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post abortion, telling my parents - June 3rd 2009, 03:18 AM

i had an abortion last saturday, it was the hardest and most life changing decision i've ever had to make.

i need to tell my parents, but i don't know how. advice?
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Re: post abortion, telling my parents - June 3rd 2009, 05:47 AM

Are they very against abortion?

Just do your best to explain your reasonings for getting the abortion. I don't think there is much else you can do. They'll find out eventually.

I don't know your parents, but I'm sure whatever you do they'll forgive you.
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Re: post abortion, telling my parents - June 3rd 2009, 02:19 PM

This is one of those situations where there is really no easy way of telling them. You just have to come right out and say it. Like Aly said, tell them your reasoning and that you knew you should have told them sooner, but you were scared. Let them know how hard this is for you and that you really just need their support right now.

I'm really sorry you had to go through that, and hopefully you weren't alone... I know abortions are life altering, and it's best to have someone to go through it with.

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Re: post abortion, telling my parents - June 3rd 2009, 03:47 PM

*hugs* Sweety, I know from experience that this will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do...

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Re: post abortion, telling my parents - June 3rd 2009, 05:55 PM

First of all, I'm proud of you that you're willing to tell your parents. You're right - it is a life-altering experience. Telling them isn't going to be easy. I would advise being blunt about it. It will be difficult for them to hear, but the sooner you say it the better.

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Re: post abortion, telling my parents - June 4th 2009, 06:52 PM

as has already been said there really is no easy way to tell them. if it were me i just wouldn't tell my parents, so i admire you for facing up to it and telling them.

if you think one of your parents is less likely to freak out than the other then perhaps tell them first then have them either be with you when you tell the other parent, or get them to tell them for you. similarly you could tell a sibling or other family member and get them to help you tell your parents if you trust them. writing a note would be another option, but i'd tend to favour the face-to-face approach. good luck. :]

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Re: post abortion, telling my parents - June 4th 2009, 07:28 PM

Just say "Mom dad, I hope you still love me, but I had an abortion last Saturday." And cry.

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