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Unhappy Miscarriage - November 7th 2009, 11:32 PM

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I just am going through a miscarriage and it is very hard. I didnt imagine it being this hard and scary. I was 4 months along and i am really upset and have no on to talk to my family isnt really there for me and i feel like its my fault. I hate this pain i cry so much now and just need someone to talk to. Being so young i feel alone.
   
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Re: Miscarriage - November 8th 2009, 12:32 AM

Hey, it's definatly not your fault. A lot of pregnancies just randomly don't go right, and it's not necessarily anything you did... To get technical, most of the time it's just that the chromosomes didn't split right when it was conceived. It's hard to explain without having taken a certain science class that I'm not sure if you've taken yet. But it's all scientificy and such. =P

But trust me when I tell you, most miscarraiges have nothing to do with the mother. My friend just had a miscarriage and she did everything right you could possibly do for a baby... She ate perfect and doesn't drink or smoke... She was the ideal mother, and she still had a miscarriage. And she feels like crap about it too. It's a normal emotion to feel after loosing something so important.

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Re: Miscarriage - November 8th 2009, 01:26 AM

Thanks so much that makes me feel a little better its just hard knowing i lost my baby :/
   
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Re: Miscarriage - November 8th 2009, 02:13 AM

Miscarriages can be hard but its not your fault, they happen for many reasons and although its something that tears your heart out you are still incredibly young and in the future you'll most likely be able to carry to full term. Even though you're grieving I hope you take this as a learning experiance as well to strengthen yourself. Lots of hugs hun.





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Re: Miscarriage - November 14th 2009, 02:03 AM

Im so sorry about the loss of your baby. I know my grandma waaaaaaaay back when she was in her 20s,30s, tried and tried to have children with her husband and she did everything just right for her baby. never smoke,drank, did drugs, did anything that could possibly hurt the baby, nothing. she had 5 MISCARRIAGES in just a few years i think. and everytime they lost one of them they felt like there life was torn right out of them. so she started adopting (not saying your gonna have to adopt when your older it is possibly but who knows) and adopted all of my moms brothers and her.
"this may give you some hope" my grandma YEARS LATER. axcidently got pregnant out of the blue, she was sad bcuz she knew it wud die and didnt know how it wud even make it, but she proceeded with the pregnancy anyway. I now have my uncle Sid, who was a toatal miracle because he actullay lived threw the whole intire 9 months of the pregnancy, there was no problems, nothing. and thats how my uncle sid was born. it was a pure,pure miracle.

so what im trying to get my point across to you is A LOT OF PREGNANCYS JUST DONT WORK OUT FOR NO APPARENT REASON WITH A LOT OF MOMS, its just something that happens. i know this is hard to hear but mabie it was just meant to be. everything happens for a reason, right?
it really isnt for fault at all, when you think about it they really dont probley and most likely dont exspirience any pain, or suffering or anything when they die in your stomach. they go completly peaceful and its just like going to sleep for them i guess.
they probley wouldnt even really have noticed them dying at all since there only a few months old and arent even born yet. so i wouldnt worry about what the babay went threw if your worried about that.

i think you are a very amazing girl for trying to go threw this whole intire pregnancy,
i know i wud probley no no what to do. idk cuz ive never bene there before but i know i wud certanily be lost. im proud of you bcuz idk how i wud even be able to go threw it all.

One last thing: i know its VERY HARD TO GO THREW LOSING SOMETHING LIKE THIS.
But, mabie writing your feelings down in your journal, talking to really trusted friends,
being good to yourself like, painting your nails, or taking a bubble bath, getting your hair done at the salon or wherever you like to go, invite your friends over for slmber partys, ya know? just whatever you like to do that you think wud help you.
massagues (SP?) are VERY NICE. my mom gets them all the time for her back and everything and she says its very calming emotionally and physically and it really helps her back and neck from her car wreck a few years ago.


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