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Question my nephew(advice much needed) - June 3rd 2010, 03:43 PM

So my sister kelly has gone threw a ton of shit. She had a baby boy 5 years ago and i pretty much raised him. I feel soo depressed and what not when he isn't around (they live 3 hours away) when i see him and spend time with him i feel so much better and my other sister said i have a mother worry or something for him. My nephews parents are divorced and its tough on him. He come to my house when things are pretty crappy. i cant stop thinking about babies and wanting a real one of my own. i have no idea what to do or why i feel the way i do for my nephew. does anyone have any advice

ps i don't have a bf and my parents would not support teenage pregnancy.


[EDIT! when i take him out to places like the park and mall and what not people mistake him for my kid all the time till they hear him call me aunt maggie. it saddens me a lot because idk?]


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 3rd 2010, 03:52 PM

well, be patient! love your nephew, good things come with time.
   
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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 3rd 2010, 05:16 PM

i guess but the pain and emptiness when he isnt there is horrible ugh


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 3rd 2010, 05:19 PM



his name is jake thats me and him ^^^^^ -sighs-


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 3rd 2010, 10:43 PM

It's normal to feel the way you do. He's your flesh and blood and you naturally feel protective of him. It's also natural to want a baby. It's just the way your brain is wired up. You're ready for it, but our society isn't ready for you to be ready for it. You have to have some way to support a child before you can consider having one. If you don't it isn't fair to the child. He or she will have so many more advantages if you have money and a home.


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 5th 2010, 01:58 PM

yea i guess so but i wish i could get rid of the emptiness i feel when jake isnt around


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 5th 2010, 04:09 PM

Love your nephew and put all your time into him, having a baby isn't an easy thing at all. I don't know what I would do without my husband helping me out, I don't think I'd be able to make it through the day... it can be an incredibly amazing thing but it can also be fustrating and emotionally draining.

Give it time, you're still so young... do pregnancy right, find an awsome guy and be finacially secure so you have give your child everything.





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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 7th 2010, 08:19 PM

I'm going to agree with the above posters. Love your nephew, and do what you can for him.
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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 7th 2010, 08:36 PM

Hey Maggie.

I agree with everyone else. There's really not much you can do. It's great that you love your nephew so much, and that he has an aunt that cares so much for him. When he is around, spend as much time with him as you can. But when he isn't, remind yourself that his mother is more than likely taking very good care of him, and that he is being raised well.

To me, it sounds like you want to have a baby for yourself. That's never a good way to go into pregnancy. You're wanting a baby there so it can love you, so that it can fill that emptiness you have. When really, you're supposed to have a baby so that you can love it. The baby doesn't take care of your problems in life; you take care of it's. And often times, having a baby will create even more problems for you. It's really not a good decision to make. You don't have a baby to fill a void, that's never a good idea.

Just give it time, eventually things will work out and you will feel much better.





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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 7th 2010, 10:20 PM

See thats the thing i never know if he is alright because his dad & mom are divorced and he lives 4 days with his dad and 3 with his mom every week and his dad is a druggie and his mom isnt that great either


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 17th 2010, 01:48 PM

-sighs- what gets me upset the most is when people mistake him as my kid in public


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 19th 2010, 06:00 PM

LOL you sound really broody ? im sure a few more years wouldn't hurt? teenage pregnancy is hard!


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Re: my nephew(advice much needed) - June 21st 2010, 12:00 AM

its not that i want a kid cause honestly i dont. but he feels like he is mine. ive practically raised him and i feel shitty and empty when he isnt here and it makes me sad when people say that im a good mom to him when we are out and about in public. ughhh


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