terrified

[Oneirophobia♥]

I'm terrified to have an early miscarriage I am only about 6 weeks coming on to.
I've done the regular blood work to make sure my levels are rising I know I am pregnant, but I'm high risk because of my little angel stillborn.

All the doctor did was send me for that blood work, and I havent heard back from him, i only did it thursday, idk if he plans to call me when he gets it back or not.
but I am so terrified

[Nonoka]

In my experience they only call you about your blood work if they found something bad. If you get no call it's usually safe to say everything is fine in that area. If your really curious though you should be able to call them and ask about it. I hope that this pregnancy goes well for you.

[del677]

Congratulations on being pregnant!

This is one of the most difficult things to teach and learn. I'll give it a shot here, because I'd like it to go well for you. It's getting late but I'll do my best.

Thank you for reaching out. That's a really good thing to do. I understand you are terrified of having a miscarriage.

OK, here's the thing, and it's kind of a Catch 22 (I'm not sure what a Catch 22 is), the thing is, — being terrified of having a miscarriage, is probably, increasing your chances of having a miscarriage.

That is, the anxiety, all that anxiety, it's activating your body's Sympathetic Nervous System, flooding your body with "fight or flight" hormones which aren't good for your baby.

So, fortunately, there are many things you can do to deactivate your body's "fight or flight" Sympathetic Nervous System, get you out of this terrified anxious state, and into a less worried more relaxed state, where we purposely activate the body's other opposite state, the "Rest Digest Restore" state, the Parasympathetic Nervous System.

You need to consciously do this, because it's good for your body and good for your baby, which in turn helps reduce the chances of a miscarriage.

Here, now, at this point, I just start listing a whole bunch of things you can try, and really it's up to you to figure out which ones work for you. These are a bunch of "tricks" or "tools", or whatever you want to call them, which other people have found to be useful. Not all tools work for all people

1. Stop thinking about miscarriages.
Known as "distraction" or "redirection". Get your mind thinking about something else. Anything. Do a crossword puzzle. Sudoku. Watch a movie. Go out with friends. Go out to the park, the beach, go do something, anything. Read a book. Watch kitty videos on YouTube. The less you think about miscarriages the better.

2. Lite exercise.
Helps keep depression away. (Ask your doctor. I don't know how much exercise pregnant women are supposed to get!)

3. Yoga. Tai-Chi. Qi-Gong.
Meditative motion exercises.

4. Mindfulness Meditation
Learn the art of doing nothing and enjoying it.
Try the "Headspace" app. View the videos that begin the first and third 10 minute introductory meditations.

5. Mindfulness.
Focus on the present moment.
(I think they'll teach you this in childbirth class, if you take childbirth class. It's the art of "Yea I'm pushing a baby through my vagina and it hurts like @#$% but you know if I don't think about it and just kind of allow myself to experience it, it still hurts like @#$%, but at least I'm not thinking about it, I'm just observing it, and noticing it, like, oh, so this is what @#$% feels like. Interesting. No, I don't think I like it. But I can tolerate it."

So if you practice this Mindfulness trick, and Mindfulness Meditation trick, and try the Headspace app, or any guided meditation app, you'll be better prepared for childbirth, and less likely to miscarriage.


(And you can call your doctor's office and ask about the lab test results. I didn't say never think about miscarriage. Just, most of the time, try not to think about it. Best wishes!)

[shirleyperninger]

It's been less than two months so you're possibly pregnant.

[Oneirophobia♥]

I already know I'm pregnant. I've already confirmed that with a doctor. I'm just scared, worried. I know I'm worrying about nothing. There hasn't been any blood so I know I'm not having a miscarriage. I'm just scared I'll have one after what happen to my little boy.

[.Brittany.]

Hey!

I know how stressed out you are in regards to having an early miscarriage. Your doctors are watching you much closely to make sure that nothing happens to this baby. As mentioned above, doctors only usually call if there's something wrong with your blood work.

What you could do is call your doctor and ask them if they got the results and if they did can they tell you what it is. Try and keep positive thoughts going through your head.

Stay Strong,
Brittany

[Oneirophobia♥]

My levels were 4627

[.Brittany.]

Did your Ob give you any information about what the level means?

[Lizzie]

Originally Posted by Oneirophobia♥

My levels were 4627

That's great! Very strong!

I think it's completely normal to be worried. Especially after what you have been through. But remember, it's important to stay calm and relax during this pregnancy. Honor your loss by reminding yourself it's ok to be optimistic about this baby.

Once your regular OB appointments get going, I'm sure you and your doctor can talk about plans to closely monitor this pregnancy. That should also help bring some peace of mind.

[Oneirophobia♥]

No Britt, it was the office that called his receptionist she said that it was a good level, they want to send me for an ultrasound to see how far along I am, but I already have a good idea, as we were trying to get pregnant, so I already know my due date and that I'm 6 weeks along.
Yes Lizzie, I hope it will give me more peace of mind once I start seeing him regularly.

[Oneirophobia♥]

Heartbeat was 169 and everything looked to be okay I'm due the 14 of January. Same day as I gave birth to my stillborn son.