be worth it to invest in some.

There are also period tracking/ovulation tracking apps you can get. I had one to track my period and it also tracked my ovulation. I don't know how well that works but maybe you could try that instead of the kit, at least starting out.

Another thing you could do is talk to your gynecologist about this and see if they have any suggestions for you. They might simply suggest tracking your ovulation but they might be able to give you more advice as well.

Lastly, I have never tried to get pregnant so my advice might be off. I got most of my information from looking around and doing some research.

I do hope this helped though and I am wishing you the best of luck.


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Re: TTC - June 11th 2016, 01:03 AM

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Hey there,

I don't know what you can do to stop being disappointed. Maybe doing something to help distract yourself if you end up getting your period will help make the disappointment not be as strong. But, in general, I think the disappointment is normal when you really want a baby.

Something that you can do to move the process along is to track your ovulation. There's only a short amount of time when you ovulate. So, if you have a better idea of when that is you and your husband can have sex then and it should increase your chances.

I know there are ovulation tracking kits you can get in the store. They are a bit pricey, I recently saw one for close to $40 but it might be worth it to invest in some.

There are also period tracking/ovulation tracking apps you can get. I had one to track my period and it also tracked my ovulation. I don't know how well that works but maybe you could try that instead of the kit, at least starting out.

Another thing you could do is talk to your gynecologist about this and see if they have any suggestions for you. They might simply suggest tracking your ovulation but they might be able to give you more advice as well.

Lastly, I have never tried to get pregnant so my advice might be off. I got most of my information from looking around and doing some research.

I do hope this helped though and I am wishing you the best of luck.
We have been tracking my ovulation, but my gynecologist is not supportive at all. The only thing she was willing to recommend was birth control, and I told her that my fiance and I were TTC, but she seemed determined not to give any advice on the process. I got the feeling that she had a major problem with me TTC, being that I'm diabetic and do have mental illnesses. I felt like she was trying to convince me not to have a baby and she was very pressuring about me going on BC. I'm not sure what to do because I'm only allowed one practitioner change per year on my insurance and I already changed my primary care so I don't think they'll allow me to change my OB/GYN.


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Re: TTC - June 11th 2016, 01:48 AM

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We have been tracking my ovulation, but my gynecologist is not supportive at all. The only thing she was willing to recommend was birth control, and I told her that my fiance and I were TTC, but she seemed determined not to give any advice on the process. I got the feeling that she had a major problem with me TTC, being that I'm diabetic and do have mental illnesses. I felt like she was trying to convince me not to have a baby and she was very pressuring about me going on BC. I'm not sure what to do because I'm only allowed one practitioner change per year on my insurance and I already changed my primary care so I don't think they'll allow me to change my OB/GYN.
What's TTC?

I suggest that you look into changing. Call your insurance and see if you can change. Maybe because it's a specialist they'll let you?

If you can't change I suggest you change at the beginning of the new year. Even if you get pregnant.

If you are tracking your ovulation then I don't know if there is much else you can do. Maybe do some research online and see what you can come up with.

Sorry I can't be helpful. I've never dealt with this. My gynecologist has been nothing but supportive and has encouraged me to get pregnant when I'm ready despite my mental illness.


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Re: TTC - June 11th 2016, 02:00 AM

TTC is trying to conceive. And I highly recommend that you switch OBs, you want someone supportive working with your during your pregnancy.

Do you have any ovulation tracking apps on your phone? I personally like Ovia. I would also suggest that you start taking prenatal vitamins. You can buy them over the counter at any grocery store or pharmacy. It is recommend that you start taking them before you get pregnant, hence prenatal.




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Re: TTC - June 11th 2016, 03:49 AM

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TTC is trying to conceive. And I highly recommend that you switch OBs, you want someone supportive working with your during your pregnancy.

Do you have any ovulation tracking apps on your phone? I personally like Ovia. I would also suggest that you start taking prenatal vitamins. You can buy them over the counter at any grocery store or pharmacy. It is recommend that you start taking them before you get pregnant, hence prenatal.
I do use Ovia, and I love the fact that it not only tracks my periods but just about everything else also. It'll probably be a fight, they're already being jerks over me wanting a second opinion on my wrist injury. I also live in the middle of nowhere, which makes it quite difficult to find quality doctors of any kind within an hour and a half of home, plus the fact that my insurance doesn't like to cover practitioners outside of one's home county. I love living in the country, but I really wish we had better local doctors. It's so frustrating, between getting my period every month and not having a supportive doctor, it just drives me crazy.


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Re: TTC - June 11th 2016, 06:15 AM

I don't think you're Doctor is as against you having a baby because of your diabetes as she probably is because of your age. She probably just thinks that you're not thinking straight saying that you want to get pregnant at 18 with your fiancé. Some people are like that. The best option would probably to find a new doctor but you might not be able to.
   
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Re: TTC - June 12th 2016, 10:17 PM

Are you going to an OB or a family doctor? Why would an OB care if you had a second opinion about your wrist injury? After all, they are not general practitioners or orthopedic specialists and an OB treating a wrist injury is inappropriate.


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Re: TTC - June 15th 2016, 08:44 PM

Actually I can understand why your doctor would have concerns about you getting pregnant if you have diabetes. I have 2 friends with diabetes and because of the nature of their diabetes, they could actually die if they got pregnant. This risk has been confirmed by a doctor. But depending on the situation, I can understand why your doctor might suggest not becoming pregnant. I'm not sure what your diabetes is like though.

In terms of switching doctors, I'll leave that to the Americans here because your system is so different than in my country.

3 months also isn't that long for trying to conceive. Like 80% of couples conceive in a year, and I know many people who had to try for almost that long to get pregnant. I'd just keep trying, I know it's disappointing though. Maybe if/when it's getting close to a year you can start looking at reasons why not.




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Re: TTC - June 21st 2016, 03:20 PM

My period is now over a week late, but I've had 4 negative pregnancy tests. I'm really starting to worry because if I'm not pregnant, something could be very wrong with my reproductive health. So, I'm starting to freak out a little. My periods have always been extremely regular, other than around the time of my rape, so this is strange, to say the least. I really can't afford to be taking pregnancy test after pregnancy test.


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Re: TTC - June 22nd 2016, 12:06 AM

There are a number of reasons why your period could be late. It doesn't automatically mean there is something wrong with your reproductive health. Stress and sickness and a few other things can cause it to be late or not come at all.

I have relatively regular periods and a few years ago I completely missed a period. It wasn't a pregnancy issue and the only thing I can contribute it too is that I was dealing with a lot of stress.

If you don't get your period this month and your pregnancy tests are coming up negative try not to stress. If you are concerned you will be stressing all month you could schedule an appointment with your doctor or call their office and express your concern. They should be able to help you figure out what steps to take.

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Re: TTC - June 22nd 2016, 04:03 PM

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There are a number of reasons why your period could be late. It doesn't automatically mean there is something wrong with your reproductive health. Stress and sickness and a few other things can cause it to be late or not come at all.

I have relatively regular periods and a few years ago I completely missed a period. It wasn't a pregnancy issue and the only thing I can contribute it too is that I was dealing with a lot of stress.

If you don't get your period this month and your pregnancy tests are coming up negative try not to stress. If you are concerned you will be stressing all month you could schedule an appointment with your doctor or call their office and express your concern. They should be able to help you figure out what steps to take.

Best of luck.
I don't think it is a health issue, as I've not had any health issues lately. Also, I haven't had any extra stress lately, just the usual stress level.


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